Why do GParents do this after divorce?

[LadyRussell]

My adult DC Paternal GParents (two sets of them - they are both divorced and remarried and live abroad) always send parcels to their dads house.

They

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Why the fuck do they do that?

They don’t live there, rarely see him and I have never ever intercepted my kids post?!

Is this the “norm” to send parcels to their father even though they are bloody adults?

Because I'm assuming their son is the father and he would have contact with his own children, and they probably don't like you very much anyway, for other such petty complaints?

Because hes their son so they think he should give them the presents from his side of the family.

It’s not presents - my son got something his Nan wanted from the UK and posted it to him and it wasn’t the right thing so she returned it but to his dads - he rarely sees his dad.

I only ask as his girlfriend was like “that’s realky weird” and I hadn’t really thought about it.

*to her

Yes i give my mum my presents for my niece and brothers and sisters, like wise while i was still in contact with my father (now NC) his family would give him the presents to give to me because he was the most likely to see me. My grandparents on both sides when they were alive wouldnt have known my address but they knew my parents (their childs) address

Do your kids move house a lot as young people often do, and the old people find it hard to keep up with their addresses?

Surely they can either visit their dad and get the presents, or ask him to send them on. Your children should be able to sort this out as they are adults, I don't see why it's an issue for you?

Its probably they only have theie sons adress

It’s not an issue at all I just wonder why they do it.

My kids still live here and it’s the former marital home so they know the address.

Also what's it got to do with divorce? If the parents were still married, grandparents might still send things to their address rather than the grand children's.

Why would they do that - it’s just weird I send parcels to the address of the person the parcel is for.

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Not necessarily they are probally only interested in tjeir sons address

Where as it used to say darling son and lady russell and little freddy and josephine
123 lords street, somewhere town, SL6 5RS
It now says
Darling son, freddy and josephine 987 jack lane, anywhere else City.

So any post for freddy and josephine will go to 987 jack lane, rather than 123 lords street

My ex in laws used to do this - but as their son rarely put in an appearance to see his children it meant they always received birtday and Christmas presents very late.
But I know they don’t like me .... 😁

Maybe they are trying to side with their son or encourage them to visit him?
It does seem a bit thoughtless though.
Do they know the details of where the GC live /how often they see their father?

When my niece eas born i sent her present to my mum because i have no idea what my brothers adress is

My youngest sons dad used to buy him presents for his house which he wasn’t allowed to bring home.

Then his Mum started doing that at her house too - it really pissed him off in the end.

I'm a Grandparent and I think it's weird

Maybe they want their son to know that they are keeping in touch with his children.

Personally, I think it is odd.

Him and his GF visited them this year - for a month.

It would never have occurred to me not to do it like that TBH. My paternal GParents always sent stuff for us to my dads house, my maternal grandparents sent stuff to my mums house which was our main residence. We saw my dad EOW but it never occurred to me this was a weird set up.

It’s not SO weird if they were there EOW (although still weird) but they never go there.

I get family presents at my parents' house, not at my own address, which my extended family don't know.