Would you be upset if your DH forgot your birthday?

[GrumpyOldHorsewoman]

Because I am, and I am annoyed at myself for getting upset. I wish I could just shrug it off, but it has made me feel unappreciated.

oh dear I am going to be controversial...

why on earth do you, a grown woman, expect someone to remember what day you were born? And reward you with presents and cakes etc?

[puts tin hat on]

We don't do birthdays, grew out of them in my teens or at the latest when I turned 18!

Yes I'd be very upset.

I didn't say I wanted cakes, parties and presents, just a simple 'Happy Birthday' would have sufficed. He is my DH after all, not some distant work colleague

Happy Birthday

YANBU - I'd be very upset and i would talk to him about it. Try and speak to him in a clam moment and let him know how unappreciated you feel and how hurt you are by his actions.

I would be upset. But I can't see how it could possibly happen. I mean, we plan birthdays. The bit about not telling him bacause that would 'defeat the object' sounds a bit like a test, and I really thing that if you start setting tests you are going to end up disappointed. Of course he should have remembered. It is shameful that he didn't, but you would probably have had a better day if you had reminded him.

I think it is customary among some people. I grew up in Britain too, and adults in my family didnt make a big fuss.
I wouldnt care either way myself.

Now, when it's my DH's birthday I am expected to provide nice gift, special meal (in or out) and notify the trade paper so it goes into their birthday greetings section. ANything less than that indicates an uncaring attitude on my part. This year, I organised a family dinner for him.....with his family in Ireland. I booked the flights, organised the meal at a hotel and had a cake made. PLUS he got a gift to unwrap from both me and the DDs. It was his fortieth, but that's the level to which I am expected to perform.

I require no such nonsense - just to remember it and wish me happy birthday.

bet he was hiding the fact that he has got you a truely amazing surprise planned.

you are being had, then!

"anything less than that indicates an uncaring attitude???"

GrumpyOldHorsewoman, I feel you need the classic MN advice here - definitely divorce him!!

in other words, HIBU

I would be upset, but would enjoy him making it up to me.

Mrs Weasley, think I saw a flying pig out of the window just then.......

He ain't got me nuffink - but then we never do birthday presents for me - they are a waste of time and money. I only wanted him to wish me happy birthday - it wasn't a test, I just thought he would remember on the day. I haven't been mentioning it because I didn't want anyone at work to know - they like to make a big fuss and I just find it embarassing. (DH and I work together)

We avoid this situation in our househo;d because we always remind each other, tbh I'm the one who always forgets the date so am the most likely to forget dh's birthday than the other way round.

nightynight!

(happy birthday!!!)

(i would be VERY pissed off if dh missed or forgot my birthday...)

yep - if i don't get at least a card i will go into a major strop!

Mine forgot my b'day once.

Never again though.

Yes, but then I would also be worried that he had some kind of short term memory loss problem as I look forward to it more now (almost) than when I was a child, so he gets lots of reminders.

I'm afraid his next birthday would be very definitely forgotten!

i would be peed off too. it's my birthday today too so happy birthday from a fellow gemini!