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to not share a room with my teenage son

53 replies

user546425732 · 01/08/2018 21:54

We have booked a last minute holiday and have three rooms - one for a friend and then two twin rooms which can either be a double or a twin. I have always share a twin with my youngest teenager but this time my 20 year old (away at university) and my youngest teenager have said they'd like to share a room so they can spend time together chatting all night and not getting any sleep which means I can have a double room to myself, something I've never done.

I'm feeling guilty about not sharing with him, AIBU?

If it makes any difference, it's a cruise. Our rooms are adjacent but not adjoining.

OP posts:
mumeeee · 01/08/2018 22:15

I don't understand if there is actually no need for your teenage son to share with you that is great.
We do sometimes share a with our youngest daughter but only if there is no other option

Casmama · 01/08/2018 22:19

I hate to tell you this but if your eldest is 20 then your youngest is sharing with an adult 😄
Relax and enjoy

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 01/08/2018 22:21

This is just getting weirder.

You and your DH seriously never shared a room when on holiday? But each one of you shared with one of the children?

Just - why?

This is one of the bizarrest things I’ve read on here for a long time Confused

rosenylund · 01/08/2018 22:23

They will have loads of fun, my sister is quite a bit older than me. I used to love it when she came from uni at Christmas and we had to share a room. Great memories.

Tomatoesrock · 01/08/2018 22:27

Sounds ideal.

They are at a more independent age, it is time to enjoy the rewards. I will be doing back flips when I get to that stage.

pumpkintree · 01/08/2018 22:28

@bluejava. Are you for real leaving 9 year olds in hotel rooms by themselves over night? Even worse maybe on another floor.

FrogFairy · 01/08/2018 22:29

Nope, no guilt. You should rejoice in the fact that —you get a room all to yourself— your teenagers want to spend time together.

FrogFairy · 01/08/2018 22:30

Strike through fail. Why does it never bloody work for me?

longbar · 01/08/2018 22:30

When they were littler did you not get family rooms?

OlennasWimple · 01/08/2018 22:31

It sounds like the perfect set up to me - everyone should be happy with it!

RoseTinted1 · 01/08/2018 22:33

What?
I am absolutely baffled.

You say he's a teen... why would he want to share with his mum at that age Confused

SaucyJack · 01/08/2018 22:35

He’ll have far more fun with his big brother, than his boring old Mum Wink Win-win all round.

They’ll be up all night talking about girls, and drowning each other in Lynx Africa. You’re well out of it.

pallisers · 01/08/2018 22:44

weirdy weird.

Bearbehind · 01/08/2018 22:49

This is beyond weird.

A teenage son sleeping with his mother rather than his early twenties brother is creepy tbh.

NovellNetware · 01/08/2018 22:51

Why on earth would two teens not share a room? what's wrong with them wanting to talk all night? i think that's lovely since one the older one is usually away at UniSmile. They're obviously gagging for a bit of brotherly bonding.

I have 2 myself and when we went on a cruise they shared a cabin with an adjoining door. They were aged 7 and 10. It never occurred to us to split them up and share with each, what a strange idea.Confused

LuluJakey1 · 01/08/2018 22:52

If you hit an ice berg would you not just quickly get dressed in a full length edwardian nightdress with dressing gown and winter coat, ladies hat and life jacket over, (not forgetting to empty the safe of your jewellery and stuff it in the lining of your winter coat) while a servant does the same for your children?
Then leave the servant to see to herself and drown while you make your way up to the boat decks. You may have to leave your older son of course, as he will be expected to stay with the men and the orchestra- unless you dress him in a nightgown and spare dressing gown and ladies hat so he can get in one of the boats.
With it being 32C in the med at the moment, you may be lucky and not see any ice bergs.

Emilizz34 · 01/08/2018 22:53

Sorry but I find it very bizarre that you would want to share a room with your teenage son when he wants to share with his older brother . Do you normally share a room with him at home ?
Teenage boys need their space and privacy. He’s sharing with his brother not some stranger .

thegreatbeyond · 01/08/2018 23:05

Hahahahahaha!

My eldest two (15 and 21) would always share. They'd be on some ridiculous video game which I don't need to know about.

Enjoy.

Ellie56 · 01/08/2018 23:08

Ofcourse teenage boy does not want to share with Mummy!

Are you for real?

Bouledeneige · 01/08/2018 23:09

The other way round is tough - I just went on holiday with my teen son and asked for single beds but in a few places this wasn't possible (think off the beaten track in a developing country). It starts to feel a bit inappropriate/intrusive.

Enjoy the space. And be glad your sons are close. They will be the ones saving you in a crisis.

KatieKittens · 01/08/2018 23:19

Sounds like a perfect arrangement - although I do understand that part of you might feel like you are neglecting your parental responsibility. Your younger son is a teenager now, it’s important to support him to become more independent.

As an aside- I’m so jealous of your holidayGrin

EmmaC78 · 01/08/2018 23:19

It seems odd to share a room with him. When I saw the thread title I assumed it was about a situation where you were going to be forced to share a room with your teenage son and were trying to find a way round it!

lizzie1970a · 01/08/2018 23:20

I took my 2 on a cruise when they were 17 and 15. I was in bed hours before they rolled in about 3am. They made so many friends and were spending time with them. You won't see them.

pallisers · 01/08/2018 23:33

I suspect the younger one texted his brother and said "look she is talking about sharing with me again. For the love of god please help me out here and tell her you want to share with me. Otherwise I don't know what I'll do. I'll owe you man"

Italiangreyhound · 01/08/2018 23:39

They want to share and you get your own room.

Win/win

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