One woman's trash is another woman's treasure

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What do you think about people who say this? Personally I think it's quite cringeworthy .

No one? 🙈

I've never known anyone say it.

I've never heard anybody say it either.

It's used so infrequently, and only in very specific circumstances (perhaps in a charity shop or at the tip), so I don't have any opinion on it.

Why do you think it's cringe worthy, op? I've never given the saying much thought. I've always associated it with upcycling (before the word existed), and others seeing hidden potential in things.

About second hand stuff, or relationships?

It's the principle eBay was founded on.

It’s just a saying isn’t it? Can’t see why it’s cringey.

My ex told me that his new girlfriend said this. We had an argument and he just said it, and also said other things like she's not like me, she appreciates him bla bla. Obviously to hurt me, but I can't understand what would make a woman say this given that it's a new relationship, and she doesn't know the other side of the story. He's a narcissist, blames everyone but him. He treated me horribly, and I never respected him because of it. But the new gf is giving him what a narcissist needs.. admiration. Hence the "she's not like you " comment. Sorry just needed to vent

Oh, so it's about your boyfriend's ex girlfriend, not the expression. That's a bit confusing really.

Sorry, new girlfriend. I said l was confused...

I’ve only ever heard it said on Sex and the City!

Don’t engage with your ex. Unless you have DC with him, cut all contact. If you have DC, restrict contact to parenting matters.

Not cringeworthy,but perfectly true.

The saying is crap, and your ex is clearly trying to piss you off, so ignore ignore ignore.

That said, I can’t disagree with the sentiment. A couple of my exes seem really happy now with long term partners despite the fact that after a few months with them they were driving me to despair. Equally, DH has been dumped in the past, and I think he’s the bees knees not all women want the same things from a partner.

There's every possibility that if your ex is as big a twat as you describe him, that the new GF didn't say this at all and h's just trying and succeeding to wind you up. Just because he talks you don't need to listen or engage.

I don’t think that’s a problem at all. I’m surprised he said it to you though. All she means that although he’s your trash, she has found her treasure. You don’t want him, do you? He sounds awful.

I've never even heard the phrase.

My ex used to say this as a reason/excuse for him going skip-diving and bringing home all sorts of crap "because I'm gonna fix it and sell it!"

In relationship terms, quite honestly I'd say it's him going "Yeah I might be a bit shit but many desperate women would accept me as I am!"

I'm assuming you're not desperate :)

Well if the implication is that he was your trash and her treasure then surely you come out of it better anyway?

Does it matter?

And one person's trash can be another person's treasure. It is the premise that underpins carboot sales, jumble sales, ebay, gumtree, freecycle...

I've heard the phrase but more in relation to objects than people, so for example if I was clearing out my house and I put stuff in a skip that still has use left in it, someone else might take it out of the skip and use it but I would be finished with it.
Perhaps think of your Ex in this way OP and you wont think of the phrase as cringeworthy, more that the new girlfriend is for saying it!

Surely she was referring to him as your trash, and her treasure. Not really cringey but it’s no reflection on you.

Unless you have children with him there is absolutely no reason to have any contact with him at all.

I suggest you block him on all platforms and if he is the stalking type change your actual number.

He’s trying to say that while you didn’t appreciate him she does. I don’t think it’s any poor reflection on you though, there’s someone for everyone. Does sound like he’s still feeling a bit sensitive about the break up though.

go to a car boot sale, the expression was made for it,

not necessary the Woman's side of things, but one person's trash etc.,