Which decade of your life has been the best so far?

[Frosty6611]

0-10 I was very happy. Had a great childhood.

10-20 was very mixed - 50% of it was great and 50% was awful (badly bullied at one school I went to).

20-30 Awful! My mental health was rock bottom and I made a lot of mistakes during my twenties.

30-40 This is the decade I’m currently in and it’s been the best so far. I’m much happier in my own skin and couldn’t care less what anyone thinks of me now. Sorted out all the financial issues I had in my twenties too and in a happy relationship for once.

It's all been largely amazing. I'm really enjoying my 50s in particular - but that's possibly just because that's where I'm at

30s and 40s have been great, I'm expecting 50s to be great too

Had a happy childhood in a very loving family, but think I am one of those people who enjoy adulthood more: I just like the feeling of being in charge + the greater privacy of adult life.

Had a great time at uni, really great. Managed to spin it out until my late 20s.

30s, very happy in my married life, but rather lonely at first in a new country and with little money. Enjoyed motherhood but missed career.

40s, a lot of struggle with disabled child and worries about future, but again happy marriage.

50s, restarting my career, better late than never. Brexit is causing worries because of combination of career and nationality, but have more confidence in myself and happier in my daily life. More money but also more reason to worry about the future when it comes to finance (pensions).

30s . I was happy then.

Now 53. Not so bad but I am going through the Menopause (though luckily its not been terrible for me) and life is not as happy as it once was .

0 to 20 miserable.
20 to 30 good met DH
30 to 40 great financially did well and travelled a lot
40 to 50 the best when I had DC
50 to 60 not great as health went downhill.

Oh what a good thread

20's bloody awful , no confidence no idea who I was but great in terms of interest in my career, married at the end

30's massive mixed bag birth of my two DC which obviously entirely changed who I was and whilst incandescantly amazing in some regards also brutally hard in others ,marriage ended , career took massive hits (not that they will ever hear or know this but predominantly due to time off due to maternity) but at 39 have finally met love of my life , out of the sleep deprivation baby stage and really beginning to enjoy life (although still dealing with leftover MH issues from some of the start of my thirties)

But in myself I am so much more confidant and know myself in my thirties

I am hugely looking forward to my fourties...actually can't wait and spending this year (only just turned 39 in july) working on myself so I can burst into my fourties and make it the decade to remember

0 - 10 very happy, no worries, the way childhood should be

10 - 20 not so good, lived with my bi-polar mum, bit neglected I think. Although I did meet my partner and have my first child towards the end of the decade so some good points

20 - 30 happy, more dc, finally got a home of our own, enjoyed the dc growing up

30 - 40 again not so good, issues with dc were hard to deal with sometimes, DM was ill a lot of it

40+ Overall good, dgd was born and is the light of my life at the moment, dc are largely sorted and doing good, DP is settled in his job and happier than I think he has ever been, certainly mellower, looking forward to the future.

30s and now 40s more confident in myself, career has taken off, earning more, house lovely, best my marriage has ever been, more sex as more confident, kids older, settled in schools/work, no money worries and life is just sweeter. My 20s were awful, insecure, small children, stressful, skint and bordering on divorce!

every decade just gets better

Childhood was magical. Teenage years were the hardest.

0-10 very happy childhood
11-20 happy, had three children
21-30 got married, and had 3 more children
31-40 is where I am now.
All have had ups and downs.

0-10 just wonderful.
10-20 such a mix of insane highs and intense lows. Probably my favourite decade.
20-30. Shit. Bounced from shit job to shit job, struggling with weight and mh issues. Got better in the last few years as got married then had my lovely dd.
Currently in my last month of being 30.., I feel a lot more settled, and happy. I think this is going to be a really good decade :)

0-20 great - happy loving childhood, great friends, did well academically, first big love. Quite hard for other periods to live up to tbh.

20-30 - overall good. finally qualified in good career, couple of heartbreaks but also happy relationships and a lot of fun. Felt like a lot of potential. Downside was df was diagnosed with dementia and increasingly ill which cast a long shadow.

30-40 - mixed bag. Df worsened and finally died in my late 30s. Met dp but had ups and downs, inc several miscarriages/ fertility worries. Career ok but bit stagnating. Sounds bleak in black and white, but had dc1 at 38 who has been a complete joy.

