Stalking?

[CrimsonSkies]

Bit of a strange one and namechanged on the off chance his partner or family use this.

I had a hairdressers appointment at a new salon 3 months ago for my birthday. It was a full head of colour (bleach) and toning. The hairdresser did not put anything on my scalp (oils etc) to protect it before applying bleach. Needless to say it was horrifically burnt and bleeding when I got home. I got a full refund after 2 or 3 days which was good. I also had wonderful thick hair but the burns on my scalp made it all fall out so it’s thinning so badly now with a fair few baldness patches.

I am still suffering and am waiting for medical check up on it as it’s fairly hard to get an appointment just for your scalp! I hadn’t washed my hair for two days prior like usual when bleaching it so it should have been fine. Clearly the bleach was too strong or something. I have dyed/bleached my hair multiple times over the past 20 years and this has never happened. I am considering sueing if there is permanent damage and made them aware of that when I asked for the refund. My hair is a very important feature to me and all of this could have been easily avoided if the hairdresser had proper training.

I run a successful visual arts business and am very well known with people my age in my community and other cities. I have an Instagram where I showcase my work and I posted a story on there the other day (which I rarely every do). I usually look once or twice to skim through who’s seen it as my profile is public. Low and behold the hairdresser had found my instagram and watched the story. I screenshotted it just incase. He doesn’t follow me so will have to be going out of his way to look at my profile each day.

I posted another item on my story today to test my theory that he is stalking me and obviously can’t let go of some hard feelings as he may of been fired after the incident as it was really serious. He watched it and I’m really unsure about what he is expecting to find? Me slagging him off? I didn’t even leave a bad review, it’s a waste of my time. I’m also bewildered that he’s stupid enough to think I can’t tell he’s looking at it. Or maybe he wants me to see that he’s watching what I’m doing? AIBU or is this mild stalking? Should I inform the salon of his behaviour? It’s a bit excessive to be looking 3 months after you have had an incident with the client!

What a horrible situation you’ve been through OP. I burnt my own scalp when using bleach and lost a lot of hair. It’s vile.

Re the socia media, I don’t think it constitutes stalking even remotely. Maybe curiosity, maybe trying to find a photo of you now, maybe solicitors advice. Who knows. It’s not malicious is it. You can see it’s them. They’ve not taken steps to hide their identity or made any comments.
I’d just block them and make your decision re legal action.

My Dsis was stalked at university and looking you up on a public business Insta acct just isn’t the same thing.

I know people whose lives have been destroyed by stalking. To keep insisting that someone looking at one public website is the same thing shows, at best, a lot of ignorance.

I doubt you'll be damaged for life. Looks like a bit of a scabby head, that's all. Anyone can look if you're putting out there. I've looked twice now and I'm not stalking you. Get some Sudocreme on it. And put some pictures up afterwards because I want to screenshot them for my files.

I think looking at people’s social media account is natural if you have hurt someone. I don’t think it is the same as stalking (which indeed can be serious, but I don’t think this stalking)
You may find that this person has genuine remorse for something they unintentionally did so are checking in to see how you are.

RE your hair growing back will probably be dependant on how deep the injury went. If it’s just superficial burns then it should grow back, although will take its time doing it. If it has scarred deeply then you may have some issues with hair growing back.
Did you receive any medical treatment for the burns after it happened?

On the flip side, the colour does look good

I was imagining severe post burn scaring and large areas of baldness. It’s NOT a good service (you received) but I think you’re overdoing it a bit, be thankful it’s healing and make your accounts private if you’re concerned about (real) stalkers.

You are monitoring him as much as he is you.
Paranoid about each other.

It’s not stalking but you can block his account from seeing yours. I would do that rather than just keep screenshotting him viewing your ‘story’.

Your scalp doesnt look badly burned at all in them photos op. Your scalp is a healthy pale pink and the hair is an even colour that doesnt look stringy from bleach burn. Are you sure you didnt just have a reaction from the bleach rather than chemical burns? Honestly i think your hair will be just fine. And no its not stalking you.