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Can’t stop thinking about this

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Apple0301 · 09/08/2018 22:57

To cut a long story short, me and my 4 year old daughter had an accident at the funfair tonight. Luckily my daughter escaped unharmed but I suffered cuts and bruises.
Even though we are home and safe I can’t get over is how lucky we were that my daughter wasn’t seriously hurt.
I can’t stop replaying the accident in my head, picturing the panic on my daughters face, seeing it unfold over and over again.
Its made me feel really on edge, teary and panicky.
I know i should just except we were lucky this time but I can’t rest. I’m a mess :(

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Novasglow · 09/08/2018 22:58

Don't want to read and run. I totally get how you feel, I'd be a mess. Hope you're both okay Thanks

DailyMailGoAway · 09/08/2018 23:01

I’m so sorry OP Flowers would you like to talk on here about what happened if you feel that might help?

Rebecca36 · 09/08/2018 23:02

How you are feeling is totally natural. Most of us would be the same.

Kezzamo · 09/08/2018 23:03

Op report to health and safety executive they will check it out and ensure it is safe for others. It's important as others may not beside lucky x

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Apple0301 · 09/08/2018 23:03

Thank you, I don’t know what I am expecting to hear really :(
It’s a bit of a pointless post but I just feel shook by it and don’t know if there is any magic technique to bring me back to thinking clearly again.

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Kezzamo · 09/08/2018 23:04
  • be so 🙄
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Apple0301 · 09/08/2018 23:04

Who would I contact to do that? My local council?

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Livedandlearned2 · 09/08/2018 23:05

Talking it.over will help, you can write it down on paper if you don't want to put it on here. Get all your anger and upset out, or whatever you feel.

Hole you're both ok soon.

Kezzamo · 09/08/2018 23:07

I would also see gp to have injuries documented

www.hse.gov.uk/contact/index.htm

Singlenotsingle · 09/08/2018 23:09

It's just shock and perfectly understandable. It'll wear off. It's just the body reacting to the sudden rush of adrenaline

RandomMess · 09/08/2018 23:14

It takes time, probably at least a few weeks to get over a shock and near miss of something Thanks

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Apple0301 · 09/08/2018 23:15

I typed it out before I posted this and deleted it as I was going on and on and replaying it made me nauseous so I stopped deleted it and am now sat with a sugary tea :(
Will try again but maybe shorter.
Me my girls and my husband took a trip to a pop up funfair as a holiday treat.
My girls wanted to go on a little carousel type ride with different cars etc. We saw it was stationary and kids getting on so I took them over. My first daughter got seated and as my second was just about to climb in hers the ride started. She immediately panicked and looked at me to help her. She lost her footing and fell to the floor. (The ride was going too fast imo) with this ride the cars moved around but the floor stayed still so as my daughter was lay there, big poles, pumps and all the cars were passing her, missing her head by centimetres. All I could see was she was about to get crushed. I ran on and tried to pull her arm to grab her and as i did I got flung around the ride, flew off and landed under a nearby van.
My husband said I was screaming for help and as I flew feet were off the ground and I spun in the air (that’s how fast it was going)
It was all a blur then and when I stood up my husband had grabbed my daughter and the staff had seen us by this point and stopped the ride.
My trousers were all ripped, my phone damaged, and I was cut all over.
Luckily my daughter escaped unharmed (I really truly don’t know how) :(
I can’t stop thinking what if she would have stood up again, what if she had been dragged under one of the cars, what if this, what if that.
I’m such a state

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Teaandbiscuits35 · 09/08/2018 23:19

😮 That’s awful. I’m not surprised you feel so freaked out. I’m glad you’re little one is ok. Talk to your partner and hug lots. Try and get a decent sleep too.

CharlotteFlax · 09/08/2018 23:22

I think you should get checked out at A&E and definitely ring 101 for advice on if this is a criminal matter (I'm suggesting this after the recent bouncy castle case where a girl died of head injuries).

This is a serious incident (and IMHO not an accident) and I'm not surprised you're shocked. I wasn't expecting to read what you'd written at all - thought maybe you'd tripped over something and got a scraped knee. Please please take this further.

Processedpea · 09/08/2018 23:23

Bloody hell that's awful you need to contact the council who issued the licence for the fair. They obviously need to tighten up on procedures

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Apple0301 · 09/08/2018 23:24

Feel a bit better already getting it out and understanding that it’s just shock. Didn’t think of it like that.
I will just ride with this as take the up and down emotions. Still shakey but just got to be happy she is in bed in one piece x

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AjasLipstick · 09/08/2018 23:26

Shock A&E! You need checking!

Didn't the staff see you? Were they not helping people on and allocating cars? Did they just leave it to the public to manage themselves??

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Apple0301 · 09/08/2018 23:26

I made sure to put it in the accident book (took a lot of persuading (they tried to say I put my daughter on the ride when it was moving Angry
They were taking no responsibility and made me feel uneasy (staff glaring at me and watching my conversations to my husband) I feel worried to take it further as they have my address etc now :(
They are a bit rough around the edges if you get me

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MrsEricBana · 09/08/2018 23:27

It sounds as though you were both very lucky not to be more seriously hurt and it needs reporting so no one else is hurt too. I can only think police non emergency number for advice. Hope you are both ok.

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Apple0301 · 09/08/2018 23:31

Yes I feel incredibly lucky we are both ok. I don’t understand how we escaped that. My husband said as I let go of my daughter as I was being thrown i screamed No as if I thought that was it, I had lost her :(
I’m a state and doubt I will sleep tonight.
I am going to sleep on it tonight and then maybe take the advice and go to the council. I don’t want to waste time at a&e as I feel ok, other than shaky and some cuts.

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NellMangel · 09/08/2018 23:31

That's awful. No wonder you are in shock.

Have a rest and take it easy. Try not to drive yourself crazy with the what ifs - when you start imagining the worst case scenarios maybe tell yourself "we were lucky" and cut the image off. X

Kezzamo · 09/08/2018 23:33

I'd agree with a&e given what you describe. Shock in itself is serious and the adrenaline may be masking pain. I'm surprised they didn't call you and ambulance and the police often attend incidents like this to gather evidence for hse. As the fair is likely to be closed now I would just make sure to report to hse via earlier link and tell the local council too. Good luck and I hope you are not too sore.

QueenDoria · 09/08/2018 23:33

Poor you. Write down as many details as you can now (and your DH should do the same, may be log it somehow (101?), sleep on it and chase it up in the morning...

INeedNewShoes · 09/08/2018 23:33

This is awful. I really think you should report it. 101 might be a good place to start as they will know who the most relevant body to report to is.

I've always had a thing about pop-up funfairs and fear of them not being safe for exactly this sort of reason.

Mummymummums · 09/08/2018 23:34

I know it's hard but both you and your OH need to write (separately) what happened in detail, with timings. And photograph your injuries and damage to phone, clothing etc.
It's really important that you report this to the HSE.