Have you ever had a “friend” who has made you feel inadequate all the time

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I have a “friend” who keeps making comments all the time and acts holier than thou all the time. She did a lot of shit in her teenage years and mixed with the wrong crowd and now she’s married with kids she acts like her kids and her are perfect and is always judgmental about other people.

Example: she told me her husband took her 7 and 2 year old out and husband’s friend commented how well behaved they were. I was like, isn’t that normal for children that age, but she was adamant some people’s kids are like animals when they go outside 😕.

Another example, we had Meeting at school and at some point my shirt dress must have moved a bit around my bust so my bra was slightly showing from the gap. As we walked out she asked me if I was wearing a black bra and that she was trying to get my attention...I went home and checked in the mirror and it must have just been a small gap but she had to make a point about it like I was a hussy.

I’m hardly in contact with her, but every time I meet her she says something like this to me, and I dread the next time I meet her.

I've distanced myself from one friend who constantly made comments about how messy my house was

Oh god, my “friend” has done this too. She told me her ds thought our garden was messy to play in. Her mum and dad come and do her tiny garden whereas ours is over 100ft and No help from family members! So sometimes grass isn’t mowed and it certainly isn’t manicured or flowery.

I don’t know why people say things like this. I feel I’m too sensitive too sometimes, but this thread makes me rethink this. Maybe some people are just arseholes.

I don't think the examples you've given sound particularly bad. Maybe she was tryouts no to draw your attention to your bra as she thought you might be embarrassed had you realised? The comment about her kids also sounds just like normal conversation. Some 2 year olds can be a bloody nightmare (mine was).

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