She ate all my muffins

[Underworld345]

I know this is a petty problem but it’s really starting to annoy me.

My DS conveniently comes round my house around lunch time and drops hints she wants me to make her some lunch “oh, I’m starving!” Blah blah blah. That alone I think is cheeky as I wouldn’t go round hers and hint, I’d just pop to the shop and get myself something if she didn’t nicely offer which she rarely does!

She’s done this numerous times so my annoyance is a build up...

I gave in and said there’s some avocado that needs using up and you can have one of the breakfast muffins with it.

I pop out to run some errands and I come back and all the muffins are gone.

I’m annoyed because we just bought the pack yesterday and were looking forward to eating them! I offered her food when I didn’t really want to due to her coming round and expecting all the time.

AIBU to think it’s rude to be offered a little snack then eat the whole lot?

Sounds like you need to be clearer and more assertive. 'We're busy for a while, any time after 2:30 would be ok.'. Explicitly push it to a time when offering a drink and biscuit would be appropriate.

I think I remember seeing but not reading a thread asking what was the point of Rich Tea biscuits... this may be it. Keep some available for people who expect something but who are CFs.

Yes to the Rich Teas! (and to being more direct and more assertive).

'We'll have finished lunch by 1pm, so any time after that would be great, see you then.'

She asks to come over before coming? Your answer is so simple, stop hinting and start using your words. It's allowed you know! (Better than feeling a bit fed up underneath).

'Come after you've eaten lunch at 2pm. Just for a couple of hours mind, as I need to send you off after a while (/by 4pm), got things to do.'

Then stick to it. If she asks to come round for lunch, have an answer ready
'No, we are having a quiet lunch just us two' 'No, we only have enough for us' 'Eat at your own house first, I'll see you at 2' and have an answer ready for too for tea.

'Time to go DSis, lovely to see you, but I have things to get on with' (DSis: 'I'll help you..' Reply 'That's kind, but no, off you go')

It's very liberating saying No.
And to set time and boundaries when people visit. And telling people when it's time to go!

Stop hinting OP.
Time to tell her bluntly "stop using me for free lunches. Once in a while is fine and normal, every single day is taking the piss. Contribute a fair share by bringing lunch for us all every other day, come after lunch or don't bother coming at all."