To ask what turns a man off?

[justpondering0]

I'm newly single and though won't be dating yet, I will be in the future but I was with my ex partner a long time so never had to date

Therefore AIBU to ask, in your experience, what has turned a man off? I know everyone is different but I'm curious to know. Is it something as superficial as your weight or something deeper than that.

Thanks ladies.

kids

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Responsibility.

Versa oh no I have 2!! Ha ha

Mention his mother or sister in the middle of dtd.

The prospect of any sort of commitment whatsoever.

1. Not everyone on here is a lady
2. Not all men are the same.
3. Women get turned off too, you know. Maybe some of the things that turn you off turn men off. Maybe a lot of men, maybe just some men; because, you know, point 2)

In my (limited) experience, make-up and perfume are off-putting for men.

I feel like over the years I’ve noticed that friends/ people I know who are desperate for a boyfriend do seem to have a hard time finding someone. I’ve also noticed people who are a bit mean - as in, call other people ugly, are judgemental about things people do, and make fun of other people - also have trouble finding boyfriends, and then they moan about it.

I went to an event with a friend of mine, and she is totally obsessed with finding a boyfriend. Lots of guys were there and chatty, but she kept on smirking and saying ‘why are you talking to these losers?’ Under her breath, which really made me realize that actually, it was pretty clear why she had trouble finding someone.

Be kind!

Lots of things and different things for different men. Focus on what turns you off and do your best to filter out the potential dates that fall short. Somebody out there will like you for who you are so focus on your needs rather than their wants.

Depends on the man.

All men are different but I know for my DH his biggest turn offs are:

1. Being very overweight/obese (especially if apple shaped rather than hourglass or pear shaped).

2. Armpit hair.

3. Heavy makeup, especially high coverage foundation which he says makes women look like they have plastic skin.

But I'm sure there are others who wouldn't mind the above.

Being told what to do, being asked about what’s going to happen, being cried on.

You’re surely looking at this from the wrong POV

What about what YOU want!

Different things for different men, some men may not go for a woman with kids, some will.
I would say the majority of men won't consider seriously dating a woman who gives too much too soon sexually. Yes this is double standards but it's the way I've found this in my own experience. And of course not all men will feel this way.
And most men I've been with have been turned on by confidence.

Men have an "off"?

More seriously, turn ON is you being comfortable in your skin no matter what shape, size; not just confidence but genuinely pleased to be yourself.

Most men I know are turned off by the same things as I am about men:

-Lack of personal hygiene and care
-Nastiness
-Being needy or clingy
-Being too full on
-Laziness or lack of ambition

THEsonof

Women dictating what they can and cant do.

I’ve got children and it has never put a man off @versaceshades ... not even once

Being needy or pushing for relationships to go too fast. Just be relaxed and yourself, they’ll either like you or they won’t but don’t be needy

I think you're asking yourself the wrong questions.
You are who you are and if something about you is a turn off for someone then that's not the right person for you anyway so who cares.
Concentrate on yourself, your own likes and dislikes, make yourself happy then the right person will be accepting of that. Fuck the rest of them.

Being constantly criticised and someone wanting to change them/fix them - I feel the same way.

Who cares?

You should have a partner who loves you for you, there is literally no need to worry about what turns men off because that turns into trying to change yourself and you don’t need to, trust me, you are perfect just as you are.

@Shitonthebloodything Ahh you’ve already said exactly that. Great minds

I think it's the same things as turns us off friends and turns women off men.

Demanding, needy, controlling, jealous,insecure, over or under emotional, that kind of thing.
Poor personal hygiene
Lack of grooming.
Too much grooming,
Vanity
Nastiness, rudeness.

It's all basically the same thing, if it turns you off, it likely turns them off.