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Luxury problem I know but..

36 replies

Madbengalmum · 09/08/2018 16:46

It is soon my birthday, and yesterday I recieved a notification on my phone a parcel is due to be delivered today. It is from a well known luxury cosmetics brand, and one my family send me gifts from. So I thought it was one of my birthday pressies on it's way. This morning the item arrived, I opened it, no message but a very nice cosmetic item none the less.
Fast forward to this afternoon I recieve a text from family member asking if i had received a parcel they had claimed as a free welcome gift mistakenly addressed to me. Before I could answer, the company were on to me asking if i could return the item asap so they could send it out to the correct address.I said I couldn't as at work, so they said don't worry keep item we'll send another to family member. Family member is then back on the phone to me saying keep the item, and then asks if I want it for my birthday present!
So the freebie they got, I have now got and I can't really turn round and say no I don't want your freebie, go and buy something you tight wad, but it feels a bit shit really, I feel like asking them if I should go and buy my own after thought card too!

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garbagegirl · 09/08/2018 16:47

That is pretty cheeky. Start collecting happy meal toys to reciprocate ?

Bluelady · 09/08/2018 16:48

So you were happy until you knew it was free? Not very logical.

BrutusMcDogface · 09/08/2018 16:48
Hmm
arethereanyleftatall · 09/08/2018 16:50

Meh. Don't get worked up about this. I'd laugh and say 'ok, thanks.' And then I'd get on with my life.

DanSullivan · 09/08/2018 16:55

Yeah, I guess your relative is being a bit cheeky, but if it’s a nice gift I’d just enjoy it.
Was it nice?

Madbengalmum · 09/08/2018 17:19

Yep, its nice enough, but it just seems cheeky/lazy really.

Bluelady, it is the thoughtless part of it really. Not about whether gift was free or not, just seems thoughless and abit lazy really. Logical to me!

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ShirleyPhallus · 09/08/2018 17:21

It’s not cheeky or lazy. They would have had to spend money on loads of stuff to get the free gift in the first place so in that sense it really wasn’t free

Plus you were happy before you discovered it was free

PurpleFlower1983 · 09/08/2018 17:25

You got a nice gift, family member saved some cash. Win win!

RebelRogue · 09/08/2018 17:31

Nah it is lazy. A bit "meh,since it's at yours anyways you might just as well keep it". Which is not a thoughtful way to present a present. The thing is,it's really not worth it making a fuss over it. End of the day you did get something that you actually like. Accept relative is a lazy/insensitive git and move on.

RebelRogue · 09/08/2018 17:33

And it could've been worse... a Love Honey freebie.Grin

Victoria889 · 09/08/2018 17:44

Why would they send it to your address did they used to live with you?

mickeysminnie · 09/08/2018 18:09

Just say that you sent it back already!

LongSummerDays · 09/08/2018 18:15

Why would they send it to your address did they used to live with you?

I wondered that.

SparklyLeprechaun · 09/08/2018 18:17

You know those family photo sessions that some companies offer for free and then you're subjected to some awful hard sales to spend a few hundred pounds on the photos? Yep, I got one of those as a birthday gift. Your relative sounds quite generous in comparison. Enjoy your free gift!

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 09/08/2018 18:21

Fast forward to this afternoon I recieve a text from family member asking if i had received a parcel they had claimed as a free welcome gift mistakenly addressed to me

How odd ~ why would they put your name and address on their new account (seeing as it's a welcome gift, I'm assuming they had just opened a new account)? Confused

Also, let us in on the secret of who this luxury cosmetics provider is, cos I quote fancy a free luxury item as a welcome gift, without having to place an order.

Madbengalmum · 09/08/2018 18:22

Victoria, they sent me gifts from this company before and i assume this company has thought the item must be for me as they had bought things from them for me. Company made a proper cock up!

Mickeys, I thought of that too, but I suppose they would have tracking etc.

Sparkly, I agree, it could be one of those, far worse!

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Madbengalmum · 09/08/2018 18:26

Shecame, item was a free gift courtesy of a very posh bank! Family member is rich, tightness like this is probably why!

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Madbengalmum · 09/08/2018 18:27

Shecame, they had ordered from the cosmetics company before, free gift was via bank if that makes sense.

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Livingoncake · 09/08/2018 18:27

Eh... I figure if I’m close enough to someone for them to send me a birthday gift at all, then I’m close enough to accept a convenient freebie as a gift without being offended.
That could just be me though. In my family, after your 21st you don’t really expect gifts from anyone other than your parents and partner. We’re pretty casual about it, but I know other families really prioritise everyone’s birthdays.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 09/08/2018 18:29

ROFL at ‘it wasn’t actually free coz family member must have spent loads to get it’ Grin yeah for themselves!

I think if it’s a close family member I’d text back saying ‘if you don’t want to buy me a gift then just say so!’ Otherwise I’d leave it. But yes cheeky.

ShirleyPhallus · 09/08/2018 18:35

But what difference does it make if they kept the item for themselves and bought the OP a similar priced item, or just gave it to her (and then ended up buying a similar priced item for themselves)?

”if you don’t want to buy me a gift then say so!” - that’s straight up rude

Assburgers · 09/08/2018 18:41

YANBU. The company had already given you the gift when they said you could keep it. The relative then jumping on board and saying "actually that is from me" is really slack, and also cheap. If it's the thought that counts, then zero thought has gone into it, along with zero cash.

Gatehouse77 · 09/08/2018 18:44

Wouldn't bother me at all. If it was a gift I'd like I'd see it as quids in all round.

deepsea · 09/08/2018 18:47

Nothing like a free gift to make you feel special on your birthday Grin I do hope you will send her a thank you note enthusing how very thoughtful and meaningful the free gift (sorry your birthday present) was.

LeftRightCentre · 09/08/2018 18:48

YABU. You're the one who's cheeky. You liked it and were satisfied with it until you found out it was a freebie and now think they should spend more money on you.

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