To want to rip my own ears off

[Namechangemum100]

Sitting next to fil whilst he tucks into a Chinese takeaway, making the most hideous noises and my ears are bleeding!

Anybody else get filled with an unreasonable amount of rage when having to be subjected to the most awful noise known to man with no place to escape?!

Is there a worse noise than food slapping around the inside of someone else's mouth?

It's been going on for over 20 minutes...someone send help!

Might you have misophonia? Quite a lot of people on MN seem to.

My daughter could have written your post! She has misophonia specifically regarding eating/mouth noises. She is a very relaxed, compassionate and tolerant person, but mouth noises just do her head in. She truly can't help it. She has learned some coping skills to deal with it. When eating in a group, she will silently him to herself in her head (don't know how else to describe it), and it helps her to drown out the sounds.

When dh eats crisps I can hear the crunching through his head. He will be lucky to have a head if he does that regularly.

Oh wow I have never heard of that, maybe a do have it! I thought everybody found those type of noises utterly intolerable.

I currently want to murder some neighbors. They have had very loud trance/rave music that the entire neighborhood can hear going since before 2pm (when I got home) and it's been going nonstop.

I can't stand mouth or eating noises either, OP. I have to leave the room sometimes. Have to change the radio station or channel on tv, I just find it unbearable.

There's a misophonia thread somewhere. I feel your pain.

I have 2 people in my family who are irritated by this.

Actually I find it the rudest behaviour. They glare and are obviously irritated. I’m sure you don’t do this OP.

I actually get anxiety eating crisps.

Obviously there’s a difference between poor table manners and just eating but....

A lot of the time I’m left thinking fuck off why is it ok for you to eat and me not to!

Me too, OP, and FIL too! I can't eat when he's eating. It's disgusting.

I fully sympathise with you op, it's utterly horrible!
I have misophonia, mostly around eating and snoring/sleep noises. I've had it since being a child but never knew what it was until a few years ago.

It makes me feel very queasy and irrationally angry. Mostly with adults though, I can tolerate kids much more easily unless they are really really noisy. It got worse when I was pregnant and I went from irrational anger to upset instead, in that time I lived with friends for two months and I'd sit in my (downstairs) bedroom sobbing with a pillow over my head whilst my friend ate her dinner two rooms away, she was is the loudest eater I've ever met. The only other person to set me off like that was my dad when I was a child as his snoring woke me up but my parents refused to shut their bedroom door which blocked out most of the noise. So I would be in bed sobbing until I eventually fell back to sleep. And they wondered why I was chronically tired

Yes, it's terrible. Sometimes makes me cry. Once you hear it, you can't escape it. Food noises are the worst but breathing, ticking clocks, radio presenters who need a drink and make those clacky noises are up there too. The list is endless. My DH is drinking tea now and I can hear him swallowing it and it's infuriating. I contacted a hypnotherapist about it once who said it was a phobia, but could afford the sessions. Sometimes the movement of people's faces when they eat makes me feel funny too like their temples or jaw, it's awful. I feel your pain but as yet I have no solution. Only the radio or tv talk until they finish then eat.

Sounds like misophonia, it's literally hatred of sound and is the polar opposite of asmr.

Misophonia sufferer here too! It sucks OP, you have my sympathies.

The sounds that get me are hiccups, power tools (esp things like lawnmowers and hedge trimmers), and sleeping noises like snoring. DS is 4 weeks and grunts/gurgles in his sleep from 5am onwards - genuinely makes me cry nearly every bloody morning. DD did it a bit as well but her thing was kicking the cot bars. That made me crazy!

It's like a horrible anger mixed with a desire to run away. I hate it.

@biscuitaddict...radio presenters that need to drink...omg I thought it was just me!

Dh gets hiccups alot, he's lucky I haven't punched him in the head lol

One word.

Snoring.

Fucking bastard snoring. I hate it so much. That and car/burglar alarms in the middle of the night!

@coodlemoodle

Both of my DC's did that also and it was pure torture...I would also cry as it was overwhelmingly frustrating and I could not sleep. Dc1 did it for 12 long weeks which I gritted my teeth and pushed through it, but when dc2 came along and also did it I told dh that he would have to sleep with him until it stopped as it was going to give me a nervous breakdown!

I hear you OP. DH comes from a culture where it’s acceptable for men to make awful slurping and slapping lip noises while they eat. I told DH in our first month that it would have to stop or we had no future. He stopped though occasionally reverts when eating something particularly delicious and forgets himself But when eating with his family I feel like gagging.

It's common, op. I often want to kill my husband when he is eating crisps

There is a vile slimming advert on the radio where the woman is trying to demonstrate how you can eat the things you like and lose weight. She demonstrates this by chomping and talking through the advert. I have to switch it off.

I cannot handle hearing people eat. It not only repulses me but also fills me with a rage. When I was a teen/young adult, my stepdad always knew how much I couldn't stand it, so he would make even louder noises purposely as he watched me cringing on the sly, I often ended up storming out the room crying and I'm not an emotional person, but it got me so worked up.

So no OP, you are definitely NOT being unreasonable at all

I cannot handle hearing people eat. It not only repulses me but also fills me with a rage. When I was a teen/young adult, my stepdad always knew how much I couldn't stand it, so he would make even louder noises purposely as he watched me cringing on the sly, I often ended up storming out the room crying and I'm not an emotional person, but it got me so worked up.

So no OP, you are definitely NOT being unreasonable at all

I cannot handle hearing people eat. It not only repulses me but also fills me with a rage. When I was a teen/young adult, my stepdad always knew how much I couldn't stand it, so he would make even louder noises purposely as he watched me cringing on the sly, I often ended up storming out the room crying and I'm not an emotional person, but it got me so worked up.

So no OP, you are definitely NOT being unreasonable at all

None of my family can stand it, I'm not sure if it's us or my mother who taught us as kids as I do remember being nervous about making noise at tea time. My DH even actually says gulp when he eats a banana. I've tried to copy him to show him but I just don't know how. I feed all my family (3DC as well) then go to the table when they've finished. It's the only way I can stop stabbing them all during dinner.

My dad is the noisiest eater I've ever met. I feel your pain OP

we do not eat togehter unless there is interesting TV/radio to stop the noise.