To be pissed off at stupid comments?!

[PriscillaSM]

I've recently bought my own house. I'm relatively young (early 20s) and have been saving since I started working full time 6 years ago and have finally been able to afford a deposit and get a mortgage etc. Feeling proud of myself for managing to do this at my age if I'm honest.

So why do people feel the need to constantly tell me that I shouldn't have done so without a man? That I will not be able to cope with bills without a man? That I should have waited until I have a man because obviously I need a man to run the house?

WIBU to tell them to piss off with their unneeded comments?!

Someone has really said those things to you? Really? 🤔🤔

WOMEN KNOW YOUR LIMITS

Well done. You’ll do just fine. Maybe even meet one of these illustrious men things to show you how to run your house. In the meantime, i suggest showering at the gym and some woolly jumpers to keep warm. And if in doubt on anything, make sure you ask anyone in possession of a penis to assist you. 🙄

Ha! Think I know what you're hinting at, it starts with i if I'm right!

Anyway big congrats again, and ignore all the silly remarks, you're in a great position now.

@UpTheBumNoBabies yes really!

@HollowTalk I haven’t mentioned any amount to people (how much my deposit was, how much my mortgage is, how much I earn etc) they only know how much the house was because they found the advert in right move

@AbsentmindedWoman you’ve hit the nail on the head! Although in my defence I’m one of the nice people that get people more money!

Nobody said this to me when I bought my first house on my own... very weird thing to say. Don't think you should be upset about it, you are clearly surrounded by very strange people!

I had more comments when I bought with my boyfriend, and that was only two! About how it's unwise to buy a house with a man you aren't married to. I just laugh.

Thick skin is a wonderful thing.

Not unreasonable to want to tell them that though I suggest you just that you are really pleased with having your own home and being single. Let's face it, it is an achievement!

I expect there are others who don't make negative comments and are pleased for, concentrate on those. Those who bleat are merely thinking that they wouldn't take on a house without a man in tow - probably can't change a plug and are a little envious of you.

All I will say to you is, well done girl!

I bought myself a house as a single mum of two... absolutely no one said anything negative, on the contrary... I was congratulated more than a few times for doing it in my own.

My DP has moved in now.. thank god, he’s amazing at DIY! 😂

I own a house with my DH and I generally unblock the sink myself as we works away! No household jobs require a penis

I agree... a man just isn’t needed, for anything really! They’re just lucky we still want them 😂

We’ve done stuff in our house that I couldn’t have done on my own, ie. knocked down walls, fitted a new kitchen in from scratch on our own, laid massive Indian sandstone slabs in the garden etc. Those were just not one person jobs, and I didn’t have the physical strength for some of them, but I’d have saved and paid someone else had he not been around.

I second the suggestions of enquiring what issues around the house require a penis....because I always thought mortgages were signed by a pen (or rather computer) silly me

My dmum occasionally comments about being happy I have a man about the house...shes always terribly (but very britishly hides it) perturbed when I point out he does the cooking and cleaning and I earn the money I think the whole thing confuses her and sets off an internal glitch so she ignores the whole sorry escapade

Congratulations on your house OP I wish you luck and may you never buy a white good that you suddenly discover is penii only operated

Plus a man doesnt always help with the bins...last time I forgot I rolled over and kicked DP to run down and he helpfully responded

"Wfglt gargle fargle....fish "or something akin no sodding use there

(So the bin men got to see my fetching pyjamas with cupcakes on)

Congratulations! The fact you can afford to do this single is fantastic and will do wonders for your future. When my DH and I got together we both loved at home. I was always envious of people we knew who both owed a home and were able to sell one as huge profit and either pay off or significantly reduce mortgage on the other. In one case we knew a couple who sold one house, rented out the other and went traveling for a year on the proceeds.

Enjoy your home, your investment and your independence x

I'm really quite bemused that even one person has said this to you, let alone many people.

I bought my house when I was 19, in 1990, in the NE of England (hardly an area of progressive thinking back then) and not one person said this to me . Whereabouts in the country are you that people have such backward thinking?

Well done!

Dd is 23 and has just started work after getting her degree. Her plan is to save up a deposit and buy rather than renting. I doubt she'll want to do this as a couple as she wants the security of knowing it's all hers.

There are always people who have old fashioned views. Surprising number of them on here..
I'm uusually that annoying person who makes the "you don't need a pens to do X" comment but actually I imagine it could be useful when unblocking a drain!

Wtf why would anyone say that? They're just jealous that you're so capable and are already paying off your mortgage. Ignore them.

StealthPolarBear that’s put an image in my head that I can’t erase!

WTAF?? I suppose now its so hard to get on the housing ladder, that makes people a bit more judgy. I guess I was lucky, back in the '90's you didn't need a huge deposit, housing was cheaper and you still had to go and pick up paper particulars from an estate agent, none of this rightmove.co.uk malarkey.
Even so, none of my friends or (mostly male) colleagues felt the need to judge coz I was buying without the 'security' of a man. Except perhaps the mortgage adviser, who thought the little woman he had been sent to talk down to would be easy to earn some commission off after some flashing of his shiny laptop. He didn't reckon on the fact that I worked for the company that MADE his laptop so wasn't impressed; nor that I'd previously worked in a bank so had already found a bloody good deal. He gave up after 30 minutes and slunk off home

Granted it is a hell of lot easier bill wise to be living with someone. Regardless of the genders.

I fail to believe these comments were said however.

Many moons ago I bought my own place, thankfully no-one suggested I shouldn't do it without a man, I was in my early 20s at the time (except for a double glazing salesman who tried to bully me in to signing up for new windows there and then, he refused to leave my house without a signature. I had to call the police to get him to go away).

Well done, some people just have to make personal comments to try and bring you down. Ignore them. Or 'when I want an opinion I'll ask for one'