Not wanting kids dad to see them?

[Butterflykissess]

I dont want my kids dad seeing our children again. So many issues far too many to go into. But wibu to stop him? He hasnt seen them in 6 months and has only seen his baby daughter 3 times (now a year old.) He show up unnannounced a few days ago. I want NC and he would never take me to court.

To me an absent dad is better - emotionally & mentally - than one who picks & chooses when he sees his kids. I always said i would never be that mum watching her kid sit on the step waiting for dad, knowing in my heart he wasn't coming.

I'd give him an ultimatum. He steps up & commits or he fucks off. My DDs dad chose to fuck off

Ive given him all the ultimatums going. Its been going on about 3 years. He just contacts me like nothings happened. The last ultimatum I gave him was to set days and times he sees then but he refused to saying he shouldnt have to! He also got a weekend job then said he couldnt see them on the weekends because he works and he cant see them on weekdays as they are at school, so basically he cant see them at all .

You've given him chances, not ultimatums. You have to follow through with an ultimatum. He sticks to the agreement EVERY time or he buggars off. If you bend each time he won't take you seriously. I've seen what happens with kids whose dad dropped him when something else came up. It can have such a knock on effect to their self confidence & self worth