To ask what turns a man off?

[justpondering0]

I'm newly single and though won't be dating yet, I will be in the future but I was with my ex partner a long time so never had to date

Therefore AIBU to ask, in your experience, what has turned a man off? I know everyone is different but I'm curious to know. Is it something as superficial as your weight or something deeper than that.

Thanks ladies.

Don't worry about it. Look for someone kind and be kind to yourself (and them obviously). If you start thinking of them as some sort of 'other' you're already on the way to gameplaying and all that bollocks. Just be who you are (hopefully not a wanker!) and if it turns them off, they're wrong for you anyway.

Yup have to agree with previous posters. Just be yourself is a cliche but it is accurate.
Focus on what you won't put up with and what turns you off and don't settle for it.
Far more important than trying to get inside some random blokes head in order to do the pick me dance

Oh and no one here is a "Lady"

1. Once you've had sex with them
2. Children
3. Having given birth and the body changes associated with that
4. Obesity
5. Not grooming
6. Dirty home
7. Commitment or responsibility
8. Any kind of speaking which could be construed as nagging
9. Expecting them to be faithful, what with them being sex gods and all

10. Having your own opinion and being able to stand up for what you believe in (rather than thick or submissive) 12. Independence, esp. Financial 13. Being more successful than them 14. Having more sexual partners than them 15. Not being into porn type sex and wanting anal all the time (see 3-post birth bodies particularly vaginas not being so tight)

How about what turns people off generally?
I'd say -lazy, rude, poor hygiene, disrespectful -that widely covers all bases.
If a person was turned off by something I chose to do, whether to my body, my life-then they aren't the person for me.
If that person tried to change me-well that is one huge turn off for me.
(And it's OK to have personal preferences to the type of person you're attracted to, shallow maybe, culturally defined perhaps, maybe even a bit of biology, but ok.) Just don't try to change people.

Are you planning to fake your personality and preferences so that more men might like you?

How long will you hide the true you?

Why can't you just be you and date loads until you find a compatible man who makes you happy?

Why can't you just be you and date loads until you find a compatible man who makes you happy
Others can't make you happy. First find what makes you happy, do it, then find someone you want to share life with! Happiness is sexy

Others can't make you happy. First find what makes you happy, do it, then find someone you want to share life with!

Totally agree with this ^^.

Enjoy your life, make friends, do things you like doing, you may or may not meet someone but the best lesson in life is to be happy with your own company.

And I would say the biggest turn off - in any person - is neediness.

I have a friend who’s single and has been for ages. She’s lovely, attractive, kind and I struggled to see why she was always being dumped. I discovered, after she started to confide in me that she’s very needy and comes across as desperate. If they don’t text her back within a few minutes she gets all panicky and starts asking them what’s up, all this after a few dates. I’ve tried to explain to her just to chill out and let it happen but she simply can’t help herself. I can we’ll see why they don’t hang around for very long