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Original poster

AIBU to think that driving home by 330pm after a night drinking is a reasonable ask?

76 replies

hooochycoo · 29/07/2018 20:55

AIBU to think that having a night drinking with your friends and then getting home about 330pm in the afternoon ( 1 hour drive) is a reasonable ask? Or is it unrealistic?

OP posts:
Eliza9917 · 29/07/2018 23:39

All depends what time you stop drinking, thats the most important thing to consider when trying to work out if this would be reasonable.

Original poster
hooochycoo · 29/07/2018 23:40

That's all up to the drinker.

It's just a night out at a pub or round at a friend's house, some wine, some cocktails. Just for the purpose of seeing friends and drinking. Totally up to the person how much they drink and when they stop drinking.

OP posts:
NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 29/07/2018 23:42

Are you trying to say your DP knew he should’ve been home by 3.30 but is now saying he has too much alcohol in his system to do that?

It’s all a bit cryptic.

saltandvinegarcrisps1 · 29/07/2018 23:44

You're not making sense. What are you actually asking?? It may be up to the drinker how much/when they stop but it's up to the law if they drive over the limit the next day. You need to specify how much was drank and when the drinking stopped.

OptimisticIntrovert · 29/07/2018 23:46

This sounds like ammunition for an argument to me...
Vague op's are hard to get answers to.

WeirdScenesInsideTheGoldmine · 29/07/2018 23:47

I don’t really get all the handwringing

It obviously depends how much has been drunk and when that stopped

Fabricwitch · 29/07/2018 23:47

Seems reasonable. But going out drinking and getting home later than 3:30pm could also be reasonable

EduCated · 29/07/2018 23:48

Look just say what the actual situation is.

Of course it’s up to the drinker, but it doesn’t necessarily mean someone else is reasonable to demand it.

C0untDucku1a · 29/07/2018 23:50

Did he know he had something he needed to be home for at 3.30?
Did he agree to be home at 3.30?

Deshasafraisy · 29/07/2018 23:52

Such a vague question.

imamum21 · 30/07/2018 00:06

depends on how much they drink, it takes an hour for your body to process the alcohol so if they drink 12 units then 12 hours before driving, even at that i personally would still take longer i wouldnt want to risk hurting an innocent person or i would do the sensible thing call a taxi or friend to pick me up, collect the car later

HappilyHarridan · 30/07/2018 00:22

Is there something that the drinker needs to do at 3.30pm? If not seems a bit of a random/controlling request.

OuchLegoHurts · 30/07/2018 00:25

It TOTALLY depends on what time they stopped drinking at.

Now if your question is supposed to be, is it reasonable to think that they would stop at a sensible enough time to enable them to get enough sleep to drive home at 3.30... well that's a different question... Probably, if they promised you that they would?

Your post is way too vague to answer.

Eliza9917 · 30/07/2018 00:27

Unless more info is given the question can't be answered. It all depends on how much is drunk and what time the drinking stopped.

PickAChew · 30/07/2018 00:27

Tbh, it's possible to have a good night out and be ready for work, the next morning. You simply don't factor blind drunk into the equation.

JennaTools · 30/07/2018 00:28

What a ridiculously worded thread. Too many variables. What does the person weigh? Do they regularly drink? What will they drink and at what times? What will they have eaten in the 24 hours prior? How many hours of sleep will they have had? How much will they have had to eat between stopping drinking and driving? What time will they stop drinking? How long is a piece of string? If a tree falls on mount Olympus will I hear it? Are you always this annoying?

Skiiltan · 30/07/2018 00:34

That's all up to the drinker.
It's just a night out at a pub or round at a friend's house, some wine, some cocktails. Just for the purpose of seeing friends and drinking. Totally up to the person how much they drink and when they stop drinking.

You've been told repeatedly that it depends on how much alcohol they've drunk and when they stopped drinking. They shouldn't be driving home while over the legal limit or while in any way under the influence of alcohol. If you don't want to hear the answer, stop asking the question.

PlatypusPie · 30/07/2018 00:34

Had a flatmate once who had a driving ban for drink driving, idiotically went out to celebrate the return of his licence - took a taxi home, but then drove to work early the next morning when he thought he was fine and got caught in a police check point, just over the limit whereupon he lost it again.

Ironically, he didn’t drink much at all normally, nor was a frequent binge drinker. He could have hurt or killed someone, though, on both those occasions and it was the second loss that made him realise how poor his judgement was.

Miserygutsy · 30/07/2018 00:38

No.

Miserygutsy · 30/07/2018 00:38

Yea.

Miserygutsy · 30/07/2018 00:39

It’s up to you Confused

Excited101 · 30/07/2018 00:39

Stop being so bloody hypothetical and get out with it!

WaxOnFeckOff · 30/07/2018 00:44

I think the OP is saying that if a person has a need to drive home at 2.30pm, is it realistic that they could control the amount and time they drank until to facilitate this whilst still having a night out. I think it is op. There are many calculators available that will help you to plan when you should stop drinking. However if someone has overindulged and isn't fit by that time ywnbr to expect them to drive anyway. If this was the agreement, ywnbu to be really annoyed/furious depending on whether they have from and how important it was that they were home on time.

gamerchick · 30/07/2018 00:45

It's just a night out at a pub or round at a friend's house, some wine, some cocktails. Just for the purpose of seeing friends and drinking

So what time did they stop drinking?

Totally up to the person how much they drink and when they stop drinking

It is and not relevent to what you said but they can choose not to drive the next day.... At all.

GlitterGlassEye · 30/07/2018 00:48

Spit it out OP ffs.

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