Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Aibu to panic

28 replies

ThreeHousesNoHouse · 10/08/2018 13:59

We started buying a house in May, we thought it would be done by the summer holidays.

It’s a different town so new schools etc. One hour away outside rush hour.

We are renting here so don’t want to give notice yet. Schools said we would have to have exchanged contracts before getting a place. The seller is being slow with documents and the chain has broken a couple of times. I don’t know what to do.

We can’t afford to rent a new house in the new town and here and have a new mortgage. They are all saying six months rent minimum. I don’t know what to do.

OP posts:
Singlenotsingle · 10/08/2018 14:02

Maybe try Airbnb? Sometimes you can find a whole flat or house...

Funnyface1 · 10/08/2018 14:05

Ring the sellers estate agent, explain the situation and say you'll be forced to pull out of the sale if things don't get moving. Usually works.

Original poster
ThreeHousesNoHouse · 10/08/2018 19:30

The latest problem is that the seller has said the people selling the house he wants to buy are dithering.

The air b n b idea seems to be what we will have to do. But a school will not accept this for a place :-(

Pulling out will not help because then we will have even less chance of exchanging contracts by 1 September.

Dh will be in our rented house as it is closer to his job. Dh and I will be in rented room until we can move in. The difficulty is that we don’t know how long to book and don’t want to be in a position where we have

  1. Our current rental house.
  2. A mortgage
  3. An air bnb booking - even a single room for a month can end up costing us more than our current rent.

We can’t afford to pay these three amounts at the same time :-(.

OP posts:
Original poster
ThreeHousesNoHouse · 10/08/2018 19:31

*Dd in rented room with me.

OP posts:
Caribbeanyesplease · 10/08/2018 19:34

I’m confused

The date to which to apply to school isn’t the 1st September. That’s the beginning of the school year.

It’s between jan and April

PattiStanger · 10/08/2018 19:42

Presumably the DD is already at school and is looking for a transfer - is that right?

You might have to suck up the extra short term cost if you can for the longer term benefit

Original poster
ThreeHousesNoHouse · 10/08/2018 20:15

Dd is at school in town x and will need a school in our new town y.

OP posts:
Original poster
ThreeHousesNoHouse · 10/08/2018 20:16

We tried to apply for a place but we needed proof of address in the cachement area.

OP posts:
RandomMess · 10/08/2018 20:27

You don't move school until you move house Confused

Caribbeanyesplease · 10/08/2018 20:37

How old is dd?

Original poster
ThreeHousesNoHouse · 10/08/2018 20:41

Dd will be moving to senior school.

OP posts:
Original poster
ThreeHousesNoHouse · 10/08/2018 20:42

Random- exactly- that’s the problem.

OP posts:
GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 10/08/2018 20:43

Do you have a school place in your current area for her?

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 10/08/2018 20:51

Sorry!

Threadkiller 🙋‍♀️

Original poster
ThreeHousesNoHouse · 10/08/2018 21:17

She’s at school here, but we had hoped to avoid a few weeks at a new senor school then leave and start somewhere new :-(

OP posts:
GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 10/08/2018 21:24

So just de-reg her and homeschool for a few weeks.

BoomBoomsCousin · 10/08/2018 21:27

I can see why you really need it to happen now. Does the school have spaces? I thought if they had spaces they had to take you if you wanted to go there (though a 1 hour commute doesn't sound great)?

Do you really have to move? If your current place is closer to your DH's work, what is the impetus for moving? If it's essential to move there, can you pull out, rent in new area and start house hunting again?

NerrSnerr · 10/08/2018 21:33

Does the new school have places?

RB68 · 10/08/2018 21:36

Speak directly to the school.

I would just stay put and keep her off for a bit - it is a shame she misses the start but sometimes that's the way things go. Itwon't ruin her life children change all the time.

BoomBoomsCousin · 10/08/2018 21:40

The trouble with keeping her off is that you have no guarantee that this sale will actually go through. Certainly not a guarantee it will go through in just a few weeks. You need a plan B.

Original poster
ThreeHousesNoHouse · 10/08/2018 21:55

We have to move. We can’t afford m25 prices anymore. The two high schools both had places but said I have to apply though the council who said I need proof of address.

OP posts:
BoomBoomsCousin · 10/08/2018 22:49

If you're prepared to drive her to school while you wait for the house to come through, can you not apply for the new school from your current address?

Racecardriver · 10/08/2018 22:55

Could you rent a 1 bed flat so that if the sale does go through it won't cost to much?

Labradoodliedoodoo · 10/08/2018 23:03

Ask the estate agent if they have any empty properties with owners who would be willing to rent a month at a time.

Original poster
ThreeHousesNoHouse · 11/08/2018 07:22

Boom boom - no they won’t let us until we have a local address.

RaceCarDriver
If we rent a 1 bed flat tomorrow the problem is this. We hadn’t given notice where we are renting now so we would be paying our current rent. All the 1 bed flat rentals are saying 6 months minimum so we would be paying that rent plus the mortgage if the house comes through.

OP posts: