Not photogenic

[Bubblylikechampers]

Not AIBU but it really does piss me off!!

I'd consider myself fairly attractive. Not pretty, but definitely 'ok' looking.

I could take a thousand pics and I look absolutely awful. Yet most people no matter what are so photogenic.

Why is this? My holiday pics at the moment are depressing as hell.

Any one else find this??

Bubbly but is this what you think when you see other peoples' pictures? Or do you only criticise yourself?

I imagine it's the latter. So why do we judge ourselves more harshly than we judge others? Be kind to yourself!
Photogenic or not, it's your face and friends and family really enjoy looking at photos of loved ones - it brings back happy memories. Photogenic or not.
If you do criticise other peoples looks in photos, then really I've got no time for that.

Ihaventgottime- definitely critical of myself! I don't recall noticing any of my family or friends taking a bad photo. I just see it as I'm the one who never looks as I think I should.

The thing is, people close to me will say the same about me. I know they're not being horrible, just honest. Therefore I doubt I'm being unreasonably critical.

A few people are beautiful. A few are very unfortunate with their looks. The vast majority are in the middle - not beautiful, not ugly, just fairly ordinary. And that's absolutely fine !! I wish our society placed more emphasis on kindness, tolerance and understanding, instead of obsessing about how people look

Definitely try sitting with a mirror in a good light, smiling/ staring turning your head etc to differing degrees.

I'm hopelessly unphotogenic, it's become a joke in our house. DH always says I look lovely (or if they are especially bad, 'fine') but he really is just being nice.

It can work the other way round too. DS has a girlfriend who is a very successful model. She's lovely, and had a nice face which shows her personality, but you probably wouldnt notice her in the street. I dont mean that in a nasty way, just factual. If you took a photo of her - even without any makeup - she looks incredible every time. There's just something about the way she photographs.

I generally don't photograph well either. Most of us want to see a decent picture of ourselves...I paid a professional a lot of money for good portraits - it was worth it though. A good photographer will get a good shot without the need for loads of photoshop/editing. A lot of it is down to lighting and professionally applied make up.

But Bubbly why be critical at all?! It's only a photograph!
Think how you feel when you see pictures of friends & family - you don't think less of them, it's just a pleasure to see people you care about, it elicits good feelings. A photo should not change how someone thinks of you, and if it does then they are not worth any bother.
If only we could see ourselves the way others do, it would do wonders for our happiness, confidence and mental health.

I don't have one photograph of myself from any holiday or anything for the last 30 years. I get very annoyed/angry at those who think they have the right to shove some device at me, more than one has had to pick it up from the floor when they've persisted. It's rude and intrusive.