To think this baby shower invitation in beyond weird?

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I’m not a fan of baby showers anyway, but today I received an invitation with the details on and other cringey baby related stuff, plus a footnote at the end telling me that although they’re pleased to have everyone attend, they do request no one shares details of the day on social media .

Everyone who cares she’s pregnant already knows. AIBU to think they is beyond controlling and precious?

Some people just don't want to splash their lives across the Internet.

But the OP has already said that the pregnancy is plastered all over Facebook, so it doesn't sound like she should trying to keep the news off social media.

It'll be a professional photographer, they'll want the professional pictures only and if the gender hasn't been announced yet I bet there is some lavish reveal too.

The best baby shower I've been to was a low key one that happened fairly recently. The others have been so over the top and awful, lots of demands and a present list. OP I think people are assuming that this one is a normal and low key event which is why you're getting a hard time. If she's plastered the pregnancy on Facebook and is having a baby shower then I doubt this rule is anything to do with privacy or saving feelings.

I did the same thing but purely because I didn’t want to invite my SIL. She’s family so obviously I don’t want to upset her however I just wanted a fun time with my friends. Could me some thing similar

OP I think people are assuming that this one is a normal and low key event which is why you're getting a hard time.

I’m quite happy to concede that I’m being unreasonable but I was still quite surprised at everyone’s reactions, but perhaps it’s this? It’s not a low key, in the house/small gathering event, she’s booked a pub and it’s a party, albeit an afternoon one. I can also understand those who are private and not into social media not being keen on the idea, but she is a very enthusiastic user of Facebook, everything is on there. She’s also had plenty of parties for birthdays/engagement/wedding without this request. I can’t work it out.

Nothing to work out she doesn't want it in FB it's her event end of

Just off the top of my head:

1. She might be low or no contact with an intrusive family member who doesn't know she's pregnant and wants to keep it that way. She can post on her own feed if the NC person is blocked and feel relatively safe, but there's always the risk of another guest tagging her or posting photos from a public account and that family member seeing it.
2. She could have a friend or relative attending that has a stalker or abusive ex and wants the guest to feel safe to attend.
3. She may just hate the way she looks while pregnant. Not every woman feels like a glowing, fertility goddess during pregnancy contrary to public opinion. There's a big difference between posting a few carefully selected, cropped, filtered, and edited photos on your own page and seeing hundreds of images of your hormonal pregnant self from unflattering angles flood social media feeds without your consent or say so.
4. Perhaps she's planning to be a parent who respects her kid's right to digital privacy and doesn't post public images of him or her online, period, so she figures she might as well put them boundary out there and enforce it now rather than try to claw it back later on.
5. Or idk maybe she is being precious about it, but it's her baby shower and she's growing a human now, so I say let the woman live, OP.

Why do you need to 'work it out?' OP? just go or dont go - youve been invited and you have said - you dont like baby showers in your original post - it sounds as if you are looking for reasons not to go - then dont. Maybe just this once she doesnt want this part of her pregnancy to be on the internet, maybe she doesnt want certain people to know shes having a party, maybe maybe maybe - so many reasons but seriously, why do you care? If shes a good friend go. If you dont want to go - then dont.