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Text friend after 2 years of no contact after argument?

60 replies

pippyo33 · 27/07/2018 15:35

We were really good friends.
We fell out and our 12 year friendship down the drain,we were like sisters.
We both said things and she blocked me on Facebook /WhatsApp.
We seen each other a month ago in a shop and just ignored each other (I felt like crying and I could tell she felt awkward)

2 weeks later we seen each other again ..
She said "hi this is awful,when I seen you last week it was awful"
She asked was I ok etc
Yesterday I noticed she has unblocked me on Facebook and WhatsApp
Shall I text her saying was nice seeing you?
We were best friends,spoke daily,holidays,nights out ,days out every week.
Like sisters
I miss her

OP posts:
DearMrDilkington · 27/07/2018 15:36

Yes, text her. Life's too short.

jainaproudm · 27/07/2018 15:37

Just do it. You will regret it if you don't - the worst that can happen is that you don't manage to rekindle the friendship, which is where you are now anyway. Good luck!

MatildaTheCat · 27/07/2018 15:37

Why not, she’s opened channels of communication. But perhaps go a bit further and say you miss her and could you meet for a coffee?

Confusedbeetle · 27/07/2018 15:37

Ring her up and speak to her personally. Best way to build bridges. Don't bring up old grievances

SheSparkles · 27/07/2018 15:38

Go for it. Things might not ever be the same as the way they were before, but it sounds like she’s reaching out. If it’s what you want, go for it, in life you regret the things you don’t do

longwayoff · 27/07/2018 15:52

Depends on what you fell out over. Something trivial? Go ahead. Run off with your husband or similar level? Let it go.

UrsulaPandress · 27/07/2018 15:54

Do it. A friend and I fell out but eventually we exchanged Christmas cards and she came to see me and we cried a bit and all is now well.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 27/07/2018 15:56

do it- i made up with a friend I hadn't spoken to in over a year (she msged me a congratulations after having my LO and I then initiated things after that). So glad I did, life is too short and its not easy to make good friends.

Roussette · 27/07/2018 15:58

Do text her. She has offered an olive branch, you have to grab it with both hands.

I wish I could do this with a friend of mine I've known over 50 years. I've tried but she won't be honest and have a proper chat and move on with something that happened last year (it was minor but never really resolved) so we are reduced to awkward polite conversation. Every time I offer the olive branch, she pushes it away so OP, just text.

couchparsnip · 27/07/2018 15:58

Yes text her. My close friend died recently and one woman that had fallen out with her a couple of months ago is distraught. It was over something stupid and now its too late to make up.

cjt110 · 27/07/2018 16:09

Do it. And grab the bull by the horns and say something like "Let's not go over the past" that way both of you know it's not something that will be looming.

Original poster
pippyo33 · 27/07/2018 16:24

Thanks everyone I'm going to text hello and say it was nice seeing you

OP posts:
dingdongadingding · 27/07/2018 16:42

Why did you fall out?

If it was something trivial then absolutely yes text her back

Yawnyprawn · 27/07/2018 19:11

Yes, get in touch. What's the worst thing that can happen?

I had a similar scenario where a friend got in touch after we'd argued and been out of contact for nearly 3 years . I am so glad she did because we're now close friends again.

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pippyo33 · 27/07/2018 20:50

Well I messaged her and she didn't reply.
At least I tried

OP posts:
LaMainDeFatima · 27/07/2018 20:52

She might be busy etc . Or needs to time to think about it . Step by step ....
Well done for being the better person

Armchairanarchist · 27/07/2018 20:57

I reached out on FB in a very similar situation and didn't get a reply. It turned out because we were no longer friends on there it went into a spam folder and she hadn't seen it. We're close again now.

Leeds2 · 27/07/2018 20:58

All you can do is try. Which you have.
Your friend may not have seen your message, or may just beed some time to think about it.

IAmtheOompahLoompah · 27/07/2018 20:59

Give her at least a day or two OP! She might be busy just now Grin

thejeangenie36 · 27/07/2018 21:03

After 2 years she may not have the same number OP. As she unblocked you on Facebook, why not try that if you get no text back.

mumofthemonsters808 · 27/07/2018 21:15

Time goes by that quickly that if you don't act now the weeks will turn into months and months into years and before you know it another year of not being friends will have passed.Youre missing out on so much of each other's lives, the more good people we have around us the better.The longer the rift goes on the harder it is to fix and at some stage you will forget what the fall out was even about.Go for it and if you receive no joy, it's not meant to be.

Joe66 · 27/07/2018 21:18

2 years is nothing! I Facebooked my ex friend after 21 years and am so pleased i did. It's like we were never not talking, and I missed her. It sounds as though she misses you too.

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 27/07/2018 21:23

Give her more then 3 hours!

SparklyMagpie · 27/07/2018 21:28

You're not the poster who didn't receive a birthday text aswell are you?

LoveInTokyo · 27/07/2018 21:33

Do it. You have nothing to lose. I fell out with my best friend for over a year and now she is my best friend again. Life's too short.

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