To think teen girls get "nana" old before their time?

[sadsac1]

I follow a few accounts on You Tube and Instagram- mainly for their foodie posts etc - but these girls are 18-21 mainly (the big bloggers) and act so differently to my and my friends at that age.

When I was that age, Saturday's were about shopping, maybe grabbing a McDonald's or something similarly unhealthy in town and most importantly getting dressed up and going out for a good dance and to be honest, drinks and snogging!

Most of these girls do video logs where their day is either the gym and then tea and cake followed by a night in watching a box set or reading with a green tea and some peanut butter before meditation before bed at ten.

Now before you flame me, I know this is healthier and great habits for later in life but I can't help but feel your young days are for letting your hair down a bit...but then I think social
Media is their social life so that's probably something to do with it...

So would it be ok to say that people 40+ shouldn't be allowed out drinking or going to concerts - how embarrassing - they should stay at home drinking cocoa. Otherwise it's just saaaad.

Thought not.

With DS it's not no fun. He just can't see the attraction of spending a fortune to get hammered. He's been with his GF for over five years and they've visited Paris this Spring, go to Cyprus shortly and are having Christmas and New Year in New York. Their fun isn't sat drinking cocoa but it also isn't what I was doing in my early twenties.

This thread just reeks of ageism. There is no set standard that young men and women need to adhere to. Lots of people like baking, going for afternoon tea and watching boxsets - what's the problem?

huggybear
Of course they can do all sorts like socialisng, drinking, concerts etc. I don't think anyone is saying not to.

The counting down to wine o clock, squeeling over prossecco, sharing memes about needing gin etc is embarrassing and cringeworthy on anyone. (It was just an observation that the people I know who do that tend to be an older crowd than a younger crowd).

It was either last year or the year before during freshers week that a photo appeared on SM of a girl crouching for a pee by a tree. Her face was clearly visible and she was named and tagged. It was shared and reshared and made into different memes. No doubt all her family saw it. She will forever be known as that girl with her knickers round her ankles peeing on a tree. Any future employers who google her name will find that photo. Even 10 years ago that wouldn’t have happened. Yes the girl would have peed, and maybe her friends will have reminded her about it the next day when they jumped into bed with her to go over the previous nights events, but her face wouldn’t have been plastered on screens all over the world for getting drunk and needing a wee. And yes of course we shouldn’t wee in public, but I’ve certainly nipped behind bins or a hedge for a wee during my drinking youth. Sometimes we did it as a group. Loads of people did it. I certainly wouldn’t risk it now, not with a camera in every single hand that passes me. I felt so sorry for that girl. The comments on FB alone were horrendous.

huggybear
Ignore me. I think I misread your post and thought it was a reply to a post. Sorry.

Haha no worries Maisy, I was just being sarcastic.

We have a really tough time of it, entry level jobs which require a degree, massive student debt, starter houses being out of the reach for many. We get slated for eating daily avocado (apparently) and now we are slated for staying in? We just can't win.

Op their lives can’t be that dull if you (and many thousands of others) are tuning in to watch them live it!

@huggybear aren't you winning if you are doing what makes you happy though?

Maisypops I suppose what you have to remember is those in their late 30s and 40s now would have been coming of age during a period of time where it was the rise of the super club, dance/rave music was massive, alcopops, shots, pills (e's) were the norm. Gone were the days of a naff disco in town with half a lager and in were the days of pre-drinks, massive night clubs, drugs, late night kebabs.

Sounds awful to some (and obviously not everyone did it) but that was what their generation were doing as teens/early 20 somethings. So "wine o'clock" and socialising with alcohol in general is what is normal to them.

The younger generation might not see it as fun and find it odd but that's because time has moved on. It might go the other way one day where the next generation look at their parents and think they are boring so will start drinking more and going to big night clubs. It's all swings and roundabouts.

Think of Ab Fab where the grandma is quite respectable, Eddie thought that was boring and craved a more drink/drug culture then Saffy looked at her Mum and thought she was a mess so craved a more sensible life style like her grandma.

@SisterNotCisTerf too true!

Times have changed, in some ways I find it sad but in other ways it’s a good thing. Teens seem more sensible, teen pregnancies are down, less teens are taking drugs and binge drinking (has to be good?) but I think it’s sad that teens don’t socialise as much. I enjoyed my teens, I would drink, occationally go clubbing but had a good job and was quite sensible, weekends were about meeting friends at the pub or a club, getting a take away and shopping during the day. I’m sure drinking green tea and watching box sets is fun

WOW OP - you really do sound a bit jealous and bitter.

What difference does it make to YOU what other people do with thter lives?

The only thing I feel sorry for about the generation in question is the pressure on a lot of them to be "Instagram ready." The instant nature of everything must be tough where a bad/embarrassing picture can be shared so quickly and instantly. It must also be tough seeing your friends every move on social media and thinking everyone else is doing amazing and exciting things with all these "blogs."

I think the generation in Primary school now will use social media very differently.

In another 80 or so years, people will treat drinking the same way they now treat smoking. Something incredibly stupid and ignorant.

I wish I had been like them when I was that age. I would be much healthier now!

What the actual fuck about my original post was jealous and bitter

If anything, I felt a bit sorry for them...living their chaste social media lives...but that's patronising and naive....

Talk about can't win!

God almighty

@sadsac1

What the actual fuck about my original post was jealous and bitter?

All of it.

No-one who is happy with their life, slags off others and their life choices.

You are definitely bitter and jealous, and quite unhappy by the sound of it.

Saying some girls are 'nana old' is one of the most patronising, condescending, and AGEIST posts I have ever read on here!

If my kids were bloggers?? So on a par with love island etc. I would feel I had failed massively and my kids were actually really believing the crap of 15 minutes of fame

Mine are far better grounded and normal. Anyone that up their own arse at 20? Taking themselves that seriously at 20?

Oh dear

Oh and I am a nana and not old!

I was talking to my sis about this very recently. We’re both of the millennial generation and when we were late teens/early twenties it was all about experimenting and doing things that we really shouldn’t have been doing. We both thought that the generation below us is really quite tame in comparison.

It’s not a problem per se. But it has afforded me more life experiences. I have returned to uni as a mature student and so mix with much younger people on a regular basis and it’s so interesting listening to their attitudes. A lot of them are old before their time and a part of me wonders about their resilience growing up much more safely than I did.

Yeah, there are a lot of benefits to this more cautious approach to life but it’s interesting and I would be interested to see what the effect of this is when they’re adults.

I wasn't aware I slagged anyone off...how do you define slagging people off? Please tell me where I done that?

I said I thought it was a shame that young people seem to to bypass a bit of traditional teen behaviour and seem in such a rush to be so grown up.

I wouldn't dream of telling someone they seem jealous, bitter and unhappy

@Seasawride Bloggers talking about the stuff OP mentions seem like the opposite to the Love Island crowd. I wouldn't compare the two.