Neighbours child screaming every day.

[Belindabauer]

Ok I might be over reacting but here goes.
Moved into a new house .
It's the best area I've ever lived in.
Downsized to be able to afford it .
It's a new build.
Nice private back garden, already fenced off with fencing with gaps in.
Everyone seems nice including the neighbours who aren't attached to us.
Now the issue.
They have a 3 year old an older child and 2 dogs.
Obviously the weather has been great and they go in the garden a lot.
For reasons only known to them their back garden is not child friendly.
The dad has spent every weekend and possibly day, we've been working so can't be sure, converting the garden I to something resembling garden of the year.
Think pond beautiful low level flowers, orna n mental features etc.
He spends literally hours doing this whilst supervising the 3 year old.
There seems very little for the 3 year old to do.
Of course he gets bored and when he gets annoyed, bored, told off starts screaming.
He screams every day.
I know this because when I come home from work I sit in my garden and he is outside screaming.
At the weekend I was woken up by him outside screaming and screaming.
Sometimes I come inside but I can still hear him and why should I not sit out in my own garden?
He then torments one of the dogs and they start barking and barking whilst he is screaming. The parents then shout at the dog/s to stop and speak to their child and tell him to stop.
It's becoming unbareable.
Between us my partner and I have 5 older dcs and I've never heard anything like it.
I think they should take him indoors and do something with him!
There is nothing for him to do outside other than spoil the fabulous garden his dad has created.
I don't mind noise, playing etc etc. But the daily screaming and dogs barking is getting me down.
I don't have a front garden to sit .
Another neighbours child sometimes screams but he is removed from the garden and parented!
Thanks for reading.
Also we have a very large private park within the estate so they could take him their for a run around/play.

Yes, shoot a three year old child with salt pellets from an air rifle or turn the hose pipe on them. That's the rational response of a well balanced adult and it sure as fuck beats actually talking to your neighbours, eh?

OP, knock on them and say you've noticed a lot of screaming. They'll either tell you why he's screaming (e.g., SN or going through a difficult phase or likes to scream, etc) or they'll tell you to mind your own business. Realistically though it's happening outdoors during daylight hours so no matter how annoying you might find it, there isn't a great deal you can do about it.

Hi all
Thanks for your replies.
Just to answer a few points.
I don't think they have done it as a sensory garden, more like a nice , attractive adult garden.
There are lots of flowers and plants plus a pond but no toys.
I've heard the parents shouting at him for touching.
They do speak calmly to him so s typical scenario would be
Dad working in the garden.
Ben ( not his real name) pulls up some flowers.
Dad" Ben, stop picking the flowers. "
Ben carries on.
Dad " Ben I've told you to stop picking the flowers, "
Ben then pushes the dog.
Dad " Ben! For God's sake stop it! I've told you not to pull the flowers, now you are annoying Tilly ! "( the dog).
Ben starts screaming.
Dad " stop it Ben ! Look come and look at these paving flags im laying. "
Ben continues screaming and annoying the dog, the dog is now barking.
Eventually Ben stops screaming.
I've gone inside.
I come back out later.
Ben starts screaming over something else.
Dad tells him to stop whilst carrying on doing the garden.

I don't think the child has any sen as I've spoken to him and he seems a lovely boy . The dogs are nice too.
I don't mind normal noise, children squealing, having fun, people having fun etc.
There are lots of children here and I've brought my own up.

Without being too outing, we sit near the garden when inside too, due to the house lay out. Like I said I've downsized so don't have lots of rooms choose between.
We have the Windows open as it is not possible to have them closed during this hot weather.

The father sounds like a real twat. You should have a quiet word with them, probably the mother, the father seems too self degree to care.

Not sure of the solution but YANBU. My neighbour's child is a crier but they'll comfort him not just leave him without entertainment or parenting all day.

I don't think the child has any sen as I've spoken to him and he seems a lovely boy

I'm not going to look for offence where none was intended, I do however want to say that speaking to him and deeming him to be lovely doesn't mean there are no SN. Plenty of SN children are incredibly lovely and not all disabilities are immediately obvious, if it was as simple as having a conversation then diagnosis would be a far easier process

The dad sounds like he's at least trying to engage him, asking to stop picking the flowers and then trying to engage him in what he's doing by saying to come look at the paving slabs. My younger DS was an awful 3yo but he did like to join in and play "helper" so would have liked to do things such as looking at the slabs and helping lay them. As his speech and patience devsloped, so did his behaviour.

Are they quite new to the area too? With you saying it's a new build I wonder if they've been there long. If they've recently moved and there is lots to get done in the house/garden then he could be acting up due to his parents not being as available as they usually are coupled with being emotional unsettled because of the move. In which case, great, it means it's probably a phase and it'll hopefully pass very soon.

I still say that giving them a knock to talk about it is the best course of action. As hard as it is for you to hear the screaming, it'll be hard for them too.

Do your own screaming until they complain. Agree that neither of you will scream in future.