To be fed up of no family support :(

[Mummysharkdoodoodoo]

I’m so fed up. We only have mil living near us, apart from her we don’t have anyone else. She has never offered to have dd which obviously she doesn’t have too but would be nice. She comes round once a month even though she lives in the same town. She is in her 40s so not old. She always makes promises that she will do things with dd but it’s bever happened. Me and dh don’t get any time together. Anyway, we asked mil if she could have dd while we went to watch Arctic Monkeys (our fave ever band). She said yes of course, so we bought tickets. It’s next month and she’s now saying she won’t have her, She hasn’t given a reason.

I’m so upset. We will now have to sell(? If you can?) the tickets. It’s in London so cant just get a babysitter and go in the evening, would have to go in the afternoon.

Im so upset. I have a dad but he’s disabled.

“Me and dh don’t get any time together.”

But you have a usual babysitter? Do you mean child minder, as in you use them when you and dh are working?

If so, even more important to get the sleep thing sorted. It’s not good for you and your dh to never get time as a couple because you can’t go out in the evening

Its not about being "obliged", its about caring for family members, and giving a helping hand. Believe it or not this used to be the norm!

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This x1000

That’s so mean. Can you sit her down and explain to her that you really want to go to this concert and would one night of her life could be sacrificed for you two. I don’t get people sometimes it’s a few hours.

Could it be something to do with her new partner? I agree that childcare shouldn’t be expected, but neither should anyone offer to do something then back out with no explanation.

Daisy that’s great for you and your kids but I always felt an inconvenience to my DPs - only had one GP on each side and neither were in the best of health so childcare from them wasn’t an option for more than a couple of hours. Even now, my parents will mention things like “Well we couldn’t go out as we had nobody to look after you two” and “We didn’t have much money as I (from DM) had to give up work once you were born”. I was born late 70s and there weren’t as many day nurseries and CMs around in those days (so I’m told).