Nursery sending out photos to other parents

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My daughter had a sports day at nursery on the last day of term. At the event we were told no photographs allowed however one of the staff members was taking photos and videos. Later that day a message popped up on WhatsApp and it was the nursery sending numerous photos and a video of the event. These photos include close ups of my daughter. On the joining form I have already expressed that I do not want photographs to be shared on websites etc. Am I being unreasonable to find this wrong? I find it disturbing that all parents have been sent these photos and now have a copy of them. The paranoia in me thinks what if one of the parents is a peadophile unlikey of course but you never know. Thoughts?

I want to reply to some if these ignorant comments but have no energy. How can parwnts be so flippant about tbeir own childs safety. Any ine can be a threat. Your family, partners family, friends. Paedos. Take innocent photos of toddlers and Photoshop them. Thought this was common knowledge???

YANBU, OP. I've had to complain to DS's primary school numerous times when they've put picture of him (and one that featured ME too which really angered me) on their public Facebook page, the school website and in newsletters sent out to all parents. I have very specifically, multiple times, asked them not to do this, verbally, on the forms provided and by written letter. And they do it again nearly every bloody term.

It's not really about paedophiles - that's probably not the major concern here. The concern is that if they do have a child who cannot have their photos distributed (due to adoption, fostering, fleeing violence etc) they are showing very clearly that they won't be bothered to protect that child's welfare. It's a safeguarding issue. It shows they are not trustworthy as they don't follow your instructions!

Do you know for sure the pictures sent to other parents include those of your daughter?

They aren’t though, Roomba. They pictures have gone to a closed group of parents who already know who is in the group. No information is being sprea publically.
Fairies as it can be friends and family, why worry about a school WhatsApp group? I still don’t get why it’s a worry what a paedophile does with a picture as long as there is no physical risk to the actual child.

Cardi because for paedos seeing a picture will no longer be enough. They will want thr real thing. Are you really saying that you wouldn't mind a paedo using a picture of your dc? Some people arw weird imo

Surely anyone in the school group would have been there in person and seen the child with their own eyes?

Paedos can just as easily take photos of your child as get them from a parents WhatsApp group.

FairiesAndChocolate it's nice to hear a voice of a reason amongst all these comments!

Many of you have not read properly or misunderstood. I am not averse to photographs - I take photos of my children all the time. I receive photos of my child from nursery through observations. Happy with that as it is for my eyes or family only. Like I said at the event there was a staff member taking photos and I had no problem with that whatsoever since I assumed that the photos would remain in possession of the nursery and the relevant photos of my child would be sent to me. I am not happy with the photos being shared with strangers without my permission.

Yes the reasons for that may seem odd or far-fetched, but at the end of the day I am just doing whatever I can to protect my children from harm. Who is to say one of the parents will not post the photos on social media?

A paedo could take a photo of your child in the street or park surely?

Yes of course they could and there are obviously a million other scenarios were this could happen even without me even knowing. But if there was a strange man taking photos of my child in the park I would damn well make him stop. I wouldn't allow it to happen. The point is I am trying my best with what's in my control.

The point is that what you are trying to control is pointless. Having had the misfortune to come across a paedophile as a child and having escaped relatively unharmed entirely due to luck, I think that pointless hysteria just deflects from real dangers.

I find it disturbing that all parents have been sent these photos and now have a copy of them. The paranoia in me thinks what if one of the parents is a peadophile angry unlikey of course but you never know. Thoughts?

If you are this concerned abour paedophiles when other parents have access to a photo of your child, I hate to think what will you do if any of these parents even hints that your child call over on a playdate? Will you run screaming to the police station because they suggested access to the child herself?

In saying this, you are perfectly entitled to not have the photos shared.