People you had a sixth sense about and were right

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I’ve just been reading one of the spooky threads here and a poster talked about someone she got a bad feeling about and some months later was arrested for abuse or something. When someone is arrested who is a ‘pillar of the community’ someone always says ‘I never liked him, I could always tell’.

Do you have a story where you genuinely knew someone was bad news, though everyone else thought they were wonderful? How could you tell and did others eventually see their true colours?

@iknowimcomin I also have a pregnancy sixth sense, had several occasions where I could actually smell babies around certain people, then they announced they're pregnant.

Lots of people mentioning Rolf Harris - completely missed that, I loved him from Animal hospital and was gutted when the news came out.

Talking of creepy family members, a guy related to my adopted family gave me the creeps from as far as I can remember, he used to try and get me to kiss him goodbye and I hated being in the same room as him. When I was a preteen he used to make comments about my chest/generally inappropriate in front of everyone, and they'd all laugh it off that he was 'just a bit of a perv'. He never actually did anything but I still avoid him like the plague - he recently left his wife for a woman 30 yrs younger who he had befriended when she was still in school, I wouldn't put it past him grooming her

KittyHawke80 fair point. Weirdly enough re Christopher Jeffries I clearly remember my DSis saying at the time "he looks so weird, it must be him" and I said just because he looks weird/eccentric doesn't make him a rapist/murderer (we followed the case because I lived in bristol at the time). And I was right, though that's not spidey senses and just common sense.

I used to be a member of sports club/team that was predominantly female, but we did have a few male members as well. It was all fine, until one day a new man joined. Initially he seemed nice enough, but then one day I caught him looking at me and felt a shudder run down my spine. It was like he saw me as prey, and I really did feel that if left alone with him he would hurt me. From then on I felt utter revulsion whenever I saw him, a visceral reaction that Ive not had before or since.

A few months later another woman on the team came foreward to say that he made really disgusting sexual comments towards her, and also stuff that was extremely racist (she wasn't from the UK). It then transpired that I wasn't the only person to have been creeped out by him, but like me he'd been unable to explain why. Just a gut feeling/hunch.

I had a house mate at uni who used to wax lyrical about a bloke at her church who collected and drove a lorry load of aid to Eastern European orphanages. When she talked about him the hairs on the back of my neck stood on end.

About 18 months later I switched the radio on to hear he'd been convicted of child sex offences.

Also, I got the vibes from Jimmy Savile, but never Rolf Harris. I was stunned when he was arrested.

There are a couple of people in the public eye today who give me the creeps and I think aren't all they seem. Two of them well know reality show judges, although Shirley Ballas isn't one of them lol.

Thinking about the "homing in on vulnerability" thing, I had an episode of depression in my early thirties. One thing that fascinated me (in that slightly detached, looking at the world through thick frosted glass way you get when suffering from depression) was that I had more men hit on me in that 6 month to a year period than in the whole of the rest of my adult life. But all of them were creeps. I remember joking with a friend at the time and saying "I feel like I've got a neon sign above my head saying 'vulnerable woman: weirdoes form an orderly queue here!'"

There's a really good article here on vulnerability and targetting, www.psychotherapy.com.au/fileadmin/site_files/pdfs/SharkCage.pdf which uses the analogy of building a shark cage (it's a non-victim-blaming explanation of how predators target the vulnerable, and how to read warning signals and form defences - if I had to explain what happened to me, I'd say that I was depressed, but went into the depression with a really good pre-existing shark cage, and the depression didn't last long enough to erode it, so even though I was targetted by all sorts of creeps, I was lucky enough to still be able to recognise them as creeps.)

The second I met the new girl in my ex husbands office I just knew there were going to be problems. She hadn't even opened her mouth and I knew. Fast forward 18 months and her and my husband had a 6 month affair and he left me and our then 3 year old daughter for her

I never distrust my gut now, if it can be right about something so big then it can't be ignored

apparently i used to tell my Mum i thought jimmy Saville was a bad man when i saw him on TV.
I also blurted out , he did it, when i saw Ian Huntley being interviewed on tv.

Many years ago, DS was only about 18 mths. We were renting and a bloke bought the house a few doors from us. It was a pretty friendly group.of house so we all passed the time of day/how are things with the new house/family etc and odd occasions would help one another out.
One day I was struggling with the pushchair and shopping and he kindly helped me up a small set of steps to the door and held it steady so I could get my key. I thanked him and as he was leaving made a comment along lines of needing another pair of arms. He then came back and said (looking directly at my son) "well next time you could always leave him with me". I brushed it off with the usual "that's kind but wouldn't want to put you out. It didn't sit well with me, his demeanor was off and very different to how he had been all other times. We moved away within that year (for other reasons) and I never gave a second thought.
4/5 yrs later he's front page local news - convicted for historic child abuse over many years.

Yes , but not too sure about the being right bit

A barmaid at my DHs pub once .

From the off there was this underlying real dislike, that went both ways. I have never experienced it before or since but it was intense . We never even spoke, we just did not like the others vibes it seems.

I agree re: both David Wakkiams and Simon Cowell - especially DW. He is very, very creepy.

