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To want to knock sense into family over local area....

139 replies

woolythoughts · 30/07/2018 22:40

I grew up in a city well known for jokes about stealing car wheels etc. I always felt as though I didn’t fit in and left as soon as I could. I couldn’t deal with the chip on shoulder attitude of a lot of residents - we’d be such a great city again if it wasn’t for or near neighbour city sucking everything up.

My family still live there so I come back and visit regularly. When I point out that:

  1. Every supermarket I’ve been in won’t take the security tag off at the self service until you’ve actually paid is something I’ve only see here - most other places will do it after they’ve approved it or as you are scanning
  1. A lot of the local petroleum stations and convenience stores won’t take contactless due to fraud
  1. Virtually every petrol station limits fuelling to 50 litres - you have to pay then go back and filll the rest of the tank!

There are many other small things which when added together don’t make for a good environment.

I point this out and I get told everywhere is like this these days.

No it isn’t !

It’s only to be expected a

No it isn’t!

But god forbid I suggest there is actually a problem and I get told not to slag off my home town.

I guess the reason I’m angry is we came up in a new car this weekend which promptly got keyed when parked up.

Family are obviously sympathetic but in general there is a view that what do you expect driving a car like that here and if you can afford said car you can afford to fix it.

Hat sort of attitude is prevalent and I’ve hated it since I was old enough to realise it existed!

I just want to shake the family and make them realise it’s not like that everywhere!

OP posts:
BigPinkBall · 30/07/2018 22:46

I’ve never heard of those things happening before, are you in the UK?

woolythoughts · 30/07/2018 22:47

Yep.

Definitely in the UK.

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woolythoughts · 30/07/2018 22:49

I’ll stop being obtuse - it’s a place most people would regard as s suburb of
Liverpool bit is actually a town in its own right.

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peoplearemean · 30/07/2018 22:49

Liverpool?

peoplearemean · 30/07/2018 22:49

Ah yes close!

DesignStatement · 30/07/2018 22:50

Never heard of anywhere like this and I grew up in a city.

Singlenotsingle · 30/07/2018 22:50

No, nothing like that happens here in north Essex. Shock

itchyknees · 30/07/2018 22:51

Kirky? Or Skem? Either way YANBU.

itchyknees · 30/07/2018 22:51

Kirkby

itchyknees · 30/07/2018 22:52

Omfg I’ve just seen your username!!!!!!Grin

You live near a bridge...

woolythoughts · 30/07/2018 22:52

Bootle but Kirby is close

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Singlenotsingle · 30/07/2018 22:52

Skelmersdale

junebirthdaygirl · 30/07/2018 22:53

Maybe not fair to be running it down to your family. After all they have no choice but to live there. We all can feel a bit defensive when our home town is critised .

WombatStewForTea · 30/07/2018 22:54

Damn I was going to say Bootle! I knew straight away you were talking about Liverpool Grin

woolythoughts · 30/07/2018 22:54

But it’s my home town as well!

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KatieKittens · 30/07/2018 22:54

Sounds like your family are getting defensive - perhaps they feel it’s a personal attack on them when you make comments about this city. You could be more sensitive and look for the good, not only the bad.

Surely all cities have their rough areas and affluent areas- it’s unfortunate your car was keyed where you parked, but that could happen in any bad area in any city in the UK.

itchyknees · 30/07/2018 22:55

Bootle? I was convinced you were a Woolieback!

Yanbu though.

HeddaGarbled · 30/07/2018 22:55

What are you trying to achieve by pointing it out? It’s fine to think it but rude to keep banging on about it to your family. It’s their home city. Stop it.

woolythoughts · 30/07/2018 22:55

They just will not see that it’s not normal and that there is good reason it had he rep it has if this is what local businesses have to deal with!

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Hmmalittlefishy · 30/07/2018 22:55

But if they are happy there and you are happy having moved out what's the issue?
They put up with those things daily and choose too and you dont
Maybe keep quiet and don't criticise so much

feathermucker · 30/07/2018 22:56

Birkenhead?

Polly2345 · 30/07/2018 22:56

Well I can understand why you don't live there anymore, but at the same time if your relatives choose to keep living there then they will try to defend it. Also, do they ever leave the area? If not, they might genuinely believe that these things are normal and happen everywhere.

Not much you can do except maybe don't go there in a nice new car (get the train instead?)

MonochromeDog · 30/07/2018 22:57

Blimey, I'm a 5 minute walk from Toxteth and all the things you list don't happen around here! Or anywhere else in Liverpool as far as I'm aware. Only lived her since I was born, like. Confused

Oh YABU btw.

MonochromeDog · 30/07/2018 23:00

My dad got a brand new car last year, lives 2 miles down the road from me. It's still got it's wheels and hasn't been keyed, yet. Hmm

stressbucket1 · 30/07/2018 23:02

Same as monochrome. Not Bootle but similar area. Never had my car keyed. Can fill with fuel up to £99. But yes people will get a chip on their shoulder when their home town is slagged off and people go on about car wheels being stolen ( also never happened to anyone I know)

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