To ask what you or your Dp doesn't do. And why?

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Just a random one..

My dp won't bath the baby alone.. He worrys she will drown or something..or that hell do it wrong? I have no issue in this.
But if she's bathed late then he always helps or comes and sits with me.
He also worrys and freaks If sleeps on her belly, and turns her back over up to ten times as night but she just rolls back to her comfy spot.

Me.. Well I would do whatever needs doing.. But dislike going to the shed! Spiders!

He'll have to do it alone one day! Can you make plans one evening so he has to get over his fear and do it himself?

DH does EVERYTHING, there's nothing he will shy away from! I however won't touch the outside bins unless he's unable/away, they make me want to vom (might just be sensitive pregnancy nose)

Dp wouldn't cut the dc 's nails when they were very small but he'll do it now they're a bit bigger.

Should of said. He would do when she's older.. Like he does with dsd. But with the baby he won't..

My Dh hated spiders, I was always the spider remover in our house.

He always sorted out the phone contracts. So grateful. It is misery having to do it now

I don’t clean toilets. I just don’t - I’ve tried, I can’t. my husband does it. I’m ashamed.

I pretty much never Hoover, iron, or do laundry. it's not that I won't, just that DH always does those jobs! He also does cat litter trays 🐱 I do all the dishes and almost all of the cooking, and clean all the bathrooms, DH hardly ever does those things.

I don't take out the bins... there's 40 steps and a shed door I can't open in the way. I don't clean bathrooms, hoover or iron either just because I hate it.

Dh doesn't really do the children's bedtime by himself... I don't blame him. It's like marching into enemy territory... and I have the necessary training!

Hubby does vacuuming/dusting..i bloody hate it. He does most of the weeding/garden tidy, I do planting, planning. He changes the beds as I hate lifting the mattress etc.

I work part time so do the lion's share of kids/appointments/mental load/cooking/washing etc, so I get him to do the stuff I hate. He also does the majority of bed/bath/story shenanigans...partly because I am over the kids at that point and because it gives him some quality time with them...

I don’t make myself drinks, coffee or g&t etc, if DH is in the house.

On the flip side he doesn’t make any sort of food, even a sarnie, if I am.

I don't do any cooking and I don't do bins.
Also don't really do any cleaning beyond superficial surface wiping in between our cleaner coming

DH won’t do DS’ hair. It’s curly and a bit wild and takes some sorting in a morning. Every time he’s tried it ends up tangled or plastered to his head so now he just refuses
I will do anything other than clean hair out of the plug hole shudders

It took years before my husband would bath the kids. He had bad experiences as a child with his parents using it as punishment. H was so scared of drowning them!

I do everything except I bitterly resent having to watch Paw Patrol.

I don't cook, if we relied on him to change the bed linen it would crawl into the washing machine all by itself.

I don't do the lawn mower. It's a huge heavy petrol one, and I might make it explode. Also, he enjoys doing it. He is also chief spider remover.

He doesn't do cooking that involves following a recipe. He can and does cook, but only things he knows how to do.

I don’t wash up (except if I’m on hols and he’s not). But this is mainly because he thinks it should be done three times per day while I’d do it all in one go the next morning...

I don’t mow the lawn. But that’s because I let him as he loves doing it, otherwise the garden is my domain.

He doesn’t tidy up. He gets annoyed by clutter but never lifts a finger to do anything about it. It’s one of the few things in our relationship that makes me properly angry.

Cooking. He can't cope with putting things in at different times and having them be ready at the same time. He has to follow recipes to the letter as he can't tell what's important and what isn't. He finds the whole thing stressful whereas I find it relaxing preparing the dinner while he watches the kids.

Dh doesn’t clean toilets, and he’s the messy one 💩 he also has an adversion to bedtime for dds, the bins upstairs. Doesn’t change the bedsheets, or do the laundry. He also never tidied up. He does cook occasionally, does do his own laundry, puts the bins out, washing up, and does hoover.

I won’t do his laundry or clean the ensuite shower as dh uses it. I do cook the most, tidy, shop, mine and dds laundry (all), sweep the floors, washing up, cooker, dust.

My dh wouldn’t bathe our girls when they were tiny either. He was scared of hurting them/dropping them cause they were wet and slippery/ drowning them 🤔. He bathed them once they were 3/4 months old though once they were a bit bigger.

I don't do the budget so shaming, modern woman etc basically being told what my pocket money is, but I find it SO BORING and actually stressful, if I lived alone I think I'd be a lot more hand to mouth just because going into the bank account and actually working out what I've spent where and how much I'll need by when makes me physically anxious (sweaty palms etc) - which is daft as we do perfectly alright and can have most things we want no trouble. I've always been that way though, just checking my balance makes me nervous. Weird. So DH does the spreadsheet then talks it over with me and we agree things together.

He, on the other hand, can't speak to tradesmen. Just can't do it. He hates talking on the phone to anyone, but can't liaise with the estate agents, window fitters, plumbers etc. I am the mouth of this household!

I don't do sheds, lofts or large spiders.

DH doesn't do sex education! He does really but when DS (aged about 7) said at the supper table one day - "I know about the egg and the sperm but how do they get together?" DH turned to me to answer! I didn't mind as it was more of a shock and he wasn't sure quite how much detail to give. From experience, I knew to keep it minimal and just answer the question. No need to elaborate unless they ask. He would have panicked and gone way over their heads.

ooh also, oddly, if I try to do DD's nails she screams the house down before I've even opened the scissors... for him she will sit peacably on his lap and watch Duggee while he does all 20 with no fuss. So he gets to do that

I don't do laundry. DH kept moaning about the way I did it, so now it's his job.

DH won’t do kids nails. He’s scared of hurting them. He is only allowed to cook three meals for me because I’m fussy.

I don’t hoover - that’s his chore. I do bathroomd instead. I refuse to clean the grill pan or get the meat off the chicken.

It’s fairly even in that we both have said ‘I hate this, please do it forever.’ Or things we can’t do - I can’t buy the right lightbulbs anymore (why?) and he seems genuinely unable to put a bin liner in.

I won't put the duvet cover on the duvet.
Hate it.
I have no sense of direction and I always get lost inside the duvet cover in a tangly mess. Plus dh is taller with longer arms so can do that shaking thing at the end more easily.

I do most of the diy, painting and all the housework that is non-routine, as dh never seems to realise this stuff needs doing. Atm I do way more around the house but I'm not working currently, this will change when I go back to full time work.

I don’t make myself drinks, coffee or g&t etc, if DH is in the house

Same .

DH can’t figure out how to tie a bobble in the DC’s hair. His fingers are too big I think!