He may just be a very unfortunate person - but it isn't just his appearance (which I personally consider unattractive - but each to his own) it's his manner - really smarmy.

I've had a couple.

My lovely SIL went into business with a woman, when they had their launch DP and I attended (she didn't know us at that point). We witnessed her being really off with a few people & just odd. DP raised concerns the next day with SiL and was told she was nervous and not to worry. Several months down the line all hell broke loose, she took SiL for a lot of money.

The second one:-

My Dsis has a best friend who I also know, but not as well, she started dating this guy, eventually moving in together etc. My Dsis told me he made her feel odd but she didn't know why.

We even gave him an unflattering nickname, after we found out he had FB stalked us both. There were a few things but nothing major and our friend seemed happy with him.

He later got arrested for sexual offences and sent to prison. Our poor friend had been having a terrible time and kept it hidden, it was the end of their relationship. I am so grateful he got caught as I dread to think what could have been.

AveABanana, no that wasn't the priests name. This priest was based in rural Ireland in the late 80's and this was when the diocese was able to keep a lid on it. Nobody knew. Any child that was brave enough to tell a parent either got marched to the priest to apologise for their lies or the parent's got hushed up by the diocese and the authorities' reluctance to prosecute clergy.

I have to agree with the pp who said David Walliams. He is so creepy - something not right there.

Honestly - Jimmy Saville. He made me want to run a mile as a kid, even though kids were supposed to love him. Totally not surprised when the truth about him came out years later.

Tbh I rarely get strong "feelings" about people and when I do I have always trusted them and avoided them completely - so I never know if I was right to feel that way. I would also say that I've known a couple of people who were later discovered to be right wrong 'uns and never suspected a thing.

Totally agree with you about Shirley ballas on who do you think you are. There was something not right and her mum looked like a typical working class snob who thinks she's better than others. I maybe wrong but that's what came across.

Me too with David Walliams. With Simon Cowell I think I doubt his sexuality, which really isn't fair. Absolutely can't take to James Corden, but that's because I think he's right up himself. Uneasy feelings - I thought Jimmy Saville was a creep, and Ian Huntley was weird. Not surprised at how things worked out.

None of the local kids liked one of our priests, I thought he was super creepy, and he was known as Father Touchy Feely. I've know a lot of people who are touchy but this was different. Only the adults were surprised when he disappeared from our parish. Unfortunately, RCC just moved him on.

Didn't like a girl I worked with, I thought she was a totally manipulative bitch. Most of the staff took her side against me. It took about three years but I was proved right. Then everyone else tried to pretend they knew it all along

Didn't like the DS of DM's friend. Just found him a bit creepy. I was still mighty surprised when he brutally murdered and mutilated a girl though.

I always trust my instinct. It never fails me especially when it comes to lying. I never get it wrong.

A guy moved to where I lived at the time and became friends with my DP, when I met him I felt really awkward around him, but let him slide as my DP didn't really have any friends around where we lived. My partner went out to meet him at a pub for 1 drink and then we were going to have a rare movie night, as we lived with my parents at the time and my mum was away and my dad had gone to bed early as he had to work very early, my DP hadn't taken his phone was new to the area and didn't appear back until 6 hours later throwing up everywhere, he wouldn't let my DP leave, apparently every time he tried he would make out he was under the thumb, so he stayed, so then I liked him less. No one else agreed with me about him, he started working at the same pub as my mum and even she liked him, until he took a girl up to his room and wouldn't let her leave. Then everyone was like I don't believe it, I was the only one that was like I do.

Took the dc to park just this morning, we chose to walk to the one in the next town which we can get to by walking through the normally busy cemetery. Had an hour there and then began walking back, once in the cemetery my two ds were lagging behind as its uphill, I was pushing dd in the pram, I noticed a youngish man behind them all dressed in black, looked a bit odd. For some reason no one else was around
Every time I turned around to say hurry up to the boys he seemed to stop and make like he was doing something, it gave me a bad feeling, so I took them the long way home right up along the main road. Took us 3x as long to get home but I was so glad to be away from him because further on the path becomes a narrow tree lined ginnel, who knows what his intentions were!

Oh yes, Jimmy Saville as well.

All my friends wanted to go on TOTP or Jim will Fix It , except Me.

Gary Glitter , however, I was so shocked to discover he was a paedophile . I didn't have posters up as a teen but did have some of his records.

Just glad Adam Ant has never appeared to have been like Saville and Gadd.

When i was a kid, Jimmy Saville, Rolf Harris (nobody else got that one) and Fred Dibnah.

I have had this experience many times, sometimes ignoring at my own peril. After narrowly escaping a sexual predator three years ago who groomed me and brainwashed me I know now I will NEVER ignore that little voice inside that kept me safe from him.

Interesting those saying Shirley Ballas gives them the creeps. Julianne and Derek Hough lived with her and her husband Corky as children and both have claimed to have been abused whilst living in the UK (with the Ballas family). Julianne has not named her abuser but Derek has said Shirley slapped him across the face.

More info on Julianne here;

www.etonline.com/news/128698_Julianne_Hough_Reveals_Horrific_Childhood_Abuse