SIL happy we're divorcing.

[twogirlsoneboy]

Ex and I are divorcing, he just met someone else and has introduced her to his family, we still live together, he's moving out next month.

I've never got on with his family, I've tried but they're horrible, a bunch of judgmental gossipers. His mum is the worst, I can't stand her. She's a typical "nobody's good enough for my son" type of MIL.

And I can't spend a day with SIL without her talking bad about me, she will tell MIL, MIL would tell ex and that's how I would find out. So I've distanced myself from them over the last few years.

Now that SIL met ex's new girlfriend, she said to him that shes happy we're getting divorced, and she's looking forward to get a SIL she can do things with. Mind you, we've never done things together, only time I would see her is if she invited the family round to hers. AIBU to be upset over this comment? I'm very sensitive and I know I need to work on getting thick skin.

What does it matter if you’re divorcing you won’t see them again. They are entitled to their opinion op just move on.

Just be glad she's going to be out of your life. Feel sorry for the new GF who will inevitably be subjected to the same treatment in the end. Don't be upset. What does her opinion matter to you?

Why are you letting it bother you? She's history; no loss to you. Just forget about the whole sorry bunch, and move on with your life.

YANBU to be upset it would be difficult not to be BUT I bet in a year or two's time when you're away from your ex and his family these people and their nasty gossip will have faded so far into obscurity that you just won't care. By the way if your ex is feeding all this information back to you he's being very unkind. You don't need to know what your exile says or thinks any more so he should keep it to himself.

My xhs family were like that. Just think of it as a bonus that you will never have to see them again.

My ex MIL told me, when we went to tell them we'd got engaged, how disappointed she was that we were getting married. She was toxic throughout our entire relationship and divorcing him was great as it meant I no longer had to engage with her.

You don't like her and she doesn't like you, once you divorce she's nothing to you. Move on with your life and don't give her head space.

Yes I know, but I've never told them why I distanced myself from them. I just can't be around fake people, im so happy they're out of my life.

Ex told me this, because he was very upset by his sisters comment. He said it's like she's happy for a family to break up, and for children to live in broken homes.

You have made your escape. Those nasty fuckers are stuck with each other.
And you know what fate lies ahead with the gf.
I was ecstatic when I got rid of my sil!!

No wonder you are divorcing if your ex is feeding you stories like this.

He probably feeds similar shit about you to his sister, which likely helped to ensure you didn't get on

Either way be glad they will all be out if your life in 18 months.

It's wasted energy. Let them go.

Why is he upset? She likes his new girlfriend. He's the one that's chosen to be with her.

Seems a weird reaction.

And to be honest, she's allowed to dislike you and like someone else. And of course that swings both ways. You don't like her, so why care?

Be glad that you've escaped!

@MadMags he's upset about the divorce, I'm the one who instigated it. He did not want to divorce.

His sister is probably trying to make him feel better about the divorce by trying to show a positive.
Try not to take it personally and bear in mind your husband probably told you that to hurt you so don’t give him or her the satisfaction.

Right, but the split has already happened and he's moved on. It just seems weird to me that he'd be upset that his sister has said she likes his new girlfriend.

I'm another saying just put it behind and relax in the thought that you'll not have to deal with them again.

MY Ex SIL couldn’t wait to stick the knife in when we split up, she was evil to me from day one. Whenever I said anything about her nastiness I got told oh that’s just what x is like as if it was ok. I barred her from my home in end after years of shit and was best thing I’ve ever done the relief was amazing. It hurt to divorce but it’s bloody great knowing she’s some other poor cows problem now

Well, tbh, you've dumped her brother and she has presumably seen him miserable because he didn't want the divorce. She is entitled to be happy that he's found someone else. I doubt she is celebrating that his family has broken up - more likely she is being positive.

If she was horrid to you throughout your marriage, be glad you won't need to see her much in the future.

Really?

It’s the least of your worries what your ex sil thinks. Focus on yourself and your DC.

...as for your H. He’s so upset about your divorce he has been forced to find a new woman to fuck. Poor love, must be tough

Wait - you're divorcing, you instigated the split, you don't get on with his family and don't like SIL... Why are you wasting any time over this? Meh wouldn't be about as much as it deserves. If that.

You're better off without the lot of them.

If you are getting divorced then your ex's family are not your concern any more. Ask your ex not to tell you anything about them or their opinions because you have no interest, and shut him down every time he tries to talk about them.

My ex MIL hates everyone so I never took it personal she hated me. Of course it hurt when it got back that she was happy that the OW was making my husband happy.

2 years later MIL called my lovely stepdaughter to complain about how evil the OW is :)

Now that I am no longer there making sure in laws were invited over every weekend for Sunday dinners, taken on holidays, going round to look after them, they have been "abandoned" by the ex and OW.

My ex and OW only visit to get money and have "borrowed" over £50,000 of in laws savings for holidays and expensive toys & they avoid the in laws like the plague unless it's to ask for more money.

Now she's the one that ruined his life and MIL is telling all how much better off he was with me, lol.

Don't worry, in a couple years time you will be the saint and she will seen as the evil home wrecker. Don't let it bother you. Focus on you and see it as time to make decisions that make you happy and not worry if an ex SIL likes you or not.

You cant change her behaviour. You can change the way you react to her.
Twee but true

Don’t just think you’ll be divorcing your h, you’ll be divorcing his family. Win, win I say.