To think that my dad is a ******!

[Aufish]

My dad and I were reunited back in February of this year after 26 years and he started going on about my birthday and that I wasn't to plan anything as he wanted to do everything for it as it was the first one he was going to be there for. So we made no plans. So today is my birthday and I've heard nothing from him what so ever, I'm so peed off, its now too late to plan anything and I'm sat here doing nothing.

HAve you spoke to him today?

Happy Birthday Aufish!!!!

YANBU

Oh I'm sorry Aufush, that is rubbish. Have you spoken to him recently - is there any chance he might be planning something for later?

If there is no word, are you sure you can't go out for dinner or something? I know it will still be crap of your dad, but at least you'll be able to have some fun.

Happy birthday!!

No, he hasn't rang or text me at all when he said he would.

Thats horrible!

cant you phone him? Or get your dh to call him? and say 'oi you, we have been sat on our backsides all day waiting for you!'

I would be livid!

Happy bithday!

Go out and try to make the best of the rest of your day x

Maybe he has the wrong date?

Happy Birthday

Sorry he's been so useless... is there a chance he might be planning something for later?

I last spoke to him on Sunday and he said he was going to ring me this morning and yet there is a big fat silence, even my brother who is online at the moment is ignoring me. Can't get anything organised at this late notice with babysitters so can't have a night out.

I don't want to get your hopes up, but if your brother is ignoring you too, doesn't that sort of hint towards some sort of surprise thing later?

surprise party? maybe brother's in on it and is afraid he'll give the game away?

although sadly more likely your dad's just crap... sorry

happy birthday though, hope you and dh salvage some fun out of it

I really don't know, I'm just really upset at the moment as I feel he's wrecked the day.

I know it is awful when family members let you down. My brother has done it so many times and it always hurts.

Would you feel better knowing one way or the other? I know I would ring him and ask. You don't want to be sitting waiting and wondering all day.

It does sound like a possible suprise party could be the plan if your brother is ignoring you too???

Does he normally ignore you?

No my brother will talk to me quite alot but today he is really quiet. I'm not going to ring him as I'm not going to chase him. This is my day and if he wants to make contact with me he can. I'm not going to have him upset me.

Good on you. Make plans if you can. Maybe get a take away, dvd and have a few drinks once kidsare in bed. And as cheesy as it may sound, board games can be a laugh!

Happy Birthday Aufish! Hope you have a lovely day regardless - treat yourself to lots of cake. Hugs.

Well we are getting in a chinese and I'm going to enjoy every minute and then I think I'm going to watch Big Brother to see who is going in to the hell hole! Its his problem that yet again he has missed another birthday, his loss not mine.

Good on you, Aufish. Enjoy your Chinese and BB extravaganza.

Well its past 8 o'clock and still nothing. I really don't know why I bothered looking for the man for all these years when he hasn't even bothered wish me a happy birthday. Sorry for the rant, but when he has been saying for the last 3 months don't plan anything for your birthday as we are planning everything for it and there is just nothing it makes me feel very angry. I won't be talking to him for awhile.

happy birthday aufish.

No. Sorry he wrecked your birthday.

No, he knows my birthday by heart, he also said he would call me today and sort things out. I'm so sorry for letting this out on here but I feel if I let it all out off of here then I would lose my temper with him, and I don't think he's worth it.