Replaced photograph

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Me and hubby got married last year and a month or so after we got two picture blown up and professionally framed for his parents, at their request and our expense. One was of the two of us and one was a family shot with hubbies side of the family. Went to the house last week and noticed that they had taken one of the picture out of the frame and replaced it with a picture of hubbies sister (their daughter) and her new girlfriend. Now if they didn't want the picture up for whatever reason then that's fine just put it in a cupboard or even bin it! But to take the picture out and replace it with a picture of someone else, surely that really rude and disrespectful? Feel like asking for the bloody frames back!

Oh and don't do anything like this again for them.

That's awful. Sorry OP :( I think some people got abit confused with the original post. It's a bit confusing.

This sounds like me and my MIL.

She and lands of photos of her 2 other son's partners and kids up around the house. Even her DIL that she absloutley hates, rang the police on her. SS. Yet none of me at all. :(

It hurts OP. Sorry.

You are right to be upset, you are right to feel hurt, you are right to ask your DP to find out what their logic is.

You are then right to stop seeing them. What dicks.

Are you sure they didn't temporarily swap the photos for when SIL and her girlfriend came round, and forgot to swap them back?

I'd be annoyed too, OP.

I bought MIL a photo frame for her birthday and she promptly put an old photo of DH's ex wife and DD in it. On one hand, it's her frame so she can do what she likes with it but, on the other, I thought it was quite insensitive and didn't consider my feelings. DH mentioned something in the end as he thought it was off too and on the next visit I noticed she'd changed it to one of our wedding photos. Some people just don't think.

Hallouminati Similar happened to me. MIL asked for a picture printed that DH had emailed her. I don’t know why she couldn’t do it herself. I framed it for her and never saw it again... until she put a wedding picture of SIL’s in it . Whatever, her frame. Just learned from it...

(SIL’s marriage lasted 28 months and all pictures of her wedding were thrown anyway...)

Oh if you're no longer in any pictures, I don't blame you for being pissed off. Whether or not you make a fuss just depends how much energy you have to invest in DH's family, because there's no way you can mention it without being made to feel like a toddler having a tantrum, I'm sure. Unless you say 'would you like a group shot with me in it to replace this one?' (if you have it) or something.

18 months (if that) not 28

Why not just ask for the photograph back if you're that upset?

From your last post it sounds a bit like you're annoyed because your MIL doesn't have any photos of you in her house.

To me it sounds like mil is probably trying to be supportive of SILs new relationship. Is this her first gf or was her sexuality something she has struggled with?

Mil probably was just trying to support her dd, liked that frame and used it. I'm sure she didn't think you'd be upset about it.

The only saving grace here is that they actually requested the photo of the two of you! It could be genuinely nothing but what is your relationship like with them generally? If it is ok generally I would let it go as something insensitive.

Are you sure the photo hasn't been put up elsewhere. I assume sil is in the other photo with her brother. It might be an oversight? You're only going to find out for sure if you ask

If you aren't in the family photo and they have replaced the one of you then yes that is different and I would too be upset by that so YANBU now that has been clarified. If you had been, I could see how you'd be a bit bothered but I don't think it would be wrong.

Maybe they forgot to put your photo back before you visited, having put up a photo of their DD and her gf to make the gf feel welcome when she visited?

I hope it's the scenario Wow suggests because if it's not that's awful of them!

I'd be really hurt, especially because it was a gift and there are no alternative photographs of you in their house.

Maybe this is a sign of how things might be, I wouldn't be putting any time or effort into them at all now.