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Neighbours child screaming every day.

32 replies

Belindabauer · 24/07/2018 07:33

Ok I might be over reacting but here goes.
Moved into a new house .
It's the best area I've ever lived in.
Downsized to be able to afford it .
It's a new build.
Nice private back garden, already fenced off with fencing with gaps in.
Everyone seems nice including the neighbours who aren't attached to us.
Now the issue.
They have a 3 year old an older child and 2 dogs.
Obviously the weather has been great and they go in the garden a lot.
For reasons only known to them their back garden is not child friendly.
The dad has spent every weekend and possibly day, we've been working so can't be sure, converting the garden I to something resembling garden of the year.
Think pond beautiful low level flowers, orna n mental features etc.
He spends literally hours doing this whilst supervising the 3 year old.
There seems very little for the 3 year old to do.
Of course he gets bored and when he gets annoyed, bored, told off starts screaming.
He screams every day.
I know this because when I come home from work I sit in my garden and he is outside screaming.
At the weekend I was woken up by him outside screaming and screaming.
Sometimes I come inside but I can still hear him and why should I not sit out in my own garden?
He then torments one of the dogs and they start barking and barking whilst he is screaming. The parents then shout at the dog/s to stop and speak to their child and tell him to stop.
It's becoming unbareable.
Between us my partner and I have 5 older dcs and I've never heard anything like it.
I think they should take him indoors and do something with him!
There is nothing for him to do outside other than spoil the fabulous garden his dad has created.
I don't mind noise, playing etc etc. But the daily screaming and dogs barking is getting me down.
I don't have a front garden to sit .
Another neighbours child sometimes screams but he is removed from the garden and parented!
Thanks for reading.
Also we have a very large private park within the estate so they could take him their for a run around/play.

OP posts:
dingdongadingding · 24/07/2018 08:00

It may be the case that you have to have a polite word with them about the level of noise being created.

I have a just turned 4 year old and there is no chance in hell he’d be screaming inside or outside the house unless something was wrong.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 24/07/2018 08:05

Whys your post name not about the dog?

FrauNeuer · 24/07/2018 08:07

Speak to them and ask that they are mindful of your concerns. You shouldn’t have to, op, but sadly too many people think that they can let their children make as much noise as humanly possible without any regard for others. It sounds like laziness to me - no excuses.

They are being unreasonable for monopolising the outdoor space and determining who can enjoy their garden.

Strongmummy · 24/07/2018 08:09

You obviously need to go and speak to them.

hannah1992 · 24/07/2018 08:09

I would love a beautiful garden but there’s time for that when my kids have grown up/left home. My garden currently consists of Patchy grass, a paddling pool, a swing set and trampoline. Lol. Oh and not forgetting the shed and numerous garden toys dotted around.

The child will be creaming because a. There’s nothing to do In the garden and b. Because dad is too busy converting the garden to entertain him.

I would have a word tbh.

My kids go out they’re 7 and 2 and they make noise BUT it’s not screaming it’s just children noise.

StoorieHoose · 24/07/2018 08:10

You have my sympathy. My NDN think it’s acceptable for their 2,4,7 and 11 year old to all scream and cry and fight and argue in their back garden while they close all the doors and windows and sit ar the front of the house. The closest they come to parenting is banging on the kitchen window to tell them to stop

The youngest one fell from their playhouse and lay in a crumpled heap screaming while the oldest one was shouting on one of them to come out for a good 5 minutes

Wankers

I’ve already had a run in with them where I was firmly told that they could do whatever they liked in their garden. So now I don’t stop the dog from barking when their kids throw balls etc over the fence and torment him and I light my BBQ whenever I like. It’s the small things that make me feel better

WhatAnAbsolutePenis · 24/07/2018 08:10

8368926 people see the title and log in to see if this is about them...

corythatwas · 24/07/2018 08:12

What kind of screaming are we talking about? Is it being noisy in play because nobody is teaching him consideration or is it meltdowns? If the latter, they may not be able to do much to stop him (though they could of course carry him indoors when it kicks off)

Mrsbadger77 · 24/07/2018 08:12

whatanabsolutepenis so funny. I did. Grin

Notmorewashing · 24/07/2018 08:13

^yes

sexnotgender · 24/07/2018 08:14

I feel your pain! I love the sound of kids playing, but screaming? Nope, off you fuck with that.

I’ve got 2 screamers visiting me and it’s like torture. Unfortunately the parents just gaze adoringly at them and woe betide anyone who interferes Angry

MotherforkingShirtballs · 24/07/2018 08:15

I was thinking the same coreythatwas, I was also thinking that the garden the OP described sounds very much like it could be a sensory garden - low level planting, water feature/sound, ornamental areas.

KindergartenKop · 24/07/2018 08:18

I don't have a dog or a new build. But otherwise it's about me.

BMW6 · 24/07/2018 08:46

That's a good point that it may be a sensory garden........

Invisimamma · 24/07/2018 08:52

My 3yr old screams, all the time, about anything. My neighbours must hate me. I just don’t know what to do about it. Anything I try he screams louder.

I opened this thread, read the bit about the garden and thought ‘thank fuck it’s not about me.’ We have a very child friendly garden Smile.

RainbowBriteRules · 24/07/2018 08:58

Exactly. Children scream, it’s what they do!

What Grin.

Fattymcfaterson · 24/07/2018 09:02

So what if it is a sensory garden?? Doesn't mean they can just let their kid scream in it all day

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 24/07/2018 09:15

some toddlers scream, sometimes its best ignore them as scolding can escalate the problem. You want total silence.....you go down to the private park! Honestly all the MN threads complaining about children daring to play or make noise in the middle of the day in summer....

sexnotgender · 24/07/2018 09:20

Screaming and normal child playing noise is different. There’s no need for a child to scream bloody murder morning noon and night.

MotherforkingShirtballs · 24/07/2018 09:32

So what if it is a sensory garden?? Doesn't mean they can just let their kid scream in it all day

It would imply that there might be other issues going on within the family such as SN. My 3yo used to scream almost constantly and there wasn't a great deal I could do about it. If it got too much indoors, I'd take him outside. If outside got too much, we'd go inside. It didn't affect the level of screaming one little bit but the change of scene helped me not go mad from it all.

Leesa65 · 24/07/2018 09:36

Onlyfools

WHY should the OP go to the local park ??

Perhaps the screamer should be taken to a park instead of upsetting the neighbours rights to enjoy their own garden.

I have a screamer a few gardens away, ear piercing screams. Its not on.

OP yanbu and only those whom obviously let THEIR little darlings constantly scream would defend it !

Leesa65 · 24/07/2018 09:37

I have four DCs and if they screamed they were brought in forthwith .

Still, guess consideration is a dying thing.

SneakyGremlins · 24/07/2018 09:39

Got a hose, OP?

I8toys · 24/07/2018 09:42

YANBU - that would drive me crazy too and I live next to a primary school. Just playing in the garden is different from constant screaming.

Cismyass · 24/07/2018 09:54

Air rifle, salt pellets, every time he screams take fire Grin He'll soon learn.