Aibu not to apologise?

[garbagegirl]

Got together with family about 2 weeks ago at home and my brother pointed out that my son looks like the kid from the movie Big Daddy (Or Ben from friends. Same kid) which I guess maybe he does if you squint a bit. My brother thought it hilarious to quote from the movie "I wipe my own ass" a few times. He's always been a bit immature, kids were out of earshot so I agreed he kind of looked like him the first time and then just sort of ignored it

Fast forward to today. My Mum who I love but who learnt to whisper in a helicopter surrounded by chainsaws declared loudly in the middle of soft play when we were about to go "ok so we have the other kids, where's I wipe my own ass"

I didn't like it. My son's 3 and I don't want him hearing adults refer to him with that phrase. Apparently because I told my mum this I upset and embarrassed her and I should say I am sorry
I'm not sorry though. Aibu?

Well done!

If your brother keeps referring to your ds like that, tell him that from now on as far as you are concerned his name will be dickhead.....

It's unacceptable to say anyone looks like a 'negative character'. It's fine to say he/she resembles an actor/actress who plays the character, but not to compare them to the character itself.

YANBU, your brother and mother were both very rude.

I guess it depends how you said it. If it was a 'please stop calling him that because...' that's fine and I think there is no need to apologise. The only time I think you'd owe any sort of apology is if you'd lost your temper and shouted / name called in public etc - and even then it would be apologising for the way you'd said it, not for the actual message

LoveInTokyo thank you.

Nope... I definitely wouldn't be apologising. She needs to apologise to you.