To not tell DH who I was talking to?

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I work shifts. The other night I was driving home in the middle of the night and called one of my friends who I met during training. Same job but she is based in a different part of the county and also have a long journey home. Now and again we catch up during our commute.

The next day DH “presented me with evidence” I’ve been doing something I shouldn’t. He’s managed to link my phone to the iPad (or maybe it already was) and had taken a photo of this particular call. The iPad doesn’t seem to have synced contact names so he just had the number. He wanted to know why I was having 20 minute calls at 2am. I refused to tell him out of principle as I don’t feel he has the right to police my calls nor demand I stop using my phone at night. He slept on the sofa last night and we aren’t currently talking.

Today he’s messaged me at work to ask why I’m not wearing my wedding ring. I took it off last night to make meatballs! He has never behaved like that up until the last few months when paranoid behaviour seems to be creeping in.

AIBU not to indulge this and refuse to tell him who I’m speaking to?

Yes prior to the phone incident I’ve tried to talk to him but he just pretends there’s nothing wrong; he’s asking about photos because he’s interested (even though the tone was accusatory) and on a lunch time if he’s cross it’s because he’s disappointed not to spend that time with me. He says there isn’t a problem.

It sounds like He is jealous ? You’ve got a new career, new friends... working shifts and he isn’t a part of it.
His mind is probably in over drive... I am emergency services and unfortunately lots of relationships don’t survive when one partner is in the job and the other isn’t.not through cheating but lack of understanding from the non job person. Good luck OP

My ex was paranoid that I was cheating on him for our whole 10year+ relationship. He accused me of shagging his cousin, his brother, best mate and of fancying anyone I mentioned from work. He was ridiculously insecure and his alcoholism and not great parenting meant I had no desire to have sex with him which fuelled his paranoia.
I would suggest you nip this in the bud. Show him your phone. Tell him you've got nothing to hide BUT make it very clear you won't be explaining yourself forever more. This stuff kills relationships.
Should also say I'm pretty sure my ex would have jumped at the chance to cheat on me but I'm not sure he ever got the opportunity (aside from in his imagination)

Thanks for all your input everyone

on a lunch time if he’s cross it’s because he’s disappointed not to spend that time with me.

Either he's plain weird or he's lying about his motives.