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To think you should get a response after job interview

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Wishfulmakeupping · 31/07/2018 12:26

Went for an interview last week was told they’d let everyone know the outcome at the latest by Monday.
I’m assuming I’ve not got it but surely its not too much to put someone out of their misery and just say they’ve not got it.
I’ve sent a follow up email thanking them etc hoping that might’ve reminded them to give me an actually response but nothing back to that either.
I really wanted that job and thought I’d done well :(

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sue51 · 31/07/2018 12:33

It's very rude not to let people know. Can you call their he department and ask for feedback?

sue51 · 31/07/2018 12:33

HR not he

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Wishfulmakeupping · 31/07/2018 12:35

I sent an email if I’ve not heard anything after a few more days in the small chance that they are still considering me and I don’t want to put them off by being pushy.
I know logically I’ve not got it but in my heart I’ve still got my hopes up.

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trancepants · 31/07/2018 12:37

I had that some years ago. I felt it was a great interview. I got on well with the panel and they talked to me as if I was extremely likely to get the job. Then I never heard anything back ever again. Obviously the point came where I felt I obviously didn't have the job but without a letter to say 'thanks but no thanks,' I was left hoping for quite a few weeks that maybe I would get good news after all. That maybe I'd been second or third choice and the people offered the job ahead of me weren't taking it. It was very rude. Though I guess I can console myself that I didn't want to end up working for such a rude organisation.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 31/07/2018 12:46

Yes trance so similar great interview, test went well, panel making very encouraging noises even asking me how I would like to work the hours etc when I could start etc but nothing 😥

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thedevilinablackdress · 31/07/2018 12:48

Yes they should and it's very frustrating. Sometimes these things end up taking longer than anticipated and you may still hear. Or sometimes, they're just a bit rubbish and don't get back to you.

IceCreamFace · 31/07/2018 12:51

Obviously this varies industry to industry but sometimes they have a first choice, second choice, third choice etc candidate and some candidates who they definitely don't want to hire. They'll tell the 1st choice person and those that definitely aren't in the running and then wait until the 1st choice person either accepts (in which case they'll tell the runners up) or rejects in which case they'll tell the next choice person they've got the job. So if you're say third in the running it can take a while to find out either way if the front runners take time deciding.

LartenCrepsley · 31/07/2018 12:52

Yes, it’s very rude not to respond to all interviewees. In fact, I think that all applicants should get a response, even if it’s just a standard “thanks but no thanks” email to everyone not shortlisted. But if you’ve been interviewed you should get a phone call. Having said all that, it is only Tuesday lunchtime! All may not be lost yet! Crossing my fingers for you, OP!

Winterbella · 31/07/2018 12:53

People are rude, if you haven't been successful it only takes two minutes to draft an email.

barleyfive · 31/07/2018 12:53

If they have time to interview, then they have time to respond; even if they can't be arsed to give feedback they should at least let everyone know.

wafflyversatile · 31/07/2018 12:57

It is absolutely not on not to contact interviewees one way or the other.

However it is only Tuesday and it might just be that someone has been off ill or they have a first choice who hasn't said yes or no yet.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 31/07/2018 13:00

Do you think? Maybe hope is not lost yet then...I wanted it beforehand but after meeting the team and looking around want it more than ever.

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habibihabibi · 31/07/2018 13:10

I've been a similar situation recently and was loathe to contact them just in case it seems pushy. Turns out I was second choice but when number one rejected I was offered the position. This took over month and I had already accepted another role.
I think it's rude not to contact all interviews appicants and also don't see the reason for such long delays. References were taken up before interview in my case.

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 31/07/2018 13:15

I'm going through exactly this. Interviewed on Tuesday and still haven't heard back.

I'm sending a polite email this afternoon just to ask if they know when a decision will be made. I assume I haven't got it, but I would like to know.

