More of a WWYD but I need answers please.

[FatTory]

New neighbours next door. Been there about eight weeks. I’ve introduced myself and say hello but they keep themselves to themselves. Young couple (early/mid twenties I’d guess) with a baby. I was woken in the middle of the night by shouting screaming and crying. Then there were lots of big crashing like sounds. I’m worried that someone was being hit or had things thrown at them. The woman was the one sobbing hysterically saying “why are you trying to ruin my life”.

They’ve been out all day but I was wondering if I should ask her to come and “help” me with something so I could get her on her own and ask if she needs any help? But what if she was the one being violent? I really don’t know what to do.

Lol at the clipboard tick-list and decibel metre-wielding argument police on this thread

As the child in an emotionally and physically abusive household I can say that shouting, screaming, crying and banging shit about fucks children up. An anonymous call to the NSPCC or SS isn't going to do any harm. They can tell you whether or not you are right to be concerned. I wish someone had called SS when I was little. My parents needed support and my siblings and I would have really benefitted from someone who could teach my dp's to resolve issues without punching walls, each other, or us.

Befriending her is a good idea op.

As a side not me and dps arguments always include shouting (If we were just talking it wouldn't be an argument) and crying (usually me because I can't get my words out - nothing to do with him making me cry.) We also have a baby and we have never argued in front of him. We have both also thrown at least one object (never at each other) during an argument.

If someone reported me to nspcc over one argument and thought me or dp was being abused id be mortified.

As a side note I had an argument with a clothes airer which collapsed just after I had put the last item on it. I screamed at it called it a fucking inconsiderate bastard and slammed it on the floor. Silly but even that could be misconstrued as me abusing someone If you overheard me!!

Maybe consider ringing if it keeps happening.

duffbeergoggles yes I’ve worked in a role of which safeguarding was a big part. However there was a specific route to go down dependant upon what was disclosed. This is a completely different situation.

derelictwreck I said in my original post that she might be the violent one.

TBF, it never occurred to me that she might have been screaming at the baby.

glintandglide the screaming and shouting isn’t what’s bothering me, it was the thumps and crashes.

My main concern is that she’s on maternity leave, just moved to the area and might not have much support.

My other concern is if she is the violent one the partner/husband may feel ashamed to admit anything and the baby might be in danger.

I won’t call the police on the strength of one fight but I will listen out for more (no choice really, thin walls) and invite her round for a cuppa.