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To ask if DH can buy the morning after pill for me?!

83 replies

Witsendmummy · 23/07/2018 00:08

Waiting for DHs vasectomy and using condoms. It slipped off. We have a 7 week old so I'm very fertile apparently. Such a stupid mistake but I need to known if DH can go for the morning after pill for me tomorrow or if I have to go myself. Does anyone know pleade

OP posts:
AgentJohnson · 23/07/2018 04:40

Oh dear God, if you’re old enough to be swapping bodily fluids with a man then you’re old enough to get the MAP yourself. I really don’t get the shame in ‘needing it’, who takes the MAP without needing to?

Tropicana123 · 23/07/2018 05:13

You can order it online to your door. That's what I did, from the co-op pharmacy

MidnightAura · 23/07/2018 06:15

I’ve used it once, went to Boots and they asked me a few minor questions and let me leave with it. No charge for it either.

Loraline · 23/07/2018 06:22

I got it from Boots last week. Asked a few questions, handed it over, off I went. No fuss or embarrassment. Got generic version rather than brand name and was about £15

MrsEmmm · 23/07/2018 06:28

I got it from Lloyd's online pharmacy and collected it at my local Sainsbury's, no one to actually speak to and answer questions face to face.
Honestly though if you have a tiny baby no one is going to think badly of you for getting it (not that they should anyway!) I warn you though, when I went to get mine they made a bit of noise about getting another pharmacist to physically fill the prescription and hand it over because the current one didn't support MAP due to religious reasons.

Highpeak · 23/07/2018 06:31

I had to get it when dd was 6 weeks. My GP wouldn't prescribe it. It was fine, just ask to speak to the pharmacist in private. If you're breastfeeding there is only one suitable type. I wasn't charged for it (Boots), they have some discretion. Don't stress, mishaps happen!

BertieBotts · 23/07/2018 06:32

Are you breastfeeding? Just in case you may want to read this (it's safe)

breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk/wp-content/dibm/emergency%20hormonal%20contraception%20and%20breastfeeding.pdf

Livinglavidal0ca · 23/07/2018 06:35

Do it on lloyds pharmacy online dr, your husband can then collect it.

Livinglavidal0ca · 23/07/2018 06:35

Also don’t be embarassed, I work for Lloyds and we give out about 10 Maps per week to all sorts of different people, no one even thinks twice about it!

strawberrisc · 23/07/2018 06:40

Why would you be ashamed?

Married woman has sex. Condom failed. If anything you’re being responsible.

kimber83 · 23/07/2018 06:43

What on earth is going on with the shame comment here?

Adults have sex. This is being responsible.

very odd!

speakout · 23/07/2018 06:44

Why can't you go OP?

JennyHolzersGhost · 23/07/2018 06:51

Big girl pants, OP. You’ve had two children, I think people will know that you’ve DTD sometimes in your life.

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 23/07/2018 06:51

My local sainsburys have a Lloyds pharmacy inside and they open at 7am so you could leave kids with dh and go now if he hasn't left already? If he had to be a few minutes late for work then so be it?

highlighta · 23/07/2018 07:03

I dont understand why you are embarrassed to go tbh.

I took one last week. I had to fill in a form to say I consented to having sex and date of last period etc etc. But I didnt have to take it in front of pharmacist. Why do you have to do that?

emma2939 · 23/07/2018 07:05

If u go on google and type nhs local pharmacy the NHS has a webpage where you type your postcode and it tells u chemists near you that are open now, could you go quick before dh goes work? I needed to get this the other week and found a chemist near me that opened at 8am on Sunday, I was in and out by 8.10 and didn't have take kids x

Imchlibob · 23/07/2018 07:13

Do not be ashamed of being an adult who has sex. It's fine.

Do not be ashamed of not wanting to conceive. You have a toddler and a 7week old. It would be very unusual for any woman to feel differently in those circumstances.

Do not be ashamed at having had a contraceptive accident. You were doing your best to take reasonable precautions.

You are only feeling ashamed because our whole society has a terrible and misogynistic attitude to sex. Don't validate it.

Your DH can go into work late and manage the kids for an hour before going to work so you can go to the pharmacy alone. He has to step up and take some of the inconvenience here - he will be a hell of a lot more inconvenienced if you can't get to a pharmacy on time.

InflagranteDelicto · 23/07/2018 07:19

There's no shame. As someone who has had to lead the conversation, you should get taken into the consultation room and we check that it's suitable for you, and that you understand what you are about to take. I have nothing but sympathy and respect for anyone in your situation, and certainly would not judge. But it does have to be you.

If you can get it prescribed by the online doctor he can collect, it'll get sent electronically to the branch you choose

Livruns · 23/07/2018 07:25

I have had to get it on 3 occasions in my life. The most recent, I also had to take it in front of the pharmacist. I guess regulations have changed. I found Boots spectacularly unhelpful, but Tesco are great.

jazzyfizzles · 23/07/2018 07:29

I got one at 8 weeks pp, they weren't judgemental at all, mistakes happen and condoms do fail! I was waiting for the coil and it happened the week before!
If you go in then you don't pay for it either, but you do take it there so dh wouldn't be able to collect it for you! X

AngryAttackKittens · 23/07/2018 07:30

You have to go. When I went to boots for it the pharmacist asked me if I was a prostitute or took part in orgies

Just boggling at this. What business is that of theirs, and what does it have to do with whether or not they give you the pill?

I hope you've got things sorted by now, OP!

NataliaOsipova · 23/07/2018 07:34

You can phone and get a prescription sent to a pharmacy, which your DH can then pick up. I've done it. Had to phone 111 as it was the weekend and answer 142 stupid questions; will be much easier if you ring your GP's surgery. Nothing at all to be embarrassed about, honestly.

Dancingbea · 23/07/2018 07:41

It should be available to buy straight off the shelf as it is in other countries. This palava is absurd, op's dh should just be able to pick it up for her, just like he can condoms and pregnancy tests without anyone assuming he is an abuser. There are no side effects or contraindications to progestogen emergency contraception*

Cheerbear23 · 23/07/2018 07:41

I also think you will need to be present to be prescribed it, there are questions you need to answer.
Just a word of warning, I was refused it by a male pharmacist on religious beliefs. I felt like shit and had to go somewhere else. Not sure how common that is though.

Dustychandeliers · 23/07/2018 07:50

Superdrug online can deliver it to you same day (dependent on where you live)

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