It's horrendous manners to not let interviewees know. And in my case I had 24 hours notice of the interview, they knew it would be tricky for me to be able to get there with such little notice, yet I sorted it. Very disappointing if after all that they can't even be bothered to say thanks but no thanks.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 31/07/2018 13:19

Glad you got something else hab.
unusual the waiting is just awful isn’t it :(

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MaintainTheMolehill · 31/07/2018 13:32

I was told I would hear back about a job on the Tuesday. It was Friday morning before I heard that I had the job. Once I started I realised why, the HR manager was as slow as treacle getting anything done.
There's still a chance but it's annoying that they don't realise how on edge it makes people not knowing. Good luck.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 31/07/2018 13:54

Thank you! Yes so on edge.
I’m used to nhs jobs so always been told on same day as interview this waiting game is painful!

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AtLeastThreeDrinks · 31/07/2018 14:10

I've had this with two interviews in the past year. It's so rude when you've taken time to prepare, travel there (expensive for me into London) etc. I actually chased both companies after a few weeks (by email and phone) and was fobbed off. A simple 'thanks, but no thanks' would have been totally fine. I wasn't pushy, but I am waiting until a few more months have passed before I leave them each a review on Glassdoor. Nothing terrible, but I think it's really poor form to leave people guessing and never respond.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 31/07/2018 14:22

A thanks but no thanks is enough just so people know for sure

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dingdongdigeridoo · 31/07/2018 14:37

I had this after a second interview a while ago. It’s the height of rudeness when people have spent time and money travelling to see you, twice, and you know they’re going through a stressful process. At least months later I feel like I’ve dodged a bullet, as I’m sure the company are shit to work for if they treat people like that.

Good luck OP. Hopefully it’s just a delay because someone’s off sick or they’re sorting out the paperwork.

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 31/07/2018 14:38

I think it’s extremely ill mannered to interview someone and not tell them the outcome of th interview, particularly if a timescale was given at the time. Even if a few people were interviewed, it can’t take long to send an email. And if they haven’t decided p, they should let people know that too.

You’ve invested time and effort for an interview. It’s rude not to acknowledge that.

WorldCupnovice · 31/07/2018 14:47

I had an interview 6 years ago. They said that we would hear by Friday, it was a Wednesday so was unsure if they meant that week or the next week. I had not heard by the second week so rung them for some feedback . They told me that I had been unsuccessful for the permanent position but asked me if I would be interested in a fixed term post. I agreed and have been permanent for two years. I often wonder if I would have been contacted by them if I had not bothered to contact them first. OP I suggest you contact them , you have nothing to lose .

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Wishfulmakeupping · 31/07/2018 15:00

Thank you all sadly quite common then :(
I have emailed this morning and had no response if I’ve not heard by fri I may ring- do you think?

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mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork · 31/07/2018 15:09

I had to help a medical specialist I temp for find a new secretary - he was pretty desperate as he'd had to sack the last one and I was filling the gap. However, he really wanted to find the right sort of person who really would be able to do the (complicated, busy) job and would stay as both he and I found finding new PAs exhausting and traumatic. We advertised and 13 people applied - only about 4 were actually secretaries - the others just fancied working "in medicine". The ones that didn't stand an earthly, I emailed, kindly turning down. It then took several weeks to get the interviews sorted as the specialist was abroad on and off or I was not available at the same time as him and so the poor things had to wait a bit. Eventually we got a few interviews going and then he couldn't make his mind up so they were kept waiting 2-3 weeks for an answer. It worked out in the end but it did mean they didn't get notification for ages.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 31/07/2018 15:39

Had the response and I didn’t get it 😢😢😢
The person they appointed had 6+ more years in the field than me.
I was second choice though and the feedback was they liked me, were impressed with the extra voluntary roles I’d took on and by how confident I was so not bad for my first interview back after sahm for 4 Yrs?!
Will have a cry and some 🍷 and get cracking with some more applications then.

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