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Original poster

to not share a room with my teenage son

53 replies

user546425732 · 01/08/2018 21:54

We have booked a last minute holiday and have three rooms - one for a friend and then two twin rooms which can either be a double or a twin. I have always share a twin with my youngest teenager but this time my 20 year old (away at university) and my youngest teenager have said they'd like to share a room so they can spend time together chatting all night and not getting any sleep which means I can have a double room to myself, something I've never done.

I'm feeling guilty about not sharing with him, AIBU?

If it makes any difference, it's a cruise. Our rooms are adjacent but not adjoining.

OP posts:
Justkeeprollingalong · 01/08/2018 21:56

Why are you feeling guilty? They want to share, you aren’t making them.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 01/08/2018 21:58

Sound like an excellent plan!
Don't talk them out of it.

DailyMailcanfuckthefuckoff · 01/08/2018 21:58

God, are you kidding?! Enjoy your own space on your cruise holiday - it sounds wonderful!

FatToni · 01/08/2018 21:59

Don't understand at all why you'd feel guilty.
'Mum can I please...'
'Yes of course...'

Why guilt?

Chickychoccyegg · 01/08/2018 21:59

absolutely no idea why you would.feel guilty, enjoy your own space!!Smile

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 01/08/2018 21:59

Eh? I’m not sure I understand what your issue is?

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user546425732 · 01/08/2018 22:00

I think it's cos it's a cruise, what if we hit an iceberg or something I know this isn't likely in the Med

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Byebyebye · 01/08/2018 22:00

I don’t understand why you’re feeling guilty about your teenaged children sharing a room on holiday instead of with you.

I would say that’s the norm really?

Doilooklikeatourist · 01/08/2018 22:00

Sounds great
I love a cruise
We had connecting cabins when the DC were teens , and the balcony opened up so we could share that space ( though DD refused to go out on it )

MsVestibule · 01/08/2018 22:00

I genuinely don't understand why you would possibly feel guilty about this Confused. Surely your two teens sharing and you sleeping by yourself is the most rational way of doing things?

TwitterQueen1 · 01/08/2018 22:00

Are you completely mad woman?! Why on earth do you feel guilty? Grab that room now!

TroubledLichen · 01/08/2018 22:01

Sounds brilliant! I can’t believe you’d even consider sharing with the younger teenage DS so that the older one can have his own room, I definitely do not understand why you’d be feeling guilty... Enjoy your holiday and having your own room Grin

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user546425732 · 01/08/2018 22:02

We have always done it so my eldest shared with one adult when they were younger and I shared with the younger one. Now it's just me as the parent it's always been that the elder teen had a room to themselves and I shared with the younger one when they were a pre-teen but this time they are both teenagers and want to share.

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Singlenotsingle · 01/08/2018 22:03

Why on earth would you want to share with a teenage son? And why would he want to share with you? What nonsense is this? Enjoy some peace and privacy!

IsTheRainEverComingBack · 01/08/2018 22:05

I see no issue. It’s by far the most obvious plan that they share. Relax and enjoy your own room!

BlueJava · 01/08/2018 22:05

In no way would I feel guilty! Our 2 DS have had their own room in hotels since approx age 9, because there was no way they were being in ours! Sometimes when in Asia I've thought "what are the fire regs like here?" but we've always tried to be on the same floor.

Margueritte · 01/08/2018 22:06

So before you were single, you never shared a room with OH in holiday?

You have no need to feel guilty! Make up for lost time by stretching like a starfish on your own in a double taking a lover.

Original poster
user546425732 · 01/08/2018 22:06

And why would he want to share with you?

He doesn't get a choice, at least he hasn't done until now.

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IsTheRainEverComingBack · 01/08/2018 22:07

Hang on, when there were two parents the kids still shared with one parent each? That makes no sense, why didn’t you share with your partner?

Original poster
user546425732 · 01/08/2018 22:08

So before you were single, you never shared a room with OH in holiday?

No! he snored like a pig and the children both wanted to be with an adult, often that was the rules when we went on a cruise and the family cabins for 4 are like a hamster cage.

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InDubiousBattle · 01/08/2018 22:08

Your younger teen will have his big brother in the event of an iceberg in the med!

IceCreamFace · 01/08/2018 22:09

It's way more natural for the two "kids" to share. A teenage boy won't want to share with his mum!

calzone · 01/08/2018 22:12

Weird

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user546425732 · 01/08/2018 22:13

Your younger teen will have his big brother in the event of an iceberg in the med!

I guess...and they can both swim Grin

just don't mention sharks

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Nicknacky · 01/08/2018 22:14

It would never have occurred to me to share with my kids. They share and I get the room to myself (or with h).

No wonder they want to share with their siblings.

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