to give less money for this holiday?

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DS is at university, will be going into his 3rd year in October.

He usually still comes on holiday with us.

When we talked about this summer I asked him if he wanted to come with us or if he had stuff planned with friends. He has always talked about going traveling and some friends was going to India, so he thought he would go with him but didn't have the money. I said if he didn't want to come with us I would give him a chunk of money to go traveling, 1.5k.

I offered this because DS has had a very difficult childhood (not with us) and I really wanted him to have this experience.

He has now told us that the friend who was going to India is now going to a former USSR country. I didn't think of the money when he first mentioned it, I was impressed he had the guts to go off the tourist track and rough it a bit traveling. I have since discovered that this country is the new techno club centre which fits in perfectly with his preferred recreational pursuits.

I have already paid for his flight, which was much less than it would have been to India. Would I be VU to massively reduce the amount on offer? He also hasn't worked at all this summer.

I think I would probably say something breezy like ‘so you’ve picked a much shorter trip, how much of your total travelling fund do you think you might be wanting to use this time?’ If he says all of it, then you make clear that once it’s gone, it’s gone - no more will be forthcoming for future trips to India or elsewhere. Then it’s his choice and he’s in full knowledge that he’s not getting any more.
I’d also try and push him to get a job in his holidays from now on. Is he going into work when he graduates, or looking at a postgrad?

No, not to spend on drugs.