My son is almost 15. When I weaned him as a baby I made his food mostly myself and he had a good diet. Over the years he gradually cut good foods out and now will only eat a restricted diet and won't have food that has been touching other food (even when nothing has transferred i.e. dry lettuce touching the side of a sandwich). This has gone on since the age of about 3.
He loves his games console and generally dislikes having to spend time away from it.
He can never see a bigger picture and struggles to accept responsibility i.e. he has just complained to me that he has bought ice cream but the freezer is broken (repair man coming tomorrow) so moaned that it's going to be wasted. He knew it was broke but is acting as though I have failed him somehow!
To tell me this, he walked into the bedroom where I am settling his sister so I told him 'out' but he HAS to tell me what he has come to say despite me telling him to stop and leave so he doesn't wake her up. This is typical of him.
We went out for lunch today and DH mentioned the idea of him getting a little job. He was very irked by this and makes statements about how he has school stress and doesn't want to use up his free time. When we point out he will get extra cash he makes random comments about how we are saying we won't give him money anymore when that's not what we are saying! He twists things.
But he also struggles to communicate with us. He talks quietly around other people and hates if I send him to do a job that means he has to interact with adults - I think he feels self conscious.
And then half an hour later when he's less moody he will hug and kiss us and argue over who loves who more(playfully).
He never ate much lunch today(because the chips he had were chunky restaurant style not skinny fries) and then when we went somewhere else he didn't want to be, he says he's feeling weak. It seems to be his 'go to' to gain sympathy and try and get his own way.
He has his bloods checked about a year ago and all was well. Doc not concerned by his diet as he does eat something.
I don't know if there are bigger issues at play or several smaller issues. Aside from the fact I separated from his biological Dad when he was 22 months he has had a happy childhood and was an only child until 11. He has a good relationship with bio Dasd and has him on an (undeserved) pedestal.
At the age of 6 he went to an education unit on PMs to work on 'classroom skills', learning to put his hand up, not invade personal space etc.
I had him checked for learning difficulties about 3 years ago and it only showed a 'poor working memory'. He is not hitting his target grades at school and barely got grades in his mock exams, he can do better I'm certain he just couldn't be bothered. He's always been behind academically (as an August baby) but is intelligent
He will discuss things he is interested in and repeatedly take conversations back to his interest over a period of hours i.e. talking about the cars he wants when he is older, but coming back to that subject every half an hour for hours.
I don't know if I've made him a spoilt brat or if there is something missed. I'm scared of messing him up if I point all of his 'failings' out to a Dr!