Would you like to vent about a neighbour? (light-hearted)

[CocktailQueenie]

Whilst most of the UK is enjoying sunny weather, most of us are spending more time outside. I love to hear neighbours having fun outside to an extent, however I have a near-neighbour whose very distinctive, booming voice (talking and singing) can be heard far and wide, often until after 11pm weekdays due to the warm evenings. I would love to hear of your good/not-so-good experiences of spending time outside this summer so far....

I'm happily married but I have a deeply inappropriate crush on a neighbour. He's taken to only wearing shorts and every time I go into my garden I see him. It makes me so uncomfortable, I just don't know where to look.

It completely my issue so I'm trying to stay inside as much as possible despite the heat 😮

Our neighbours are lovely, but.... their young children are on the go. All. Day. Long. He is a gardener and uses his lawnmower (petrol so smelly), strimmer (petrol, so smelly), or leaf blower (petrol, you get the drift ;) ) at every opportunity. Especially at the weekend when we are trying to relax in the garden. It can be frustrating but they are so nice, and their garden is gorgeous. They could be worse.

Mine brought two pug puppies to breed, got them when they were 8 weeks old and will breed asap.
Oh and they are to be ‘house dogs’
They are left alone 8till 5.
RSPCA and housing don’t care

Ive lived here one year. They’ve already had a kitten that they kicked out and is now skinny, neurotic and not neutered.

My neighbers are so nosy. Mainly the male I can't have my backdoor open as his house is higher than ours. We are right in the corner. He will stand looking over the fence right into my house. Whenever I go outside he is there just looking over never minding his own business. I go out the front to do abit of gardening and they all come out or their daughter down the road will always conveniently walk up for a chat with them outside. feel like a prisoner in my own home. They are so judgy aswell. When we moved we got warned about them and now we can see why. I don't know how they get any sleep in between being nosy using power tools at all times possible to shouting up and down the road having a convo with their daughter. litrally anytime at night and as early as 5 in the morning I hear their fog horns of a gob. If the children and i go in the back garden it feels like you are being watched and lone behold. You see someone by the fence. The male even leans over messing with our fence or trees that ain't even on his side. it's so annoying and I wonder why my garden is getting in a state I never want to be out. Family members of theirs will stand at the fence and just watch us too it's so creepy..

Two words - Highland Terrier

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NDN seems to take phone calls to all her relatives on speakerphone in the garden. So whilst sat quietly reading my book I hear all about her DS’s girlfriends pregnancy, the baby shower, her other DS’s Uni course and her job. The first few times she did it I felt guilty overhearing, so I moved my chair about so she knew someone was in the garden and could overhear but she seems happy to broadcast her life to the street!

In the other direction the family have an in ground hot tub. The parents seem to go away every other weekend leaving the late teen/early 20s son home alone. The parties don’t start until 11pm and go on until 2/3am. We’re in our mid 30s and are torn between wanting to tell his mum or ask if we can be invited! 😂

Ive lived here one year. They’ve already had a kitten that they kicked out and is now skinny, neurotic and not neutered.

Alonso Tigerheart, do they not feed the kitten? Is there any way you could help it? That's terrible

We have new neighbours. We took a present round and ourselves and they commented on how nice and quiet the area was compared to where they used to live. And yet they delight in playing music so loud that we can hear it with all our doors and windows shut (yes, we have good, modern double glazing). And there's a fair bit of shouting, and a fair bit of weed too.

My former neighbour was a pompous git with a big booming voice. He had two dogs that barked and barked at the slightest noise from my side of the fence - if I so much as opened my dishwasher when my kitchen windows were open the bloody dogs would set off, throwing themselves at the fence. His response, which he seemed to consider adequate, was to bellow, "Spot! Quiet!" You can imagine how effective this was...

There was more, much more. It completely spoiled my enjoyment of my back garden.

He's gone now and the new neighbours are lovely people. We say hello and have a little chat when we meet in the street but apart from that I never hear them.

My NDN gets milk delivered 3 mornings a week...only new build estate and badly designed driveways...diesel milk van stops (and runs noisy engine) under my bedroom window....whilst they merrily run along and deliver the milk to my neighbours front door AT 5 O’CLOCK in the flipping morning!

The family next door have children who play in the garden, all quite normal, but one of them is a screecher, if you didn’t know they were all playing you would think a murder was going on.

Do parents tune out this noise?

Severnwye - I must admit that I hear the (other) neighbour's 2nd child being quite loud and actually just think that the garden is being used 'properly' compared to the music from the otherside that is SO loud. I can quite happily work with the patio doors open with the screaching but if the 'music' goes on they have to be completely closed.

Mine are annoying caravan neighbours, we've got 2 kids and since they arrived their kids have spent all their time either in our caravan or playing right outside with our two.

The parents haven't even waved across or acknowledged us, we could be axe murderers but they're clearly content to have babysitters while they sit inside doing whatever.

The kids are nice enough but are getting a bit too settled, they've been helping themselves to snacks and drinks and even grabbed one of our towels to use as a cape.

I told ours to go and play in their caravan but apparently the Mum has said they're not allowed to!

