Work colleague is an abuser
I mentioned in another thread (different screen name) that I work with a man who is/was abusive towards his ex-partner. He said to me that he had had the police called on him when he squeezed her neck. They are both very early twenties and have two young dc. They separated and he was telling me and everyone who was in his path that ‘if another man ever had his dick inside her’ he would go round there with a cleaver and cut it off. Also that ‘he couldn’t be held responsible for his actions’.
I said she’s just had a baby, she’s not thinking about dating. He said she can’t help herself, she’s a whore.
I reported the threats to 101.
He’s not just hateful towards his ex but also downright racist and bizarre.
My work environment is blue collar, male dominated and none of the bosses are going to ‘snitch’ on him to senior management or anything. He does the best work out of us all so will never be reprimanded or let go.
He is so intelligent e.g. if someone says they are going to Greece for holiday, he will say ‘oh today is their national day’ , if someone is having celery he will say ‘ oh celery was banned in Russia in 1873 by Rasputin’ or whatever, and he will be right, if someone says they are going to Torquay, he will know that they refused to drive on the left there till 1903. (I’ve made up these facts but I’m just trying to illustrate his encyclopaedic knowledge.)
When I first started working there I thought he was charming.
I just need to vent here about some of the things he has said, just this past week, plus my responses.
He is Asian himself btw
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l hate P-ki women, I don’t find them attractive. I will only go out with blondes but they are all whores, it’s their culture
Me - well you are having sex outside of marriage, some could say that’s immoral. Him:‘Well I’ve never cheated’
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She’s a bitch and won’t let me see my kids - I gave him the number for a free legal helpline. A week later he has not called them he says.
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She’s a cold hearted bitch
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- me: if someone had tried to strangle me I would be cold towards them.
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She’s so stupid, she can’t even tie her shoe laces properly.
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Me: Well why did you decide to date someone so stupid? That’s a reflection on you.
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Him: I was probably just horny.
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she makes me so angry I can’t control myself
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Me: all adults can control themselves and you manage to control yourself during very stressful work situations.
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She attacked me! Well then you walk away from the situation.
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She knows how to push my buttons
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(oogling a customer) she looks almost as if she were a white girl in a black womans body but without the awful hair and nose.
My dad was violent and abusive - randomly in the middle of work.
(In a fake Chinese accent) - me so horny me love you long time - to the room in general.
I hate blacks! I mean when playing chess ha ha ha!
Since I’ve started answering back he’s not being the cheeky chappie to me so much. I’ve seen him smile then drop the smile, if you know what I mean. I’m not scared because I only interact with him in public.