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AIBU?

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AIBU to say roblox is not suitable for children and ruining our family life

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Slimmingsnake · 04/08/2018 16:14

Murder game with a knife ,shark game with machine guns,robbing a bank with guns ....are these suitable for children?? The constant request for money to be spent on the game..we downloaded it after reading an article saying how good it was for children to learn from.well yes he now knows the names of different machine guns...oh that's an AK 47 mum...I feel duped because I would not of downloaded it if I knew there was knives and guns.....he has autism,and I've had to remove his laptop to keep him off it ..

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DoulaDaisy · 04/08/2018 16:55

Just warn him that he's not to play those types of games and if you catch him playing them then you'll remove the laptop. Either that or don't let him on it at all, your call. You're the parent.

Flyingpompom · 04/08/2018 16:55

Well, what happens if you just say no, you can't play those games?
I am not 'glued' to DD's side, but I am around. I trust her to stick to the rules I set.
If I did catch her breaking those rules then I'd give consequences just like you have.
But it's sounding like you haven't actually tried simply telling him the rules. At 8 he is easily old enough to understand.

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Slimmingsnake · 04/08/2018 16:55

We had chat turned off for every game ..it was never put on when we installed it ...not that that made things any easier

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BoomBoomsCousin · 04/08/2018 16:56

I have refused permission for roblox because of the reports of bullying, which I don’t think my kids are capable,of handling yet. The violence doesn’t seem so realistic and I can’t get upset at just the idea of them playing games with weapons. Kids have been playing fighting games with weapons for generations. Cops and robbers, various versions of war games, Starwars, spy games, Robinhood, laser quest, nerf wars, the list goes on. I’m not horrified by those and I’m not horrified that an online game could include that sort of stuff. But I don’t think it should be too realistic or graphic.

Pinkkahori · 04/08/2018 16:56

My dds play and like others here they play making pizza, running a cafe and build a boat for treasure.
They don't ask for money as they know they won't get it.
They have Kindle Fires and only play in the living room.

I was hesitant about allowing it but decided on a trial run because dd1 felt left out at school. So far it has been fine. No violent games, no whining for money and definitely not addicted.

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Slimmingsnake · 04/08/2018 16:58

We ve tried ,hard at getting him to stick to the rules...removing the laptop was not something I really wanted to do....but it's clearly the only way I can keep him off those games...his autism makes life more difficult,both for him ,and for us to parent him

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colditz · 04/08/2018 16:59

It's not Roblox impacting your family life, it's the ASD. Roblox is not why you have had to remove a laptop, just like Minecraft isn't why I had to remove the ps4 and lock it in the safe. It's the ASD.

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Slimmingsnake · 04/08/2018 17:01

Is there's anyone on this thread that has seen the games I'm talking about? Can you tell me if in your opinion they are to graphic for an 8 year old? Am I the problem? Am I being to controlling???

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MurielsBottom · 04/08/2018 17:02

I blocked the game on our broadband hub for a while as I thought the dc were getting a bit too obsessed with it. I have unblocked it recently and the youngest plays a bit. Mostly making shops and performing in fashion catwalk shows.

megletthesecond · 04/08/2018 17:07

If it's too bad confiscate the screen, pretty much permanently. Mine lost them in March and moaned for a month and life is a bit easier now. They get them if they have to wait while I go to an appointment or if they're poorly and that's it.

longbar · 04/08/2018 17:08

ROBLOX is very "open" and I've never been keen on it. Is there a different game you could buy him to wean him off? (Probably not fortnite!)

ImAGoofyGoober · 04/08/2018 17:09

Have the same issue op. My boy has SN and can’t be trusted not to go on something inappropriate so I have to ban completely.

colditz · 04/08/2018 17:10

I've seen those, slimmingsnake, and I'd have been fine with my 8 year olds playing them (they're older now) .

There is no evidence to support the idea that violent video games breed violent children. Violent PARENTS breed violent children, children who've been sat on their arse for 7 hours with a controller in their hand might be hyperactive and aggressive as a result of lack of exercise, but the actual content does not have a noticable effect on behaviour.

HOwever.

You know your child. If he's going to have nightmares or start waving knives around because he saw it on a computer game. restrict his access. Just don't fall into the trap of making your child even more different than his peers. I don't think it's a good idea to enforce rules that aren't the norm. It makes a child feel different and hard done by.

ImAGoofyGoober · 04/08/2018 17:11

Ps yes I think they are too graphic for a vulnerable mind. Some kids would be fine but I know mine would obsess.

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Slimmingsnake · 04/08/2018 17:11

My only saving grace is he's not been on fortnight..god he'd be addicted in seconds

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ProfessorMoody · 04/08/2018 17:13

Ah, another parent who clearly knows nothing about consoles or gaming, who wants other people to do their parenting.

It's getting boring now.

For the love of god, don't let the poor kid play Fortnite or you'll be having kittens.

multiplemum3 · 04/08/2018 17:15

There's no gore, if you shoot someone they just turn into little blocks. Why don't you try playing it and see you're being slightly ober dramatic

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Slimmingsnake · 04/08/2018 17:16

I've posted in AIBU because this is tearing us apart as a family ..and I've always had a problem with guns and knives being toys...look at all the people diying in London night after night through violence...so how can someone make that in to a child's game with Lego blocks......he thinks I'm to controlling ,he says he going to be a u tuber when grows up.he watches u tubers play the games so he can get better at them.
Now I've taken his laptop,he says he has nothing left to live for ,as he can't play roblox...so AIBU to take the laptop??

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longbar · 04/08/2018 17:19

You can set up controls (well you can on a phone/tablet) that mean no apps can be downloaded without you approvingly them. Is he into FIFA/WWE/plants v zombies? I don't find it easy either OP and that's without the ASd element.
Has he moved past minecraft?

colditz · 04/08/2018 17:19

Yes, YABU

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Slimmingsnake · 04/08/2018 17:19

Professor moody .im not asking you to parent for me.just asking for qenuine advice please

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longbar · 04/08/2018 17:20

Oh come on now though, children have been playing at violence since forever, since the first stick became a make believe gun.

colditz · 04/08/2018 17:21

My genuine advice is this.

make his stay within 3/4 years of the age ratings of the games he plays on. He's 8? he plays nothing high than a 12.

you can't stop him knowing guns and knives exist, and you're being controlling to take a whole laptop away for the sake of the content on one computer game.

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Slimmingsnake · 04/08/2018 17:21

He's not interested in minecraft. I tried suggesting it ,he wouldn't look at it

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Slimmingsnake · 04/08/2018 17:22

I've never given him games for above his age

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