Why do GParents do this after divorce?

[LadyRussell]

My adult DC Paternal GParents (two sets of them - they are both divorced and remarried and live abroad) always send parcels to their dads house.

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maybe your adult dc should ask the gp's?

My mother has been known to send my kids gifts to their fathers house. As in the one who rarely sees them , doesn't pay maintenance, criticises me to everyone etc. One year she actually gave him money instead saying spend it on the kids. Of course he didnt 🤷🤔. She couldn't work out why I was so annoyed!

My adult DC don’t want to ask their GPS.

Because I'm assuming their son is the father and he would have contact with his own children, and they probably don't like you very much anyway, for other such petty complaints

Is it petty to ask why you would send gifts to a person who the recipient won't see very often rather than the actual recipient?

My mother has been known to send my kids gifts to their fathers house. As in the one who rarely sees them , doesn't pay maintenance, criticises me to everyone etc. One year she actually gave him money instead saying spend it on the kids. Of course he didnt 🤷🤔. She couldn't work out why I was so annoyed!

Wow. What a total arsehole (they both are)

donteatfriedturtle all the reasons have been explained

They don't know l/have long forgotten the reciptants address, and they know the person they are sending it too is more likely to see them

Because its not that unuseal for patents to be the intermediatry in gifts from extemded even as adults

YANBU. When the DC are little and post may need parental support (to hide birthday presents until the day, for instance, or to read the letter or act on instructions/information), I can see why they might choose their son as the intermediary, not his ex. Once DC are old enough to be receiving post in their own right (or old enough to go visit GP on their own and do favours for them!) it's pretty insulting to the DC really.