40s - only a year in but generally good. Dc2 arrived and love having dc. But it has strained my relationship with dp and downside of sleep deprivation etc. Financially comfortable but scared of losing it. DM now also long term terminally ill so not sure what this decade will hold.

Still searching for 'dont give a shit' confidence. I have a bad 'grass is always greener' mindset that colours things and that I'm trying to overcome.

0-12- Awful. Abused, sexually, physically and mentally. My mum drank a lot and needed money for booze. So she let grown men do things to me for money
13-17 - again, bad. Step father hated me, ignored me. No presents, no love, just mental abuse
17-28- awful again. Mental abuse from husband, control etc. Raped at a party. Many years of self hate.
29 to now (37) amazing. Finally got counseling, worked through my issues (took a few years) met a man who actually treats me with respect and we have had a beautiful baby boy. I finally have peace. And I'm going to do everything I can to ensure my son has a good life. It's been hard work but I finally realise I don't need to be everyone else's punching bag. It does get better.

@raffles glad to hear you have overcome so many terrible things and are now happy

0-10...great
10-20...very tough (DM died) but still lots of good parts
20-30...first half..good/bad. Second half, really great

Currently in my 30-40 stage.. could be better but no great disasters which is a bonus!

Thanks frosty. It's been a long road! Loving this thread x

My 40's. Split with abusive ex aged 39 having been with him from 23. So far in my brief stint as 40+ I have made a home for myself and my daughter, fought my anxiety enough that I've been to 3 conventions and met a wonderful man. Life definitely began at 40 for me

@wolfmom - that's so great to hear

20-30’s as I was working, traveling and having a wicked time. Had loads of money, nice clothes, holidays, fun job, bought my first house, nice car.

Probably 10-20. I liked school, I had friends, I didn't have any of the responsibilities I do now.

0-10 was fine too, had a very nice childhood.

20-30 had ups and downs. Had some amazing times as I was young and mostly carefree but also earning money so was able to travel / treat myself / eat and drink in lovely places. Had a shitty 3 year relationship in this decade though!!

30-40 had been ok until this year. I won't lie, I've had the worst year of my life and it's tainted this whole decade for me and will probably taint the rest of my life. It's the decade I had all 3 of my children, so there are some positives.

0-10 difficult, confusing, but of a sad lonely childhood
10-20 gained confidence and made some good friends. Discovered boys and alcohol
20-30 career highs, love life fraught, a lot of parties and fun. Lost my mum which totally changed my path, went traveling. A lot of growth and tough lessons towards the end.
30-40 where I am now.includes meeting and falling in love with husband, changing career, having two dcs, and now getting pregnancy with a third dc and having to defer an MA. I think it does keep getting richer and more interesting and time goes on.
Still working on knowing and loving myself but hopefully starting to get there...

I'd say
0-10 great
10-20 very hard
20-30 hard but in a goal focused way
30-40 final big developments and changes
40-50 BEST DECADE EVER!!!!!!!!!
Cannot wait for the 50's and 60's!!!!!!!!

0-20

0-20 - good!

20-30- Mainly good, had both of my children, got married etc . Slight issues in early twenties when in relationship with my eldests Dad

30+ - partly good! Mental health took a nose dive and I've been battling it a bit on and off since my 30th Birthday! 37 now and more accepting of myself ( that I am who I am now!) and in a job I love - funnily enough working with people with MH issues. Very settled in life, lovely family, house etc. Just wish the anxiety would do one!

0-10 lost 4 of those closest including my own father. Sister was older and didn’t take it well. Used food as my only way of control.

10-20. Suffered with eating issues. Sister bullied me and was toxic to both myself and my mum and often violent to both of us. Met my ex husband, moved in with him. Got married, lost my 1st child to missed miscarriage.
20-30 lost another child to missed miscarriage; had a gorgeous son. Left my ex husband. Returned home. Met a new partner who turned out to be the devil himself. Lost my son to adoption. My mum passed away. Lost my home. Divorce granted. Got a room. Accessed lots of counselling psychotherapy etc. Got a voluntary role. Worked hard secured an internship worked hard there left to corporate and hated it. Left corporate went back into public sector. Learnt loads about finance and auditing and database building. Flourished in my role. Progressed. Moved house just me and 1 flatmate whose one my “family” now. Met a man who makes me happy.

30- 40. Still very early days but so far so good.

I’m hoping this decades the best tbh.