To think DH should not go to work

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I have D&V. DH due to leave for work at 2. I would manage then til bedtime with the aid of CBeebies. But DS2 (13 months) seems to have acquired an ear infection. He’s constantly screaming and pulling his ear. He is prone to them and has already had a perforated eardrum. GP can’t see him til later this afternoon - I can’t takr him because I don’t want to infect everyone else in the surgery, and can barely walk the length of the flat atm, never mind drive. FIL who would usually help is stranded at home waiting for a car part. AIBU to think DH just needs to not go in, at least til after he’s taken DS2 to the doctor? It’s not fair to leave a baby screaming in agony just because he doesn’t want to take any more unexpected time off (we recently had a major childcare issue that meant he took some very short-notice leave, and I had laser eye surgery this Monday so he took yesterday off - again was shortish notice as my date was moved, so he was scrambling a bit for someone to cover.) I do see where he’s coming from but DS2 is in absolute misery and needs to start antibiotics as soon as possible. Nurofen and calpol aren’t touching the sides!

Add me to the list of people who don't believe Salem I'm dying to know what country you're from and what the hospital do with you once you get there with your D&V

I’m a single parent. I would just go to the doctor. The doctor is for ill people, it’s not very nice but necessary.

Thanks, continually, my seriously ill immunosupressed dad would be delighted* to pick up your D&V bug if he was in the waiting room ahead of one of his weekly appointments.

*actually he wouldn't, he'd probably wind up in hospital but ta all the same

Where do you live Salem?
I’m sure there are circumstances where an ambulance might become necessary for D&V but if OP is well enough to be posting on here about the situation she’s probably not massively at risk of becoming seriously unwell.

Scribble, doesn’t your dad pick up stuff from the GP regularly then? I mean by default it’s full of sick people. Does he just go and wait with them all?

Seriously, sorry for getting upset, but being called entitled and thick just for suggesting a severely sick and dehydrated woman call an ambulance, which is what she should be doing, was very unnecessarily aggressive and nasty. I was only trying to help. I do come from the opposite side of the planet. I wrongly presumed because the UK has universal healthcare like Australia, that people wouldn't have to worry about things like calling an ambulance for a lifethreatening (and dehydration IS a life threatening condition) condition. So I suggested it, because it is just procedure where I am. That is all.

Look; the OP said they could barely make it from one end of the flat to the other, let alone drive. That, at least to me, suggests that she is seriously ill and this stomach bug could be more serious than just that. She is also looking after 13 month old, while so ill and weak she can barely make it to one end of the flat.

I would think, in anyone's language, that would be considered a medical emergency.

No SalemBlackCat if OP was in hospitalization situation due to dehydration, if she could stand and walk her DH would have to stay off work and take her in the car to A&E or a taxi if they have no car. This is normal in a civilized society.

Calling an ambulance for D&V and an ear infection? Oh that’s hilarious!!! Where on earth do live Salem?

Where do you live @salem?!!
Genuinely shocked!

Salem why are you assuming that the OP has life threatening dehydration. She has a bug which more often than not will clear up by itself in a day or two. If the OP is posting on mumsnet I can’t imagine her condition is life threatening.

Ambulances are for heart attacks, trauma, road accidents, excessive bleeding, that sort of thing. Not taxis to hospital.

Salem it’s not normal to call for an ambulance for D&V in Australia.

Neither is D&V life threatening. It CAN BE, RARELY. This is clearly not the case here, and you know it

She is also a medical student who I would hope can tell when she needs an ambulance and when she doesn't.

Salem you're getting a hard time on here because what you're suggesting is ridiculous! Yes d&v is utterly hideous especially when looking after a child but you absolutely do not go to a&e or call an ambulance after a few hours of vomiting !! That's absurd wherever you live. You need to ride out d&v ...even if it lasts a few days you'd go to the pharmacist or gp not call an ambulance !
Op hope you get well soon

Seriously, sorry for getting upset, but being called entitled and thick just for suggesting a severely sick and dehydrated woman call an ambulance,

The OP has a stomach bug. Why are you exaggerating her symptoms?

Have you tried explaining to the GP that you've exhausted all other options and the the only way to get a screaming in pain 18 month old to his appointment is for you to bring him even though you've got D&V?

Also Salem you’re getting a hard time for stating that in your superior first world country calling an ambulance for D&V is normal and in the shitty old U.K. we’re getting a raw deal from our shitty NHS because ambulances full of paramedics don’t turn up every time we have a bug. It’s rude, and it’s also untrue

Lol @ "severely sick and dehydrated "! Op has a tummy bug.

Anyway, I'm glad your ds is getting to the docs and hope you both feel better soon!

I don't think you're BU, but neither is he. You say he's had time off recently for childcare issues, because you had an operation and now because you and DS are ill. His employer may think he's at it. Many and varied last minute excuses can look like that, even though they're genuine reasons in this case. At the very least they'll question his reliability. Is there anyone else at all who could help?

What do you they do to treat the D&V in hospital where you’re from Salem?

I repeat, she said "and can barely walk the length of the flat atm, never mind drive."

Either she is exaggerating, or that suggests she is a lot sicker than people here realise.

And glintandglide, that was in response to Dermymc who called me 'thick' and 'entitled' for posting from my perspective. I don't appreciate being called 'thick' and 'entitled' for considering that someone with D & V so bad that she can barely make it to one end of the flat may be quite serious. My comment came after a lot of abuse on here. Simply because I suggest dehydration - which is a result of D & V, can also cause weakness, collapsing etc, might actually be a medical emergency. Which, surely, one would think it is.

Must be some treatment is a paramedic is needed to administer it en route too soya.

No Salem, no one but you thinks it’s a Medical emergency.

Hilarious!
A normal stomach bug = severely sick woman with dehydration? No doctor is going to treat a normal stomach bug with anything. They might tell you to sod off and stop wasting thier time and infecting all the other patients though.

Op is undoubtedly a bit wobbly from the d & v but thats normal, throwing up/diahorrors is knackering, but its not life threatening unless its long term! It will clear up on its own when the body has got rid of it all naturally. A 24 - 48 hr stomach bug is not an emergency in any country.
But by your standard all the kids off school with stomach bugs when they pass on their germs to each other would be carted off in ambulances to hospital, really? My son had Norovirus for a solid week and was kept at home, Gp presecribed nothing at all just water/juice, whatever he fancied eating and rest and to go get some dioralyte sachets from the chemist.

Get a grip! Op hasnt had it for a month!

@BrutusMcDogface In case you don't know, frequent vomiting and diarrhoea causes dehydration. Google it.

@SoyDora If it is as severe as the OP is suggesting hers is, usually a cannula is inserted where anti-emetic and anti-diarrhoea medication is given, along with saline drips to replace hydration. Along with electrolyte replacement (if really needed). Re-hydration therapy is first line action though.

Please note I make a distinction between an ordinary stomach bug, and one where someone 'can barely make it to the other side of the flat'.

I really don't think a person with "life threatening" d&v would be on mumsnet asking for advice. I trust that a medical student would know the difference between an upset tummy and imminent death.

Glad you got it sorted OP.