Hi all,
I’ve got a 3 year old DS and a 2 week old DD. I’m just all in a mess really.
I adore my DS he’s been my whole world for 3 years obviously and now there is a massive new dynamic to the family. Whilst I love DD as she’s my child, I haven’t got that inital bond to her I was expecting to have. I’m taking care of her as best I can, but I feel- I don’t know- a little distant maybe.
Add to this my husband has gone back to work now and whilst my mum is helping a lot initally that won’t last forever. I’m finding 2 children so difficult, everything just seems like chaos.
My DS has actually adjusted well, but obviously he’s used to getting my full attention and I’m struggling with guilt when I obviously can’t give it to him. He’s such a hands on kid who loves playing and me to get involved- and with a newborn it just isn’t possible as much. And I hate that.
I’m managing to keep a handle on things while I’ve got all this help around- but how am I going to manage day to day when I’m on my own.
How do I keep a 3 year old boisterous boy amused while looking after a newborn who just wants cuddles and feeding?! How do I cope with the feelings of guilt every time I have to let him down, or her down?
How do I keep a handle on everything?!
I don’t know I’m just struggling all told I think. Plus majorly sleep deprived.