KasimirPushkino

They don’t feed it no, they sometimes shake a pouch for him but when he doesn’t come they bin it
We leave out food as do others but cannot get close to catch it. Its been in their garden a lot this past few week and im slowly getting closer, I can get it to take dreamies from my hand but only through the wire fence.
It will sit in my garden with me pottering around now and I’m slowly moving closer I’m going to start throwing him treats when it’s in my garden next.
Although what I’ll do with him if I catch him I don’t know, RSPCA don’t care, might have to catnap him and find him another home.
My girl cats welcome him in the garden but won’t tolerate another cat in the house or I’d keep him

We moved two weeks ago and at every viewing and all the times we were at the house decorating everything was almost unnervingly quiet. The night we moved in three different houses were having parties with loud music and kids screeching at gone 11pm. That seems to have been a one off but next door (connected semi) are SO loud. They can't communicate without shouting aggressively. I don't know how they can be bothered to live like that, it is exhausting just to listen to. Plus constant banging and sawing until late at night and constant tv noise unless we have ours on.

I'm going to have to say something since DH works nights and I WFH regularly.

Has anyone approached the council Environmental Health noise department for particularly bad neighbours?

I'm not well at the moment (chronic condition) and my terraced neighbours are LOUD (30-something high earners, no kids, act like students, seem to have a really high opinion of themselves ). Unfortunately they moved in not long after me as the previous (lovely) occupant sadly died.

I've approached them nicely, tried to develop a rapport, suggest compromise, tried my best not to come across as a killjoy - all the usual stuff. No joy and I get the feeling they bitch about me as a nag. I'm not a nag, just unwell, lacking confidence (hate confrontation), living alone. Their antics are making my illness worse as I'm constantly on edge 24/7. I need to move but not currently in a position to due to ill health.

I'm toying with reporting them but don't want to escalate things (they seem very petty and I'm afraid of reprisals). I don't think I really have the fight in me for loads of diary-keeping, confrontation and mediation which ultimately leads to nothing and will affect my sale as I understand you have to declare such disputes.

Sorry this makes me sound very pathetic. If my health was better or I had a partner/ally I'd be more inclined to pursue it. Just wondering if anyone had any positive experiences.

Our new neighbour who in most ways is absolutely lovely does insist on moving her wheelie bins around at 6am. Not on bin day either? Our bedroom window overlooks her bins. Grrrrr

Ah finally I have found my place to let off steam! One side of my house has been turned into NASS housing for asylum seekers. No issue with that in itself, but the management company are shit and don't seem to explain to the residents about bin day so we always have tons of rubbish in the wrong bags stinking out the street. The council come out, fine the management company, and the same happens the next week.
The guys who live there at the moment seem nice enough but they slam their front door all times of day and night, I've never known a house to be so busy with people coming and going. It's a three bed terrace so could have been converted into a 5 bed but there seem to be millions more living there.
The guy in the bedroom next to mine seems to have gatherings in his room from about 10pm till gone 2 every night. Lots of laughing and loud talking which I know I can't complain about but with the windows open, it's really irritating when I'm trying to sleep.
Plus an older guy turned up yesterday and was spitting on the pavement and in the front forecourts (including mine), not just spit but that horrible phlegmy hacking up noise 🤢🤮🤮
Aaah, I feel better now 😁

Gareth'swaistcoat - I understand that the thing to do is to make sure you keep a diary, then the next step is to get a noise meter to determine what level of disturbance is being caused... The Environmental Health team should be able to help you with this if you can provide them with a 'diary' type list of when and how you're being disturbed.

Not so light hearted sorry

Neighbors are drug dealers often the police are around and they have had a few armed raids (which actually was quite exciting)

I do wonder what they do with their money. They have a big house, change cars often always expensive cars but rarely seem to go out and have never known them to go on holiday it’s not very Soprano like

Alonso Tigerheart You're a very kind person, thank you for helping that poor little soul your neighbours have just heartlessly abandoned. You could try Cats Protection, but if they are full up, often the much smaller, local rescues are a good bet. Good luck with the catching and rehoming and bless you for caring

mistlethrush thank you for the advice. OP sorry for crashing your thread
It's horrible reading about all these antisocial b*stards

We both own, I'd feel better if they rented as I'd be on at their LL. I don't think they have any intention to leave. As it's coming up to 5yrs I think I may just have to cut my losses and move. I just don't have any faith in the council and the noise they're creating is difficult to define - not necessary loud music or motorbikes or whatever. Booming voices, cackling, shrieking, scraping their wood burning stove, footsteps, slams, thuds and bangs as they've polished the floorboards and and removed chimney breasts. Often audible music but it doesn't seem enough to form a pattern/ loud enough to constitute a proper nuisance. I can't open my windows in this weather as they have the bifold doors and skylights open in their kitchen extension and the noise is just travelling everywhere.

And their neighbours the other side seem really laid back.

NDN kids (aged 4 and 2) playing outside at 10.30pm. Not only does this keep my kids (3 and 4), who go to bed at 7pm, awake, but also saying things like 'but X is still playing out, why can't I?

My neighbours' (at the back) stupid yappy dog is currently yapping in the garden. 11.50 pm and everyone has their windows open.