Text friend after 2 years of no contact after argument?

[pippyo33]

We were really good friends.
We fell out and our 12 year friendship down the drain,we were like sisters.
We both said things and she blocked me on Facebook /WhatsApp.
We seen each other a month ago in a shop and just ignored each other (I felt like crying and I could tell she felt awkward)

2 weeks later we seen each other again ..
She said "hi this is awful,when I seen you last week it was awful"
She asked was I ok etc
Yesterday I noticed she has unblocked me on Facebook and WhatsApp
Shall I text her saying was nice seeing you?
We were best friends,spoke daily,holidays,nights out ,days out every week.
Like sisters
I miss her

@tinkerbellone, similar experience to that. My x had a mean name for every single one of my friends. All nasty and uncalled for. I couldn't bear to hear him be so nasty so I gave up on those friendships. I tried to resurrect one of them after i left him but she hadn't forgiven me. So I accepted it wasn't meant to be.

Voice of dissent here op. I would keep things friendly and pleasant but why would you want to go back to a friendship where you are making all the effort, she is borrowing money and not paying it back? Dont feel guilty for saying something either.

There are nicer people out there. Do it for yourself so you dont feel awkward but dont go back to how it was.

Good luck. I hope it all works out for you.

Onwhitehorses I'm so sorry.

I'd say you fell out for a valid reason. I doubt she's changed OP.

Ah now I see the reasons I think perhaps let it go.

It's somewhat eronious to make a meaningful connection between this situation and the "life is too short" maxim.

It's all very well saying the OP should reestablish contact and make the next move. But that plays right back into the root cause of the original problem which was that OP felt it was becoming too one sided and the friend was getting a bit CF, eg taking loans and not repaying them. If the OP starts to reinvest, making contact etc, it risks underplaying and glosses over the fact there was obviously serious issues in the friendship to cause the rift in the first place. Those issues haven't gone away.

Personally, OP I would move on, I honestly feel you could get hurt all over again. This friend will see you being the one doing the chasing and you'll have revealed your hand. I don't think it's good to go back, only go forward. Find a new friend with no baggage, it will be a fresh healthy dynamic, not loaded with past history.

If you were to re-establish a friendship again, you'd need to consider whether you could fall back into a similar pattern again with her (money lending?

If the friend still doesn't consider that she might have done anything wrong or if she doesn't acknowledge that she's basically used you as her own personal cash machine, then the friendship might be difficult to move forwards. Often when people get caught out with their crap behaviour, they become defensive to divert the attention from themselves towards others. Been there myself with a toxic ex friend.

I fell out with a very good friend and we didn't speak for 5 years, I won't go into the reasons why but she was a pretty crappy friend to me back then. We saw each other at a mutual friend's birthday and started chatting and I realised that it was so long ago we were both different people and it had no relevance to now. We've talked about it a few times since and while we both accept that we were shit to each other there has been no need to unpick exactly who did what etc and we are both so happy to have each other back in our lives. I say keep an open mind and don't write off the possibility that you could be close again

We exchanged a couple of texts but it didn't feel like she wanted to chat or get our friendship back on track.
Think il leave it as it is ..not going to push