Men’s group chat

[Alicejade90]

My boyfriend has a group chat with a few other guys. I saw it yesterday (innocently trying to delete a grumpy message from me before he read it). He has sent pictures of other girls from their facebook pages to his mates saying how much he’d like to have sex with them etc. I found this very disrespectful to myself and to the other women. But he said this is just a normal “guy chat”. So what do people think? Do your other halves do this? Is this normal and Aibu to be annoyed??

It’s pathetic and creepy. Grow up Boys

Not normal, not acceptable. Objectifying woman and treating them as mere sex objects. Then trying to pass it off as okay. Yuck, yuck, yuck. So damaging on so many levels. If a partner of mine did this and after having it explained that women are actual real people too, was still unrepentant they'd be out on their ear.

My husband is in a group chat and there were some guys posting similar. Proper 'I'd like to bang this hoe' stuff. As the guys settled down / had kids they stopped doing it until it was just a couple of the guys. In the chat they were discussing the me too movement and how it had got them thinking about how men speak about women and they decided to stop it as they realised speaking like this at some level contributes to the general shit that women have to put up with. Just wanted to highlight that sometimes they can grow up and realise when they are being disrespectful! If my husband had been doing this and didn't listen when I explained how it made me feel, I wouldn't have been too impressed

Thank you, I like the objective point of view. And I’m hoping he will stop and realise now I’ve explained to him. He has apologised and said he understands what I’m saying and how it may look and make me feel. So I’m just hoping that it’s sincere

Have I missed a bit - who said that showing an interest in someone infers that they are a piece of meat?

People do not have to directly say things to reveal their assumptions.

Person A expresses a physical or sexual interest in Person B.

Person C responds by suggesting that A sees B as a piece of meat, or questions whether A sees B as fully human.

That makes it clear that C thinks one thing is synonymous with the other.

To be fair... I have watered down the words he used. And seeing them as a piece of meat would be correct. The things he said, I’d be angry even if he said them about me