That it takes so long for my online shopping to be delivered

[grumpydaddy]

First-time poster here. We just had our first child 6 months ago, and as a stay at home dad, one of the things I've weirdly found most frustrating is how long it takes my online shopping to be delivered (we live in SF).

I don't want the hassle of getting our son ready to go to the shops, and so mostly shop online, but if he loses his dummy, I shrink his clothes or a whole host of other things - I tend to want the item straight away, not wait 3-5 days.

Tell me I'm not mad! Anyone else have a similar frustration? And anyone found anywhere that will do faster delivery (other than Amazon)?

TheQueef what sort of birth injury is a man going to have sustained? Bumped head from fainting with joy? Sore hand from woman’s grip on it? Wounded pride as mother swears at him “this is all your fault you bastard?”.

I’m not assuming anything Queef. He clearly states he’s the father in his first paragraph

Or one of two fathers. I’m not assuming his partner’s gender.

RedneckStumpy, Maine? Isn't that where cps are being a bit over zealous with removing children? If you don't mind me asking of course

If anything the current feeling is that they're being a bit under-zealous, what with two recent deaths of children at the hands of children who were being overseen by CPS but who CPS had chosen to leave with their parents. Just yesterday it was front page news in Maine that CPS is under-staffed and under-funded and that the governor is trying to fix the situation without actually providing any more staffing - which is unsurprising to anyone familiar with the governor.

Username also a pretty big clue. Or were you joking that OP is maybe a female-to-male transgender person who had a biological child but now identifies as Dad?
TBH I think that someone who can’t manage the logistics of popping out with a 6 month old to buy a babygro is unlikely to have had the resilience to have changed genders!

Just don't use dummies and stick to hand-washing - problem solved, OP.

Yes I was joking that the OP was possibly a female to male self id parent.

I'm surprised Amazon takes 3-5 days to deliver to SF when I can consistently get items delivered to Maine in 2 days.

I don't know how it works in the US but in the UK you can order a shop for 3-5 days time and then amend/edit your order until the day before it arrives.

For food orders it really depends on where you live in the US. There is no supermarket that delivers food to where I live, and that's pretty normal for the US outside of major cities. But Amazon, Walmart, Target etc deliver non-food items pretty much everywhere.

I am pinning my hopes on Instacart arriving sometime soon...

“Yes I was joking that the OP was possibly a female to male self id parent.”

Ah. I see. But then I’d be assuming his sex- and not his gender.....

It's not hard to go to the supermarket. I have twins and I've been taking them since they were about 2 months old. Getting out of the house is what kept me sane.

What's this SF shit???

They don't even have online supermarket shopping over there anyway

Could you get together with a few others and do a rota of car shopping?

I could but it doesn’t bother me that much, the supermarket is only a 30 mile round trip

They don't even have online supermarket shopping over there anyway

We're just imagining Instacart?

Do you not have Instacart or any of the other apps in SF?
Seems odd given it's the home of tech

I used it when I was in NYC and DC and would have my shopping with me in a few hours

I regarded going shopping as the highlight of my week when on Mat leave - even for emergency nappies or similar! Any excuse to leave the house, interact with other adults (other than DP) and maybe get a cheeky coffee...

And getting child ready? In my case as long as DC was dry, wearing something and I had a spare nappy and another item of clothing then we were ready! PJ's, onesie or something fancy didn't matter! But maybe my standards were very low...

But fast delivery -amazon. always.

Yup - we have Instacart, it's more for when shopping on websites that don't sell through Amazon or Instacart (I guess because they don't want to devalue their brand). Instacart is also very expensive, although I suppose you pay for the convenience.

They don't even have online supermarket shopping over there anyway

Delph as pp have said, yes we do.

Click and collect from the supermarket seems to be far more popular though. Certainly where I am people are not very comfortable at all with strangers coming to their door.

Then the answer is to be generally more organised.

Have more than one dummy, have a few spare sets of clothes
Think ahead and order ahead

I think this is how 99% of the population operate when they are looking after children

(Also, what on Earth are you dressing your baby in that can shrink in the wash? )

Click and collect from the supermarket seems to be far more popular though

I really like click and collect - you don't have to sit around waiting for the delivery to arrive. I'm not sure I'd even bother with delivery if they started offering it here now.

In London you can use Amazon Prime Now for a limited range of deliveries within a couple of hours. They must have the same thing in SF, being a major tech city. You pay extra for it and there's pressure to tip the delivery person.

It'll become more common over time as people get lazy and want things quickly without the hassle of driving to the shops. You can see it happening with so many young people (in London at least) using deliveroo to have takeaway and restaurant meals delivered to home rather than cooking.

Sadly Amazon and the like are slowly killing off our High Street stores, but that's life.