Don't want to drip feed so a bit of background. My DH is 8 years older and I met him just before I turned 20. We have been together for 9 years, 2 young children. Throughout our relationship he has made most decisions and every time I started a new hobby or made my own friends he would call me selfish and accuse me of not wanting to spend time with him and because I hate conflict I always gave in and stopped whatever it was, for example going to the gym, couch 2 5k running group, PTFA meetings etc.
I started a new job in January which has been met with the same protests but since I'm not quitting there are always new things that I'm being moaned at for, and I'm reaching the end of my tether.
I became a vegetarian in April and since there are 2 people at work that are veggie too I'm faced with comments that I'm being a sheep, following people at work and wanting to be like them instead of being my own person. DH is constantly trying to get me to eat meat despite the fact that I tried to explain how I feel and why I don't want to.
There are many other things that I would like to do but am told I need to focus on him and the kids and if I want to do things on my own it'll be the reason we break up.
Trouble is, am I being unreasonable for wanting to make decisions about my own body and hobbies or am I selfish for wanting to change some things?
I feel like I am treated like a child and when I spoke to him about it he said he is only looking after me and that he tells me what to do because otherwise I'll make mistakes.
It's been going on for so long I genuinely don't know if AIBU for feeling this isn't right?