AIBU or is my mother?

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STBXH having DC for two (separate) weeks over summer holidays. First week I'm working. Second I've been invited (all expenses paid) to south of France, all inclusive budget no frills hotel, by a mate. Awesome.

Asked mother to be "emergency contact" for DC if anything happens whilst I'm abroad. She tells me that leaving the country on only the second full week STBXH is having the children since we split last Sept is irresponsible and that I should be holidaying in the UK. Thing is, we checked out the UK and unless we camp (and cook and clean which is what we do every day), we are going to spend far more money.

AIBU to think my mother is being way out of line here? I'm late thirties and currently I feel like a bloody teenager.

Would it be unreasonable to flee the country for a week abroad whilst the kids are with their dad?!

Just go. Ask a friend instead x

Bloody he'll Go, what is wrong with your family? France is an hours plane trip away

Your family are being completely unreasonable.

You deserve a break - go for it.

The days of mums being the nurturers andcdads being the providers are archaic and over. Dad can parent.

Thanks all. No back story. Just a very considerate friend who figured I could do with a break away from the crap that's gone on for years, in particular this last year.

Bizarrely whilst married, my family kept their distance and chose not to (see?) ask. I made my decision to stop investing in the marriage three years ago. Sadly since I got the balls to chuck him out last year, they want total involvement in my every move and it's suffocating.

Why do your family think you need treating like a teenager? Do they have any reason for thinking you’ll come to harm on this holiday? Is the friend you’re going with terribly disreptable?

It all sounds a bit odd. On one hand they’re tutting about you being irresponsible, on the other reminding you you’re a grown adult?!

Sheesh, you’d think your ‘expenses paid, no frills’ destination was a brothel, to make some quickie cash —it isn’t, is it?—

Well don't fall into the same trap just when you got your life back! Enjoy your break away, sounds like its well needed

Absolutely go to France.

Your a grown woman and you don't need anyones permission. You should tell your family to back off. Why do they think they can dictate to you??

You deserve this break and don't let anyone tell you differently.

Do it!

I go away with friends every year for a few days. Some people do make odd comments about us leaving our children (with their fathers!) I think they are just jealous to be honest.

@Skittlesandbeer thank you for making me laugh - no it certainly isn't!!!

Stop engaging with the disapproving family this minute! You don't have to explain or justify your plans to them.
Have a lovely holiday.